@doubleindemnity will have a rude awakening

[Oknow]

So had a match on the dating app, she is not white, but from somewhere in the middle east.
I fancied my chances as an Indian, similar culture and what not.

We started chatting, initially not that interested but decided to make some effort.

She then asked me where I was originally from?

I told her, she then went silent (usually she would reply quickly). I then called her out on it, she started telling me how she thinks Muslim Indians are too strict, and she is more liberal. I then said to her, you know i've got that I drink on my profile, she then goes 'oh it is from experience', I then called her out on judging me based on my background. She goes onto unmatch me.

I don't look typically Indian, probably why she had a hard time figuring out where I am from until I told her, and still have a full set of hair, yet I experience sh*t like this. Even from people of a similar background.

@doubleindemnity thinks a rat nest on his head is going to save him.

God save you bro

 

[justinbieberscombover]

Getting ghosted is normal to me, maybe 80-90% of my matches certainly disappear

It's weird because there's never really a reason, sometimes I will upload a new pic on social media and girls whom I met on the app and already ghosted me suddenly 'like' the pic. So I'm like hmm okay she finds me attractive. But then I will message them again and still no response.

My match rate/consistency is much better than most men but even that doesn't help much lol

 

[Norwoody]

She has a bad attitude. Hey you didn't waste your money on her. That's a win!

 

[Feelsbadman]

women on dating app are trash and toixic.

 

[Oknow]

She has a bad attitude. Hey you didn't waste your money on her. That's a win!

was shocked to be honest

 

[justinbieberscombover]

was shocked to be honest

Nothing shocks me anymore, I expect all types of people to be on a dating app. At this point I get surprised if someone is "normal"

 

[spring15]

I have a harder time with tinder/bumble , badoo app works best for me as you can use voice messaging so I try woo them that way

A lot of people have racial preferences, I'm white but I pursue non-white women mostly

 

[Oknow]

When will guys learn? Stay away form those dating apps/sites.

Don’t think the problem is apps, she is just a horrible person. The thing was on the surface , she was well educated , good job - worked in medicine

if I met her in real life, she would have the same notions about my ethnicity

 

[Oknow]

I have a harder time with tinder/bumble , badoo app works best for me as you can use voice messaging so I try woo them that way

A lot of people have racial preferences, I'm white but I pursue non-white women mostly

It’s not even racial preferences, it’s prejudism. She obviously found me attractive and we were chatting for a bit, I was purely discriminated over my Indian heritage

if I looked the way I do but my heritage was not Indian she wouldn’t have been judgmental in that way

 

[Oknow]

Nothing shocks me anymore, I expect all types of people to be on a dating app. At this point I get surprised if someone is "normal"

loads of weirdos on them to be honest

 

[Oknow]

Getting ghosted is normal to me, maybe 80-90% of my matches certainly disappear

It's weird because there's never really a reason, sometimes I will upload a new pic on social media and girls whom I met on the app and already ghosted me suddenly 'like' the pic. So I'm like hmm okay she finds me attractive. But then I will message them again and still no response.

My match rate/consistency is much better than most men but even that doesn't help much lol

sounds normal

the worse ones are the ones who initially make an effort then ghost you

 

[justinbieberscombover]

sounds normal

the worse ones are the ones who initially make an effort then ghost you

Happens a lot

3 days ago some girl told me I have an amazing smile
4 days ago some girl told me I'm yummy

Both already gone

 

[Oknow]

Happens a lot

3 days ago some girl told me I have an amazing smile
4 days ago some girl told me I'm yummy

Both already gone

so frustrating when that happens

do you send a follow up text?

 

[justinbieberscombover]

so frustrating when that happens

do you send a follow up text?

Yeah, rarely works but worth a try anyway

 

[Wolf Pack]

If she was more invested into your looks she would overlook this, especially as you're liberal and of a similar culture which you mentioned. It is true I have heard Arabs say they dislike subcontinent muslims as they see them as more religious, often something like we gave them the religion and they are more crazy than us! They also are biased against very asian looks.

But girls have options online so they'll keep looking anyway for the better package. I remember you writing that you had major difficulties with girls in clubs when they would directly dismiss you, you've made yourself more appealing with styling (hair, clothes), body and confidence which has helped you attain success? But girls will aim higher on an app I get the feeling especially when looking for a relationship and they will narrow it down to raw looks before thinking ahead.

 

[Oknow]

If she was more invested into your looks she would overlook this, especially as you're liberal and of a similar culture which you mentioned. It is true I have heard Arabs say they dislike subcontinent muslims as they see them as more religious, often something like we gave them the religion and they are more crazy than us! They also are biased against very asian looks.

But girls have options online so they'll keep looking anyway for the better package. I remember you writing that you had major difficulties with girls in clubs when they would directly dismiss you, you've made yourself more appealing with styling (hair, clothes), body and confidence which has helped you attain success? But girls will aim higher on an app I get the feeling especially when looking for a relationship and they will narrow it down to raw looks before thinking ahead.

Disagree with this.
It’s not only about looks for Arabs, they are tribal people so care about what their community thinks of them based on who they date - in this case an Indian guy.

if you go to Dubai, south Asians are usually associated with the peasants building skyscrapers.

As for the point about dating apps being ineffective, I’ve had lots more success with them than I ever did going to bars/nightclubs, where I would be treated as invisible.

Had a couple of one night stands earlier this year.

 

[Wolf Pack]

Disagree with this.
It’s not only about looks for Arabs, they are tribal people so care about what their community thinks of them based on who they date - in this case an Indian guy.

if you go to Dubai, south Asians are usually associated with the peasants building skyscrapers.

As for the point about dating apps being ineffective, I’ve had lots more success with them than I ever did going to bars/nightclubs, where I would be treated as invisible.

I did they are biased against asian looks so that's where the community you mention comes in.

I would expect you to do better in apps over bars/clubs which are more superficial. But your best bet to try to find a nice attractive girl is probably not on the app (she won't be there as will be taken or may be anti-app) and the clubs will be full of very superficial ones, I think that's where mutual circles, hobbies or getting talking in the library/shops is a better bet and add on Insta. Define success? I think you said you slept with some girls but how many were girls of high value (looks, value their pussy, cool and educated)? I don't know what you're looking for but if it's something more long term, you probably won't find one on there unless you're willing to settle.

 

[Oknow]

I did they are biased against asian looks so that's where the community you mention comes in.

I would expect you to do better in apps over bars/clubs which are more superficial. But your best bet to try to find a nice attractive girl is probably not on the app (she won't be there as will be taken or may be anti-app) and the clubs will be full of very superficial ones, I think that's where mutual circles, hobbies or getting talking in the library/shops is a better bet and add on Insta. Define success? I think you said you slept with some girls but how many were girls of high value (looks, value their pussy, cool and educated)? I don't know what you're looking for but if it's something more long term, you probably won't find one on there unless you're willing to settle.

My ex GF, who I met from a dating app, was attractive, she had a PhD and good job.
Last two women I slept with this year, were both attractive in their own way, the first was mental granted, second was a decent girl, but I just wasn't feeling it. Put it this way, for either woman, not difficult for them to meet someone.

Did the hobbies route before online dating, it is not that easy, if your face doesn't fit or part of the clique, you won't get a look in. As I am getting older too, my circle of friends is decreasing, settling down, families.

Also there is no correlation between meeting someone in person and being high value, I know people who have and they ended up settling with very average looking women.

 

[Oknow]

I did they are biased against asian looks so that's where the community you mention comes in.

I would expect you to do better in apps over bars/clubs which are more superficial. But your best bet to try to find a nice attractive girl is probably not on the app (she won't be there as will be taken or may be anti-app) and the clubs will be full of very superficial ones, I think that's where mutual circles, hobbies or getting talking in the library/shops is a better bet and add on Insta. Define success? I think you said you slept with some girls but how many were girls of high value (looks, value their pussy, cool and educated)? I don't know what you're looking for but if it's something more long term, you probably won't find one on there unless you're willing to settle.

Not biased against asian looks- she saw my photos, but prejudice towards my heritage.

As I said, bet if I look the way I do but was not Indian, would be on a date with her right now.

 

[Wolf Pack]

My ex GF, who I met from a dating app, was attractive, she had a PhD and good job.
Last two women I slept with this year, were both attractive in their own way, the first was mental granted, second was a decent girl, but I just wasn't feeling it. Put it this way, for either woman, not difficult for them to meet someone.

Did the hobbies route before online dating, it is not that easy, if your face doesn't fit or part of the clique, you won't get a look in. As I am getting older too, my circle of friends is decreasing, settling down, families.

Also there is no correlation between meeting someone in person and being high value, I know people who have and they ended up settling with very average looking women.

Ex sounds great, sorry it didn't work out. Maybe you can get lucky again. Yes overall it's harder with age, good choices are harder to find and people have more baggage. Unless you get someone much younger, but that's harder and not always ideal for other reasons. I'm around your age and I think it would be okay for me still if I were single, I know I could pull a few around me, I would try to build for that even if you think it's now impossible, it isn't!