Do You Ever Feel Pity For Young Balding Men?

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

It goes with the saying ignorance is bliss. I think it's fair to say the vast majority of men are under the impression that once you start to bald, or go bald, you can't do anything about it. So in that perception most people seem to move on in life with happy, normal lives. Once you get exposed to the red-pilling of hair loss, such as these forums, there's almost no turning back it seems.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

terrific post m8 but do you really need to make a line spacing after every sentence

@WhitePolarBear definitely needs to have each sentence be its own paragraph.

It helps define his writing style.

It also gives him a distinctive identity on this forum, we can recognize his posts sometimes without seeing the username attached.

What would you rather him do, be generic?

Or even worse, be boring and long-winded, the way a Marxist might be?

Because there are only two ways.

Your suggestion reminds me of his Muslim cousin, who is very good at speaking endlessly thoroughly, but in truth he says nothing. It is better to be concise.

And if you're a NW2 and you believe that people actually want to listen to you be thorough, I have one word of advice:

Wait till you're bald.

;-)

 

[fixthis]

I work on a university campus, so I regularly see men who are 18-25 and balding. A lot of NW1, NW2, and NW3's. Some might not realize that they're balding yet, some are sporting embarrassing combovers.

I find myself feeling sorry for them. I know some things they might not know, like the fact that baldness will be socially harmful for them if they don't have a masculine bone structure, I know that they can get on treatments, and so on. But I say nothing. I know that to bring it up opens me up to ridicule, it opens them up to being offended, it's just really risky and not worth it.

I never got the whole thing about guys not realising that they're balding. I'm 22 and nw2.5/3 and I could tell I was balding when it first started in its very early stages (was 17/18) . I guess it depends if your diffusing or receding, but still most people will notice tiny thin strands of hair when they have a shower and that their hair doesn't frame their face exactly the way it used to before.

 

[shookwun]

I feel sorry, because there fate is pre-determined to be much more difficult as the years go by.

 

[Bklyn_23]

I always feel sympathy for those in less fortunate circumstances than me, and advanced balding would qualify, so yeah. Conversely, I feel quite a bit of anger - not directed at the person, just at the vagaries of life - when I see fullheads, especially in their 30's-40's. It's just so frustrating.

 

[fixthis]

30s-40s is nothing, try silver haired university professors in their 60s with a nw1 hairline and hair reaching down their shoulders...

A lot of my professors are bald/ severely balding.

 

[blackg]

The worst feeling is when your with a group of people (women and fullheads who arent norwood spotters) with your nw2 or nw3 and they start ripping on baldcels or guys with bad loss and you know your losing your hair too. On one hand your scared because your thinking that will be me their talking about soon, on the other your low key mad at ppl for being cruel and you want to stand up and curse em out but you gotta remain awkwardly oblivious. Shttt sucks..

Does this happen often, mate? Seriously... what type of people are you socialising with?

 

[blackg]

As I used to say, what do the normie fullheads expect?

To see balding men crying in the fetus position in public because they're losing their hair?

"I don't understand, they all seem to live happy, normal lives!"

Or the classic (that my girlfriend said the other day):

"I think you care way more about your hair than other people."

I don't even know what that's supposed to mean, that since people don't point their finger at me and laugh all the time, they don't care?

They still subconsciously treat me differently. Which was my response to her.

They don't care until the conversation gets a bit heated and then, here it comes:

"Oh what do you know anyway, you don't even have hair!" Or something along those lines.

Yep, I agree.

 

[Runninghair]

Does this happen often, mate? Seriously... what type of people are you socialising with?

Women tend to be at this alot.. especially in work. One recently said worst thing can happen men is being short and bald because they cant do a damn thing to change it lol

 

[JeanLucBB]

I work on a university campus, so I regularly see men who are 18-25 and balding. A lot of NW1, NW2, and NW3's. Some might not realize that they're balding yet, some are sporting embarrassing combovers.

I find myself feeling sorry for them. I know some things they might not know, like the fact that baldness will be socially harmful for them if they don't have a masculine bone structure, I know that they can get on treatments, and so on. But I say nothing. I know that to bring it up opens me up to ridicule, it opens them up to being offended, it's just really risky and not worth it.

I have a friend my age (23) who is NW4 but still treatable and when I met him in town while quite drunk the other day I asked him about it and recommended medication and hair transplants and he said he didn't mind and that he could just "wear hats".

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I have a friend my age (23) who is NW4 but still treatable and when I met him in town while quite drunk the other day I asked him about it and recommended medication and hair transplants and he said he didn't mind and that he could just "wear hats".

I'd rather be bald.

Two pathetic things that many men do:
1) They wear hats to compensate for baldness.
2) They grow neckbeards to compensate for double and triple chins.

I feel embarrassed just watching other men do it. Get a f*****g clue.

 

[JeanLucBB]

Does this happen often, mate? Seriously... what type of people are you socialising with?

This happens regularly with me honestly. Girls especially would mention how gross they are when a baldy walked past or something like that.

 

[JeanLucBB]

I'd rather be bald.

Two pathetic things that many men do:
1) They wear hats to compensate for baldness.
2) They grow neckbeards to compensate for double and triple chins.

I feel embarrassed just watching other men do it. Get a f*****g clue.

Totally agree. I wanted to say that to him and recommend transplant surgeons but had already gone a little far bringing it up to begin with.

 

[JeanLucBB]

I really don't understand that one, unless they try to grow it out and their greasy scalp is showing through their thin strands, how is a clean shaved or buzzed bald guy gross?

They're reaching and they must have a lot of resentment inside of them and they're taking it out on the world with those gratuitous comments.

The fact that it's behind their backs says a lot about their courage too. Narcissistic people who are probably projecting their worries and lose their sh*t if someone ever criticized their appearance.

Especially when it happens to younger guys I think most people assume that that they brought hairloss on themselves, and therefore deserve to be mocked. Honestly most people including a lot of doctors still seem consider hairloss in young guys the result of poor nutrition and health, something they are responsible for.

It does seem to be more and more prevalent in our culture to disregard someones entire being and treat them like a meme or source of amusement, and totally dehumanise them. I don't think people do it deliberately, but I think it makes it easier for them to deal with their own problems by placing themselves above others or laughing at them.

Usually this is with younger guys specifically who are high norwood but have grown it out a bit that they make comments, if the guys were older I don't think they'd see an issue with it.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Especially when it happens to younger guys I think most people assume that that they brought hairloss on themselves, and therefore deserve to be mocked. Honestly most people including a lot of doctors still seem consider hairloss in young guys the result of poor nutrition and health, something they are responsible for.

It does seem to be more and more prevalent in our culture to disregard someones entire being and treat them like a meme or source of amusement, and totally dehumanise them. I don't think people do it deliberately, but I think it makes it easier for them to deal with their own problems by placing themselves above others or laughing at them.

Usually this is with younger guys specifically who are high norwood but have grown it out a bit that they make comments, if the guys were older I don't think they'd see an issue with it.

We can't make fun of people for being Gay, Black, etc.

But we're still mean.

So that cruelty gets targeted elsewhere. The underlying problem has not been solved.

 

[IdealForehead]

Not really because they're usually still taller and better looking than me anyway.

 

[Roberto_72]

There is a mixture of feelings.

It happened the other day.
There were four university students. 20-22.
Three were normies.
One was a NW4-5 with grown "grampa" sides and back. A medium combover to try and cover the bald parts.

This is what I felt:

- pity. It looked so unfair that this guy was trying to hide the baldness as if he really could;
- anger at fate. He looked like a decent guy, he did not deserve disfigurement;
- anger at him. His combover was ridiculous. He should have shaved it; his grown out remaining hair was ridiculous;
- of course, I mirrored myself in him and re-watched my own fate before the hair transplant.

In the end, not a lot of sympathy because this balding guy reminded me of all I want to forget. I could not be friends with a balding young man.

 

[JeanLucBB]

There is a mixture of feelings.

It happened the other day.
There were four university students. 20-22.
Three were normies.
One was a NW4-5 with grown "grampa" sides and back. A medium combover to try and cover the bald parts.

This is what I felt:

- pity. It looked so unfair that this guy was trying to hide the baldness as if he really could;
- anger at fate. He looked like a decent guy, he did not deserve disfigurement;
- anger at him. His combover was ridiculous. He should have shaved it; his grown out remaining hair was ridiculous;
- of course, I mirrored myself in him and re-watched my own fate before the hair transplant.

In the end, not a lot of sympathy because this balding guy reminded me of all I want to forget. I could not be friends with a balding young man.

Admittedly this makes me realise that I feel some anger and disregard for young bald guys too, my initial thought is always that they should have been smart enough to get on treatment or get a transplant or hairpiece. If someone had a rotten tooth you'd think they would see a dentist, so why wouldn't someone balding at that age see a doctor for a finasteride prescription or save for a transplant. Obviously these options aren't applicable for everyone nor do they work for everyone, but I do understand the mentality of some who laugh or criticise young baldies to a degree thinking they brought it on themselves. If I was a female and I knew a guy let himself get to a NW4 at 22 I'd be looking elsewhere for someone more pragmatic that deals with their problems early on before waiting for the fuckup of a high norwood.

 

[BaldyBalderBald]

I've always wondered if people balding and saying they don't give a sh*t about hairloss really think that way deep down, this is a f*****g mystery to me, it seems my brain cannot process this thought
My guess is that it's some kind of proud to cope in front of others, but in the end, pain is the same

 

[Roberto_72]

If I was a female and I knew a guy let himself get to a NW4 at 22 I'd be looking elsewhere for someone more pragmatic that deals with their problems early on before waiting for the fuckup of a high norwood.

Me too.

However, not everyone knows that:
- finasteride does not work for everyone
- not everyone can afford a good transplant at 22.

Remember Bieber dissing PRINCE William for letting himself go bald.
If stopping baldness was so systematically easy, this forum would not exist.