Hope4hairRedux
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I am a 20yr old guy, and have had male pattern baldness since I was about 17 and a half. Like probably everyone on this site, it has been a b**ch for me. I am struggling with the concept that one day I may actually be bald. It terrifies me. I mean people say just accept it, but f***, how could anyone accept a pre-determined destiny of ugliness?
Most of the bald guys I see on the street, (I live in England) seem to look terrible bald. Its haunting. So many 40 and overs seem to have completely given up and let themselves go. I really shudder when I see them on the street; it reminds me of my impending and unavoidable doom. Another point I make is that Caucasian males seem to be the worst affected - both in terms of incidence and in the sense that it looks worse on a white man then it does on any other race( I am white myself by the way, and I reckon about 95% are on this site) It just goes to show how doomed the white male with baldness is. It just looks so unsightly. I see a lot of black guys who sport it really well. Its not really an issue for them at all ( well perhaps it is for some, I don't want to make assumptions, hairloss has the potential to be devastating for anyone) but in general it doesn't seem to have the same affect on them psychologically, probably as it doesn't really seem to affect their looks that much. The same goes for oriental dudes as well. They all seem to pull it of well.
Anyway.. I know there is a huge market for male pattern baldness sufferers for all these 'treatments', gels, sprays, pills, but we all know that these do nothing more than perhaps temporarily slow the inevitable hellish reality of baldness. If anything it feeds an ego fighting for something that cant be changed, which is really not beneficial.
So by looking at all the chaos and misery sufferers go through, the only way forward seems to be damage limitation. Stat to concentrate on yourself as a whole. Work out, tone your body, get fit. Get a tan, eat healthy. Have an absolutely impeccable dress sense/style. Work on confidence and mental areas. Many male pattern baldness sufferers seem to demote themselves to a 2nd,3rd perhaps 4th rank within the social pecking order. We need to perfect ourselves in other areas in order to stay at the top. I myself plan to leave the British Isles in a few years and go and live somewhere where there is a good climate all year round. I hope to maintain a good tan this way and generally feel better mentally. Im not planning to leave just in the sense of damage limitation, male pattern baldness wise but its another thing to consider.
I am slightly miserable today. I want to make a final point. People go on about acceptance etc. But come on lets get f*****g real. I'd say most bald guys are fucked. Perhaps like 2 out of 3. Only a certain few will pull it off. Its like being born ugly, hair or not, and saying when you get to a certain age, 'I know I'm ugly, but oh well, I can be confident and go for girls'. But the bottom line is this - if you want to go out with a decent looking girl, you need to be decent looking yourself. But since your ugly, how will you ever get the confidence to do that?
My point is, there is no such thing as 'inner' confidence. Confidence is only in relation to our external environment. Without validation from society, from individuals and from the normal values of the day and age, it is damn near impossible to be confident in yourself about your looks and your chances with woman etc. How many ugly people are popular and confident? Probably some, but overall, a tiny %. How many good looking people are popular and confident? Probably a large%.
That's the bottom line. I don't know whether this can be explained through evolutionary terms, through blaming society, whether it is biological, but exterior is everything. Without hair on our heads, we feel and become 2nd rate human beings. We are demoted and looked upon as lesser beings, our status and role in society changes.
What a beautiful world we live in..
But its OK - we can 'accept' this. Give me a break.
Most of the bald guys I see on the street, (I live in England) seem to look terrible bald. Its haunting. So many 40 and overs seem to have completely given up and let themselves go. I really shudder when I see them on the street; it reminds me of my impending and unavoidable doom. Another point I make is that Caucasian males seem to be the worst affected - both in terms of incidence and in the sense that it looks worse on a white man then it does on any other race( I am white myself by the way, and I reckon about 95% are on this site) It just goes to show how doomed the white male with baldness is. It just looks so unsightly. I see a lot of black guys who sport it really well. Its not really an issue for them at all ( well perhaps it is for some, I don't want to make assumptions, hairloss has the potential to be devastating for anyone) but in general it doesn't seem to have the same affect on them psychologically, probably as it doesn't really seem to affect their looks that much. The same goes for oriental dudes as well. They all seem to pull it of well.
Anyway.. I know there is a huge market for male pattern baldness sufferers for all these 'treatments', gels, sprays, pills, but we all know that these do nothing more than perhaps temporarily slow the inevitable hellish reality of baldness. If anything it feeds an ego fighting for something that cant be changed, which is really not beneficial.
So by looking at all the chaos and misery sufferers go through, the only way forward seems to be damage limitation. Stat to concentrate on yourself as a whole. Work out, tone your body, get fit. Get a tan, eat healthy. Have an absolutely impeccable dress sense/style. Work on confidence and mental areas. Many male pattern baldness sufferers seem to demote themselves to a 2nd,3rd perhaps 4th rank within the social pecking order. We need to perfect ourselves in other areas in order to stay at the top. I myself plan to leave the British Isles in a few years and go and live somewhere where there is a good climate all year round. I hope to maintain a good tan this way and generally feel better mentally. Im not planning to leave just in the sense of damage limitation, male pattern baldness wise but its another thing to consider.
I am slightly miserable today. I want to make a final point. People go on about acceptance etc. But come on lets get f*****g real. I'd say most bald guys are fucked. Perhaps like 2 out of 3. Only a certain few will pull it off. Its like being born ugly, hair or not, and saying when you get to a certain age, 'I know I'm ugly, but oh well, I can be confident and go for girls'. But the bottom line is this - if you want to go out with a decent looking girl, you need to be decent looking yourself. But since your ugly, how will you ever get the confidence to do that?
My point is, there is no such thing as 'inner' confidence. Confidence is only in relation to our external environment. Without validation from society, from individuals and from the normal values of the day and age, it is damn near impossible to be confident in yourself about your looks and your chances with woman etc. How many ugly people are popular and confident? Probably some, but overall, a tiny %. How many good looking people are popular and confident? Probably a large%.
That's the bottom line. I don't know whether this can be explained through evolutionary terms, through blaming society, whether it is biological, but exterior is everything. Without hair on our heads, we feel and become 2nd rate human beings. We are demoted and looked upon as lesser beings, our status and role in society changes.
What a beautiful world we live in..
But its OK - we can 'accept' this. Give me a break.