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I know what you mean - when I was a teenager i learned quickly what the subtle glances meant. Women don't make eye contact with guys they don't like - they just don't. To them, making eye contact for longer than necessary is inviting a guy to approach, so when they are not interested their eye contact is minimal unless required (such as for work, and even then it is minimal).
You have to learn to read the cues - the subtle glances as they walk past and the microscopic changes to their smile as your eyes lock. Now some women are truly mysterious - on occasion, a few women whom i suspected had truly no interest in me ended up being quite interested - i simply did not read their behavior correctly.
There is a particular pattern of gaze that can indicate extreme interest/infatuation from a girl (and i suspect probably from men as well); if you find yourself talking to a girl and her eyes drift around your face while regularly reverting back to eye contact, she is basically inspecting you for flaws - if this goes on for a while, and especially if she is smiling, then it is basically a guarantee she is interested.
I'm quite fascinated by behavioral patterns - if you learn how to observe carefully you can get pretty close to reading someone's mind.
Just to flip the whole thing on it's head, an early experience of mine that turned into one of the more serious relationships of my life, was a girl who I kissed once (but we were both involved with other people), and for months after in our group of friends I was sure we were constantly exchanging a lot of eye contact, y'know even when other people are talking etc.
I thought it was at least very obvious I liked her, and I thought she was somewhat reciprocating this. But nope, it turns out she didn't even notice I liked her, that was a surprise, she thought it was just a kiss, and even though she liked me she said she wasn't at all trying to give that impression (and obviously I was sure she was).
This is more rare and outside of the typical sphere of what we know, but it shows how unpredictable people can be in their body language. This was practically all over the place both in representation and interpretation.
I propose we nominate @h.l. and @macaroni as official wordsmiths of the forum.
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