Mmm...This is pretty much the exact opposite of what i was meaning.
I'll just reply to the scenario you have presented.
the initial contact you describe, was someone displaying dominance over someone else, either obviously because they could or they get pleasure from doing so.
As soon as she chose to stop, in her minds eye, it was over.
by mentioning it again or trying to seek closure about what happened, you are essentially turning the tables and showing dominance towards her.
even going so far as pressuring her, putting her in a position where she may feel uncomfortable or causing her to lose face.
In this kind of situation you would need to assess who you are playing the game against first, and then use any breadcrumbs of behavior she feeds you to actively predict her probable outcomes before she makes them, you can only do this by letting her believe she is 100% in control of the situation.
So to summarize 007, your first mission to gather invaluable information from the Romanian subject in Room 2A has failed, your cover has been blown, time to make an exit.....
have you still got any of those cyanide caps left? or have you already used them all on next doors cat that was bothering you last week?