Feeling lost...(not completely hairloss related)

[Gilgamesh]

the most depressing part is when you've been in the abyss for so many years you begin to become accomodated to being unhappy [and resign yourself to it]

 

[Wezz]

same sh*t happens to me

 

[mark16v]

my dads like that, make sure you have friends around you and if you don't, find new friends.

I find doing things I enjoy, makes me happier. if you don't find out what you like, or what you're into, you won't be helping yourself. is about having fun, not being down and doing nothing. if you're occupied with something you like, and keeping busy it does a world of good

I broke up with my wife not long ago, went through a hard patch as I had to leave England for another country so I could get to raise my daughter, had way too much time on my hands after the little one was put to bed, so I turned to DVD movies !! gave me something to do, I get sucked into movies so it works out perfectly, just an example. find good things to do.

If things are bad do something about it, find out what you don't like and replace with things you do like. I know it's not always quite as simple.

 

[Petchsky]

the most depressing part is when you've been in the abyss for so many years you begin to become accomodated to being unhappy [and resign yourself to it]

Too true. It gets to the point that when you are happy you almost miss the unhappiness. It can become a crutch that you miss, like an old friend. Humans are complicated, but we are also simple. The world and our lives are full of paradoxes.

Remember not to take life to seriously. If when you die, your life is played back to you as a film, you will be annoyed that you got too consumed by one thing. hairloss, depression....you name it.

Don't become to self obessed that you stop noticing others around you, otherwise you will be left in the world that you have created. Never mind how much you may hate people, like i often and sometimes do, you are nothing without them.

p.s Tongue my balls

 

[20sometingtoo]

Remember not to take life to seriously. If when you die, your life is played back to you as a film, you will be annoyed that you got too consumed by one thing. hairloss, depression....you name it.

I think this idea is at the very core of living a happy life. Don't EVER take life too seriously. Seriously, don't.

 

[20sometingtoo]

Just thought of an even better analogy for how I felt and how you guys may be feeling now.

It's like you went to the greatest party in the world. Your family was there, your best friends were there, everyone was having the time of their lives. But.... You had to leave early. Everyone continued on without you, unaware that you had even left.

thanks for that bit of info

would you mind me asking you where you are in the nowrood scale, and how long you been using hair for, and have you noticed improvements on your regime ?
i am also using the lasercomb, finasteride 1.25mg and revivogen.

thanks alot

I've a diffuse thinner since 19. No pattern whatsoever. I'm still doing alright. Maybe a NW1.5. But, my scalp shows everwhere, sides, back, top, etc.

 

[20sometingtoo]

Oh, and to any of you who are feeling down... Avoid sad music, movies, books, etc.
Particularly sad music.

I've noticed that most people, myself included, like to "self-indulge" their emotions. Why do couples listen to break-up songs about how terrible they feel when they've just broken up and feel terrible? If you scraped your knee would you pour salt on it?
Its a natural response, but like someone else here said, it leads to a dangerous "comfortable in sorrow" state.
Avoid these things like the plague. You'll be happy (pun intended) that you did.

 

[The Gardener]

I am not sure how old you are or what kind of resources you have, but whenever I feel a bit down, I always enjoy traveling. And, not just to a nearby city, but somewhere that is different than my usual surroundings. Preferrably somewhere that is either naturally beautiful, or perhaps somewhere overseas with a different culture, or perhaps a destination that entails physical activity, such as a ski trip in the mountains. And, I really try to get at least a week in, not just a long weekend.

After a great vacation, I always seem to return with a new outlook on things, energy, and a nice natural buzz.

I think foreign trips are awesome, when you have the $$$ to swing them, because it always makes me re-examine my perspectives on things, and on my life.

 

[amrod]

just gonna bump this thread i think people should give it a look

 

[Floyd]

I just want to thank everyone who posted for their honesty and bravery. This is why we need sites like this. We all need each other. At last, no stupid remarks or dumb put-downs -- just simple, honest support. I feel like all of you -- and you've all said some things that are nothing short of amazing. I wish you all the best of luck and I hope that we can all look back on this one day and laugh together.

 

[Guest]

Find the thing you want the most in the world, set a date for when you want to have accomplished/acquired it, and then get to work. It helps if this is an occupation, degree, change in life style, as opposed to a woman. Women usually come when you're focused on doing what it is you love to do, not when you're focused exclusively on them. Before you started losing your hair, you didn't wake up every day and think, "What I really want more than anything in life is to continue my non-bald lifestyle." Try to pretend, for at least a portion of each day, that hairloss is a non-issue, and that everything that's not relevant to your objective is just kind of a silly distraction. Once you've gotten involved in fighting for what you want, you realize how many people are drowsily letting their own dreams flit past them.