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Do phychiatrists/therapists work? Might need one.
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doubleindemnity
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I did back when I took photos indoors in dark lighting and modified the brightness/contrast a little to make my hair look better. I always had a buzzed head so it is just a question of getting the right lighting. Almost none of the dates went well. It always felt like, as soon as I greeted the person, they were underwhelmed. That was 2 years worth of trying to date. Then steadily my photos became less competitive but it was roughly more of the same. Got in better shape, got ahead in my career, learned cold approach, made one or two new friends... none of it helped. Then the pandemic slowed it all down. In the meantime I had been trying to get better photos but all had been getting bad scores on Photofeeler (I checked and I have tested over 150..!). I went for a photoshoot with a professional photographer and the photographer insisted that the photos would be like a night and day difference compared with my old. Well, using the photos, the results are either the same or worse. I had 0 matches the first few weeks. They might be working a little better now but it's nothing much and I know that it's harder than ever to turn a text agreement to go on a date into an actual date occurring. I think that the reason why the pro photos are failing is because they were taken outside in the daylight with no hat. So yeah, the 'ldar' guys are doing the right thing. Trying and failing repeatedly is not better than not trying.
It's a fair question but not an easy one. Maybe it has something to do with my childhood, upbringing and relationships with my parents.
It could truly be useful for you to further explore this. How was the relationship with your parents?
Therapy can help people who are ready to accept things. But the irony is that most problems are problems because they cant be accepted by humans. And the irony is that self help and therapy cant help until the person is ready to accept things. If baldness is unacceptable( because the mental pain it causes is too much), there is no way anything is going to help much. Finastride or depression.
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Do you happen to be a certified therapist?
No, are you one? Feels like you are offended by my post.is it?
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I figured
And I don't have enough money for it, it is really depressing... So I am thinking about getting a loan now, what do you think about it? There is a really cool online service on https://maybeloan.com/calculators/loan-payments-calculator which is pretty good and reliable, so I am sure that it will be ok. Let me know if you have some other tips and recommendations here, thanks!
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I don't have a job anymore but still can afford a decent hair system through my PIP benefits for ill health and my savings...
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Avoid discussing hair loss with female therapists at all costs. When I was NW1.5-2 and became overly paranoid, I was told by a female doctor "its a normal part of aging" and "there are attractive bald men like Bruce Willis". Believing this made me think I was wrongfully vain and downplayed the condition, making me procrastinate and delay treatment.
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