Do you ever cry?

[slowburn]

Ok let' face it most of us on these forums aren't really tough guys - if we had been we wouldn't be here. That said I have had some days when I have either just started laughing hysterically or sobbing a little upon seeing further progression of my hairloss - today was one of those days. I thought about it and the reason it actually brings tears to my eyes is because I realise that a part of me just died and I shall never see that part of me again. There is a new balder me standing in the mirror and that person will need to start living my life. Damn I really miss the old me!

Hey, I know it's not the most manly of things to do, but at least give me props for admitting it ;-)

Viper

My dad acts like I'm some sort of pussy because I obsess over how my head is starting to look and my overall appearance. I explain to him how much of a mind f*** this is not even being 30 and already appearing as though I'm 45. He says look at me I'm losing my hair, to which I respond...yeah but your fuckin 58, don't you see a difference? I feel like the old me is gone and now there is brand new more pissed off and aggressive me. I view the world a whole lot more differently now, a lot more pessimistically and don't take sh*t from anyone.

And yes, I too occasionally look in a mirror or think about the hair loss and let the emotion get to me for a second, shedding a tear. How can you not? One aspect about you that people see on a daily basis is changing your appearance and you can't do much to stop it. It's like being a caterpillar turning into a butterfly only no wings or hair.

 

[Fanjeera]

Lmao, my 35-38-year-old parents (my mother has some kind of diffusing on the top of her head and is very worried about it too) tell me, a 16-year-old boy, the same thing: Look at me -- I'm balding too!
That makes me especially mad.

 

[Nathaniel]

I agree with that, I fuckin hate when older family members tell me ''oh look at me I am balding and its not that important''. Losing it in your twenties (or even worse -teens) is waaaaaaay different than losing it in your 40's!!

 

[ali777]

Lmao, my 35-38-year-old parents (my mother has some kind of diffusing on the top of her head and is very worried about it too) tell me, a 16-year-old boy, the same thing: Look at me -- I'm balding too!
That makes me especially mad.

Man, you have young parents. I'm reaching your parents age group, and I'm not even considering getting married yet. I plan to have my first child around 35, that is assuming I am in a long term relationship.

 

[IBM]

how can a lonely guy have a kid?

 

[ali777]

how can a lonely guy have a kid?

I said assuming I am in a relationship. My problem at the moment is that I don't have time to socialise. If I had the time and money, I'm pretty sure I could find someone.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Not so much cry as always having a heavy feeling in my heart and it's not cholesterol.

 

[Need4Hair]

I didnt cry over my hairloss but it feels bad when you see yourself on the mirror and the babies hairs are going slowly! gone baby gone! and then you find some suckeee**rs they joking about your baldness and they have head full of hairs! its just unfair... life is biatchh
so why those damn doctors couldn't find a damn cure ?
after reading your posts I wished I studied medicine before.. or maybe I will start it. they go to moon, Mars ... and they stuck in a little follicles!!
HAIR is important in daily life, you HEAR me DOCSSSSSSSS!! do something ... damn

 

[Epiphany]

I didnt cry over my hairloss but it feels bad when you see yourself on the mirror and the babies hairs are going slowly! gone baby gone! and then you find some suckeee**rs they joking about your baldness and they have head full of hairs! its just unfair... life is biatchh
so why those damn doctors couldn't find a damn cure ?
after reading your posts I wished I studied medicine before.. or maybe I will start it. they go to moon, Mars ... and they stuck in a little follicles!!
HAIR is important in daily life, you HEAR me DOCSSSSSSSS!! do something ... damn

Hear hear. What the f*** is going on? It's 2008 for god sake!

 

[Smooth]

I have to admit here, just around age 21 (4 years ago) or so I first went to a doctor about my hair and he told me Ive got nothing to worry about (some doctor, right?!..) well deep inside I knew its only matter of time before the hair will start to fall, and remeber myself crying about it (when I was about NW0-1), I think it was just part of acceptence that someting you really love about yourself will go soon and there is nothign you can do to stop it, but that was just before I lost couple of my good unit friends which made me realize that tears are meant for things worth crying about and hairloss isnt one of them, tho its still annoys me, Ill never ever cry about the way I look even if ill turn Stephen Hawking some-sunny-day...

 

[ali777]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7540659.stm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7544985.stm

 

[Harie]

lol. Crying about losing some hair? OMG! Cry cause you're going to die. Cry when your dog dies. Cry when they need to amputate an arm or leg for some reason. Hell, cry over losing your middle finger (that would suck when driving ). But hair?! That's pathetic. You ever wonder if the reason most people in the "impact" section have shitty lives and no girlfriends is because they're pussies who feel sorry for themselves?

If your hair means that much to you that you're willing to cry about it, get a f*****g toupee or hair transplant. Otherwise, man the f*** up and deal. It is, after all, only hair and not essential for a good life. FFS - you don't want to go the toupee route? Shave it off and get a tan. Tan + bald looks bad *** now days.

 

[Hans Gruber]

lol. Crying about losing some hair? OMG! Cry cause you're going to die. Cry when your dog dies. Cry when they need to amputate an arm or leg for some reason. Hell, cry over losing your middle finger (that would suck when driving ). But hair?! That's pathetic. You ever wonder if the reason most people in the "impact" section have shitty lives and no girlfriends is because they're pussies who feel sorry for themselves?

If your hair means that much to you that you're willing to cry about it, get a f****ing toupee or hair transplant. Otherwise, man the f*** up and deal. It is, after all, only hair and not essential for a good life. FFS - you don't want to go the toupee route? Shave it off and get a tan. Tan + bald looks bad *** now days.

chill harie man,i know what youre saying but the thing is a lot of these guys who are so affected by it have deeper psychological problems,the trauma over hairloss is just a symptom of something else.

 

[ali777]

chill harie man,i know what youre saying but the thing is a lot of these guys who are so affected by it have deeper psychological problems,the trauma over hairloss is just a symptom of something else.

I agree with that.... I keep saying how I feel bad that my career didn't go as well as I hoped, the break up of my last relationship affected me, etc. I'm actually feeling much better now than I did two months ago. Hairloss is a realisation of the fact that I'm not 18 anymore. It's just a catalyser and I know that.

Besides, harie does spend a lot of time in this forum. He must have a few issues himself.

 

[Bald Dave]

I never cry. I find it very difficult to cry. I do get emotional but its been a good few years since I shed some tears. My dad is like that as well. I have never seen my dad cry even at his dad's funeral but thats not to say he doesn't get emotional.

 

[amsch]

lol. Crying about losing some hair? OMG! Cry cause you're going to die. Cry when your dog dies. Cry when they need to amputate an arm or leg for some reason. Hell, cry over losing your middle finger (that would suck when driving ). But hair?! That's pathetic. You ever wonder if the reason most people in the "impact" section have shitty lives and no girlfriends is because they're pussies who feel sorry for themselves?

If your hair means that much to you that you're willing to cry about it, get a f****ing toupee or hair transplant. Otherwise, man the f*** up and deal. It is, after all, only hair and not essential for a good life. FFS - you don't want to go the toupee route? Shave it off and get a tan. Tan + bald looks bad *** now days.

It's quite a difference when you start balding at the age of 18 than to just lose your hair by the end of 30.

 

[Nathaniel]

I didnt cry over my hairloss but it feels bad when you see yourself on the mirror and the babies hairs are going slowly! gone baby gone! and then you find some suckeee**rs they joking about your baldness and they have head full of hairs! its just unfair... life is biatchh
so why those damn doctors couldn't find a damn cure ?
after reading your posts I wished I studied medicine before.. or maybe I will start it. they go to moon, Mars ... and they stuck in a little follicles!!
HAIR is important in daily life, you HEAR me DOCSSSSSSSS!! do something ... damn

Yeah it's incredible how much technology is around and the billions spent developing plasma tvs, ipods, robots, aircraft, weapons - yet we still can't figure out hair loss. Common!

 

[kadosh]

they cant figure out hair loss or find a cure for cancer or aids .
and no one realy knows how the brain works .
human body is a mystery .

 

[Harie]

Besides, harie does spend a lot of time in this forum. He must have a few issues himself.

I have no issues related to hair loss or feeling sorry for myself. If I can't keep it, then I can't keep it. I'll just throw on a rug and be done with it. And considering I've got 1,000 posts in 2 years...I must not be on here too much. :agree:

I do have issues with my car however.

 

[mpindianapolis]

Cry...No. I find it hard to cry, and cant make myself physically do it, but I do think about things and get emotional when the need arises.

Im more depressed over my hair (or lack of it) more then anything, I think about it every day, am living a lie at the moment as im bound to my hat and have used concealers i.e. nanogen and hairspray to disguise the fact, im sure people have looked at my hair thinking if its real, but ive had no comments about it so far. Everytime I go out with my mates, I wear a hat or Nanogen, and I dont go out a lot as im so bloody depressed and I dont know what to do about it. Ive avoided going out tonight after looking at my bare crown and receding front hairline with so-visible scalp, and my mates are probably wondering why I havent shown up again tonight.

Age isnt on my side being 23, only just graduated and looking round seeing over 98% of my mates with a full head of hair and me trying to fight off an inevitable norwood 4 with a faint horseshoe outline, which has gone from a norwood 2 to norwood 4/5 in 1.5 years!!

Im taking the drastic step of upping my roots this year, taking a gap year out and heading abroad (over 10,000 miles away down under) out of my familiar surroundings, I expect to shave down to a 1" - 0.5" grade and keep it like that throughout the 6 month duration in aus/NZ and see if I can pull it off with the new people I meet and hopefully gain the confidence I desperately need, so im a reformed character when I arrive back.

At this stage in my life, IMCONFUSEDDOTCOM.

RANT OVER!