Hope4hairRedux
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I never thought at age 20 Id be such a suicidal mess. How the f*** did I ever reach this point?
Ive spent the last 9 days on holiday - trying to renew my perspective on life, trying to get out of this dark state that Im in. That dark state that gets worse and worse. But the really profound thing was that I didnt get to the bottom of my suffering on holiday. Sure - I relaxed a little. I was able to shift my attention, almost automatically as I was in a new place. And I kind of forgot about myself as a result. But even on holiday - by about the 3rd or 4rth day my depression and dark states started to shift back as my new enviroment became more normal.
But yeah, I didnt manage to actually realise or know why or what the actual basis of my suffering was. And the really profound thing was that as soon as I got back home, I opened my heart up to my mum.. I dont know what I would
do without her in some ways. She really tells it like it is. She knows me better then anyone.
Anyway, the root of the conversation was that I didnt enjoy college life. The 'conclusion' was that I admitted that I wanted a girlfriend - that I am essientally lonely.
And is that the root of it all? Well..Kind of..We all know what the f*****g root of this fuckery is. The root of all this is that we are going bald and ugly. And because I am going bald and ugly, both my confidence and self esteem
gets lower as does my actual root attractivness. This effect is lethal.
Its a sad situation really. we all have pyschological suffering in differing forms and degrees. But hairloss. I dont know, its just really in a different league for me. For a normal - can be confident - can be shy - in the middle
of the way type guy, hairloss can be a real deal breaker.
And Im really sure that its a major root cause of my low self esteem/low confidence( which may also have been affected by less girls actually approaching me, giving me positive comments, over all interest etc).
That low self esteem doesnt just equal less girl luck/relationship possibilty/reality etc, but it sucks for overall life.
Low self esteem = no girlfriend. No girlfriend = depression and loneliness.
Depression and loniless then further fuel low self esteem, and it circle is created.
More than a circle, but a soul destroying dark vortex sucking me into hell.
male pattern baldness has massively scarred me. Massively. Im sure of it now. If anything - this time away has showed me that. Before I felt like it was something I was getting used to or 'accepting'. But if anything, Ive only realized that its a
really big mental pain for me, and it was just that it was starting to become 'normal' for me. And that normal means being depressed on a day to day basis, suicidally depressed. It was just that because I lived my day to day life in such a zombie state that I had forgetten just how mentally toxic hair loss is to me. And its only since Ive come back, that Ive realized again just how much of an impact hairloss has been for me.
Im not asking to look like a model. I just dont want to look like a freak. I want my face to have some basic proportion. Receeding hairines look scruffy, unkempt, unhealthy, and generally, f*****g sh*t. God this sucks.
Although I didnt tell my mum about the hair loss itself as it being the problem of my low self esteem, she encouraged me a lot to try again with girls. She wants me to regain my confidence/self esteem in life, and she thinks that getting a girlfriend will help me with this. And to be honest, I have been trying. Maybe not hard enough. I dont know. Im not even sure if a girlfriend will cure me of being so suicidally depressed.
But I do think this; my depression comes from a deep sense of worthlessness and low self esteem - one of the root causes being my hairloss. If I can get a girlfriend, then maybe this well help. However, because im in such a
dark circle, I dont think any1 would be attracted to me looks wise or personality wise, and so the deep suffering continues.
f*** my life. Suicide is becoming an increasingly realistic option for me right now.
Ive spent the last 9 days on holiday - trying to renew my perspective on life, trying to get out of this dark state that Im in. That dark state that gets worse and worse. But the really profound thing was that I didnt get to the bottom of my suffering on holiday. Sure - I relaxed a little. I was able to shift my attention, almost automatically as I was in a new place. And I kind of forgot about myself as a result. But even on holiday - by about the 3rd or 4rth day my depression and dark states started to shift back as my new enviroment became more normal.
But yeah, I didnt manage to actually realise or know why or what the actual basis of my suffering was. And the really profound thing was that as soon as I got back home, I opened my heart up to my mum.. I dont know what I would
do without her in some ways. She really tells it like it is. She knows me better then anyone.
Anyway, the root of the conversation was that I didnt enjoy college life. The 'conclusion' was that I admitted that I wanted a girlfriend - that I am essientally lonely.
And is that the root of it all? Well..Kind of..We all know what the f*****g root of this fuckery is. The root of all this is that we are going bald and ugly. And because I am going bald and ugly, both my confidence and self esteem
gets lower as does my actual root attractivness. This effect is lethal.
Its a sad situation really. we all have pyschological suffering in differing forms and degrees. But hairloss. I dont know, its just really in a different league for me. For a normal - can be confident - can be shy - in the middle
of the way type guy, hairloss can be a real deal breaker.
And Im really sure that its a major root cause of my low self esteem/low confidence( which may also have been affected by less girls actually approaching me, giving me positive comments, over all interest etc).
That low self esteem doesnt just equal less girl luck/relationship possibilty/reality etc, but it sucks for overall life.
Low self esteem = no girlfriend. No girlfriend = depression and loneliness.
Depression and loniless then further fuel low self esteem, and it circle is created.
More than a circle, but a soul destroying dark vortex sucking me into hell.
male pattern baldness has massively scarred me. Massively. Im sure of it now. If anything - this time away has showed me that. Before I felt like it was something I was getting used to or 'accepting'. But if anything, Ive only realized that its a
really big mental pain for me, and it was just that it was starting to become 'normal' for me. And that normal means being depressed on a day to day basis, suicidally depressed. It was just that because I lived my day to day life in such a zombie state that I had forgetten just how mentally toxic hair loss is to me. And its only since Ive come back, that Ive realized again just how much of an impact hairloss has been for me.
Im not asking to look like a model. I just dont want to look like a freak. I want my face to have some basic proportion. Receeding hairines look scruffy, unkempt, unhealthy, and generally, f*****g sh*t. God this sucks.
Although I didnt tell my mum about the hair loss itself as it being the problem of my low self esteem, she encouraged me a lot to try again with girls. She wants me to regain my confidence/self esteem in life, and she thinks that getting a girlfriend will help me with this. And to be honest, I have been trying. Maybe not hard enough. I dont know. Im not even sure if a girlfriend will cure me of being so suicidally depressed.
But I do think this; my depression comes from a deep sense of worthlessness and low self esteem - one of the root causes being my hairloss. If I can get a girlfriend, then maybe this well help. However, because im in such a
dark circle, I dont think any1 would be attracted to me looks wise or personality wise, and so the deep suffering continues.
f*** my life. Suicide is becoming an increasingly realistic option for me right now.