Carpe Diem

[Ori83]

I think this section can benefit much from this video, WATCH IT!

[youtube:wo36wcur]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmkJdEQzzNo&feature=player_embedded#![/youtube:wo36wcur]

if your goal is to find a job, a gf or graduate collage you cant let hair loss stop you. (read my signature, you got to pick yourself up every day! i for once know!!)

ps, this guy is not gay, he is married to a beautiful wife ( i watched all his clips for over a year now)

 

[LooseItAll]

And what if hair loss is just the "icing on the cake" on top of your problems?

 

[uncomfortable man]

Alright, I listened to what he has to say which basically amounts to your average motivational speaker pep talk but like everything else you must consider the source...

"Hey guys, I know life is tough but look at me. I'm a handsome square jawed stylish alpha male with a trendy hairstyle, but I don't let that get in the way of me banging hot chicks."

Yeah, OK guy. Thanks for the advice. :roll:

 

[Ori83]

but I don't let that get in the way of me banging hot chicks

is that the only form of success you know?

 

[Cassin]

Good thread to sticky for a week.

 

[uncomfortable man]

but I don't let that get in the way of me banging hot chicks

is that the only form of success you know?

No but it is the most potent and most relevant reason. But just for arguments sake....

"But that doesn't get in the way of me making a good impression on prospective employers."

or

"But that doesn't get in the way of garnishing respect from my peers and general acceptance from society."

 

[Ori83]

you think nw1 will grant you those things?

 

[Ori83]

Good thread to sticky for a week.

ty Cassin!

 

[Cassin]

Good thread to sticky for a week.

ty Cassin!

No... thank you for pointing it out.

cheers!

 

[HairPieceMan]

it's true, in society you will never fit in if your bald, you will always be a second class citizen unless you really fit the cool bald stereotype.

you just look out of place socially, you kind of look socaily "broken" and everyone secretly hates your baldness, espcailly if your dress code is casual/i think have hair, even worse if your a bald guy with an iron maiden t shirt on (looks out of place and people think you think you have hair)

for reference i saw a bald guy with glassses, with an iron maiden t-shirt on, he looked totaly broken socailly, i dont know his age, 40s maybe?

the problem is having ZERO hair is an unatural act, we are "meant"to have hair like we are meant to have eyebrows or meant to have teeth( outside the practicality of having teeth), so baldness is odd and has ONLY ever fitted in in society recently through some VERY small stereotypes sucha as MASSIVE wrestler (steve autsin) or middle aged retireed hitman who is blowing things up (willis), its like 2 f*****g people thats it, or any other unrealistic people which makes the bald 25 year old accountant wearing jeans and t shirt simply fail to fit in socially.

i'd say baldness is the number 1 thing to avoid in life, you basically have no worth, almost no reason to exist.

but i think if you are at least 5 9, wear power suits, and drench your head in tan, have minor facial hair in lower chin and upper moustache, get earings, THEN you can be accepted somewhat, but its a tough battle, the hairs are everywhere!

 

[SheSawMyCombover]

it's true, in society you will never fit in if your bald, you will always be a second class citizen unless you really fit the cool bald stereotype.

you just look out of place socially, you kind of look socaily "broken" and everyone secretly hates your baldness, espcailly if your dress code is casual/i think have hair, even worse if your a bald guy with an iron maiden t shirt on (looks out of place and people think you think you have hair)

for reference i saw a bald guy with glassses, with an iron maiden t-shirt on, he looked totaly broken socailly, i dont know his age, 40s maybe?

the problem is having ZERO hair is an unatural act, we are "meant"to have hair like we are meant to have eyebrows or meant to have teeth( outside the practicality of having teeth), so baldness is odd and has ONLY ever fitted in in society recently through some VERY small stereotypes sucha as MASSIVE wrestler (steve autsin) or middle aged retireed hitman who is blowing things up (willis), its like 2 f****ing people thats it, or any other unrealistic people which makes the bald 25 year old accountant wearing jeans and t shirt simply fail to fit in socially.

i'd say baldness is the number 1 thing to avoid in life, you basically have no worth, almost no reason to exist.

but i think if you are at least 5 9, wear power suits, and drench your head in tan, have minor facial hair in lower chin and upper moustache, get earings, THEN you can be accepted somewhat, but its a tough battle, the hairs are everywhere!

Tbh given the choice of being a second class citizen or adopting the image you describe, I'd plump for second class citizen everyday of the week.

I don't know what's worse being drenched in fake tan, the moustache or the earings but all in all it's a f*****g ghastly image (imo).

Oh well looks like I've got second class citizenship to look forward to in a few years. :whistle:

Let's hope for the sake of us bald/balding guys that our Rosa Parks appears soon to get the Bald Rights movement up and running. A change is gonna come! :shakehead:

 

[Ori83]

you want to tell me that as a bald man ill never fit in??!?! look, i wont lie, being bald sucks big time, and it makes it harder with the chicks but its not 100% c*** block, and it wont effect your chances in getting a job or fitting in, these things have zero to do with hair loss.

again if what you guys think is true then you would never see bald men in prestigious jobs, with hot women, leading happy lives... grow up, its hard but not THAT hard... look i've been here (nw1) and there (nw4-5) and the only thing that it changes is the thing with women, but i dont need to shag (or can) every living hot chick i see in the street, i only need 1. good one! and ill find her, with or without hair... its only a matter of time... you guys keep telling yourself that your a loser, im sure it will make things much easier... (+less men to compete with... more pun for meh ;P)

 

[HairPieceMan]

im not talking about girls im talking about todays grooming/dress code/stereotype that matches an image.

baldness on the whole just doesnt work, you are confined to ONE grooming style.

and yes i have seen bald guy on the street with normal clothes and it DOES look wierd a lot of the time, like they are "meant" to have hair.

example

1. Identity:a business man
2. Dress code: a 3 piece suit
3. Grooming: A MOHAWK

DOESNT FIT, its like a square peg in a round hole

1. Identity:a rocker
2. Dress code: an iron maiden t-shirt
3. Grooming: BALD and looking pretty plain


DOESNT FIT, its like a square peg in a round hole again.

this is IMO the main problem with baldness

and yes rude does look cool, if i went bald again id walk aroud like rude from FF7, id rather be the cool bald guy than the social outcast!

 

[superfrankie]

I think this section can benefit much from this video, WATCH IT!

[youtube:1bofs8t3]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmkJdEQzzNo&feature=player_embedded#![/youtube:1bofs8t3]

if your goal is to find a job, a gf or graduate collage you cant let hair loss stop you. (read my signature, you got to pick yourself up every day! i for once know!!)

ps, this guy is not gay, he is married to a beautiful wife ( i watched all his clips for over a year now)

I gotta a feeling this guy and I have a different interpretation of a bad day :whistle:

I could have definately given that same bs pep when I was a norwood 1 banging hot chicks

haha, agree :hump:

 

[LooseItAll]

it's true, in society you will never fit in if your bald, you will always be a second class citizen unless you really fit the cool bald stereotype.

you just look out of place socially, you kind of look socaily "broken" and everyone secretly hates your baldness, espcailly if your dress code is casual/i think have hair, even worse if your a bald guy with an iron maiden t shirt on (looks out of place and people think you think you have hair)

for reference i saw a bald guy with glassses, with an iron maiden t-shirt on, he looked totaly broken socailly, i dont know his age, 40s maybe?

the problem is having ZERO hair is an unatural act, we are "meant"to have hair like we are meant to have eyebrows or meant to have teeth( outside the practicality of having teeth), so baldness is odd and has ONLY ever fitted in in society recently through some VERY small stereotypes sucha as MASSIVE wrestler (steve autsin) or middle aged retireed hitman who is blowing things up (willis), its like 2 f****ing people thats it, or any other unrealistic people which makes the bald 25 year old accountant wearing jeans and t shirt simply fail to fit in socially.

i'd say baldness is the number 1 thing to avoid in life, you basically have no worth, almost no reason to exist.

but i think if you are at least 5 9, wear power suits, and drench your head in tan, have minor facial hair in lower chin and upper moustache, get earings, THEN you can be accepted somewhat, but its a tough battle, the hairs are everywhere!

Haha you are really paranoid. unk:

Practically every subculture, workplace etc. etc. have a suitable equivalent of a bald man style.

If you are a rockman/metalhead you can always grow your beard out and/or grow the horseshoe and tie it in a bun or ponytail. You have a lot of freedom as a performer or member of those minorities.

You don't have to be a bald tough guy. There is always the bald intellectual type look. Bald politican look with grown out horseshoe, a fat and bald family man and many more.

All these are acceptable. When I was not balding I didn't even pay attention whether someone has hair or not.

im not talking about girls im talking about todays grooming/dress code/stereotype that matches an image.

Nope. You are bs yourself. YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT GIRLS. In any other aspect this is not a hinderance. Still even with girls you cen get along just fine without hair unless it is alopecia totalis/universalis(this is really unusual, not male pattern baldness).

i'd say baldness is the number 1 thing to avoid in life, you basically have no worth, almost no reason to exist.

Dude you really need to see a shrink

 

[uncomfortable man]

It's not just girls it's people in general. It's not just about sex it's about social aceptance. If the guy in that video went nw5 then he would be forced to be challenged by his own advice on a whole other level. Human beings are social creatures...we are hard-wired for the need to feel accepted. Ever hear the term no man is an island? The way that guy looks tells me that he has no worries socialy speaking. I'm sure where ever he goes he gets plenty of positive feedback and reinforcement. But as a bald man, the social mirror will reflect a different reaction to his image. We live in a image conscious society in which we are very much judged on our appearance. There is a negative stigma to being bald as there is for other issues but the point is we feel that prejudice directed at us, that negative reinforcement. Of course it is not absolute in that there are people who are indifferent but that does'nt exclude the persistent demographic that does notice and is critical of it. There is this palpable sense of vulnerability I feel whenever anyone visually responds to my baldness that is both humbling and enfuriating at the same time.

 

[HairPieceMan]

yes the social acceptance thing is the main problem.

the point im driving is NOT about girls.

since a very early time in mans history people have said how it sucks to be bald, and this was WAAAAAY before women were even considered selectors.

and now its even worse, for social acceptance, we are totally brain washed by the media, making it 100x harder now than it was way back then.

honestly when i was bald i thought it was really wierd, there are other bald guys but its just a plain retarded and socially out of place look, unless your a massive wrestler or you have a reason to be bald (like a monk, or a hitman who is big, or just very old like 65+and wear slippers with a checkerd shirt).

i just think its really wierd, holywood agrees and that is why all actors are in wigs except in 2 or 3 small cases for a stereotype hitman or even a villian guy.

it's liek if someone said bruce willis is bald in 12 monkeys, he is bald becuase he is a mental patient, he has a reason to be bald.

AGAIN, a social reason to be bald. mental patient, hitman, evil villian, monk, a guy from the future.

the SOCIAL message is clear, baldness makes NO sense unless you are bald FOR A SPECIFIC REASON.

 

[Ori83]

It's not just girls it's people in general. It's not just about sex it's about social aceptance. If the guy in that video went nw5 then he would be forced to be challenged by his own advice on a whole other level. Human beings are social creatures...we are hard-wired for the need to feel accepted. Ever hear the term no man is an island? The way that guy looks tells me that he has no worries socialy speaking. I'm sure where ever he goes he gets plenty of positive feedback and reinforcement. But as a bald man, the social mirror will reflect a different reaction to his image. We live in a image conscious society in which we are very much judged on our appearance. There is a negative stigma to being bald as there is for other issues but the point is we feel that prejudice directed at us, that negative reinforcement. Of course it is not absolute in that there are people who are indifferent but that does'nt exclude the persistent demographic that does notice and is critical of it. There is this palpable sense of vulnerability I feel whenever anyone visually responds to my baldness that is both humbling and enfuriating at the same time.

What do you want? people to praise you all day long how good you look??!? i dont get it, he has some f*** ups too, he has fucked nose and huge ears, and weird eyebrows, and some weird dot in his eye, and he is extreamly short and hairy. you have none of those.

i say it again, socially will first judge based on how you look, yes, that is if you are slumpy youll come across as lazy, if you didnt shaved youll come across in a different way, but being bald has nothing to do with those, if you are bald, short, fat, wears glasses, zero style then yes, society will judge you base on that, but if you are only bald? then what? who cares?! youll be less attractive in sexual terms, but remember before you were bald... did you went around and looked at bald people as "freaks" ? if you did, then you were fucked up, and well deserve of you own baldness! but i bet you didnt even noticed.
with girls its something else, it will hurt your chances, this i know... but again, society wont look at you as freak, you are not the only bald guy around.

i have guys and people commenting on my baldness (or nw4-5 before youll flame me for not being nw10), some even asked me, but no one treated me diffrently, and actually i send my picture to a girl i recently met online and she told me that she likes bald men (she is 23 yo, which is very young in my terms) again, it all breaks down how you look at things.
and you CHOSE to make the worst out of a worse situation...

 

[Ori83]

HPM, i dont even take half of what you say or think seriously anymore, i used to give you lot of credit for being a reasonable guy with normal agenda, your last few posts here only shows me that you are far from it, you have zero understanding of how women or society works in general.
i feel bad for your life experiences, you chose to hide behind walls of denial regarding your situation (ie you think your height and hair will cover for your lack of spine and confidence in social circles and with ladies ... you set yourself for a HUGE disappointment) . you lost all credibility in my eyes.
gl to you with whatever it is your doing to yourself.

 

[HairPieceMan]

thats diffferent, there is nothing socially wrong with a big nose, why do people compare baldness to something like having freckles or something?

anyway im not saying its a disaster, im saying THE MEDIA protrays baldness to be undesriable all the time, and makes you feel out of place for being bald (outside seniour citizenship)

think about it, 1000s of films every guy has full mames, only 2 or 3 actors bald playing a stupid unrealistc comic book like stereotype (hitman, knows kung fu, kills people, blows things up) and they are all middle aged, thus proving who you are is wrong.

go into any clothes shop and pick up a magazine, the magazine is basically saying"well you need to have hair to wear these clothes", i meanall the guys have hair, every single time, becuase of course bald men do not exist in teh media, unless they are a villian, alien,mental patient, or a stupidly unrealist c cool stereotype (middle aged hitman blowing things up)

the media is basically saying havng hair is a essential and is a prerequsist to social acceptance.

so EVERY movie, EVERY billboard adverstisement, EVERY clothes brochure are telling you you are MEANT to have hair.