Going to a barber as a diffuse thinner makes me feel like a subhuman

[Norwood]

I actually haven't gone to a barber in 5 years. Ever since my diffuse thinning started around that time, I have been too self conscious to go to a barber. I just hate the thought of someone else staring into my subhuman scalp, and I don't want to hear the barber make comments (e.g. "your hair is kind of thin so I'm going to leave a little extra at the top). It just makes me feel so subhuman to have a hairdresser, possibly a hot female hairdresser, look at and acknowledge my balding scalp. I'm 23, by the way.

 

[DannyBoyy]

They wont care, they seen it all there, sure they can tell, but they wont think anything of it, hair or no hair you be forgotten by the end of the day.

 

[Kidbako]

Yea just know you won't get a boob rubbed on you arm or flirty chat...just snip snip...

 

[blackg]

I dread the hair dressers too. And when she's a hot Italian girl I sometimes get an erection under that gown thing they make ya wear.

A balding man with an erection would surely make her ring the police if she pulled that gown off me too soon.

 

[doyle11]

It's fine until they get the mirror which shows my huge bald spot.

 

[Emu]

I was the same diffuse thinning all over and you have to sit there and stare at it in the mirror,then they spray water on your hair which makes it look even worse.

I ended up getting my mum to cut my hair for years and then I buzz cut it myself and these days I get my girlfriend to cut it.to many bad memories when I walk into a barbers shop.

 

[shookwun]

Diffuse thinning all over is the worst unless your content with a close crop buzz. Always a bad hair day otherwise... well that's how blue pill see it

 

[Notcoolanymore]

I thought I looked at least half way decent even though my hair is diffuse. Thanks for letting me know that I look like ****. I always enjoy the full heads telling me that if I appear to have any hair loss, that it is time to break out the razor.

 

[Wolf Pack]

I dread the hair dressers too. And when she's a hot Italian girl I sometimes get an erection under that gown thing they make ya wear.

A balding man with an erection would surely make her ring the police if she pulled that gown off me to soon.

:laugh:


My barbers have all been male, I tend to go to old school street looking places. They tend to do a better job. Female barbers take ages and overall I would say it's not as good.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

There is a barber shop out here where all of the barbers are women and they wear nothing but lingerie. I think boners are accepted/expected at this place though.

 

[Captain Hook]

Funny you mention that. Back when I lived in Canada a friend of mine told me about a haircut with a "happy ending" service that was advertised on a site where escorts advertise (backpage), it looked pretty legit and he said it wasn't bad when he went, the woman had went to hairdressing school and everything she just wanted to make a little extra money on the side, figured it would be better than working in a salon, she offered this service in the comfort of her apartment.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

I never went to the place, but my friend did. I think the place was legit though. Basically a hair cut and eye candy as far as I know...

 

[DoctorHouse]

I actually haven't gone to a barber in 5 years. Ever since my diffuse thinning started around that time, I have been too self conscious to go to a barber. I just hate the thought of someone else staring into my subhuman scalp, and I don't want to hear the barber make comments (e.g. "your hair is kind of thin so I'm going to leave a little extra at the top). It just makes me feel so subhuman to have a hairdresser, possibly a hot female hairdresser, look at and acknowledge my balding scalp. I'm 23, by the way.

My last two hair stylists have been gay and we talk about hair, hair transplants, hair systems and balding all the time. I always ask if I am going bald and they do confirm I have less hair than I used to and that they don't think I am going to be bald but lose more density and be a diffuse thinner. And let me tell you, I know this is stereotypical, but gay men really know how to cut, color, and style hair for both men and women.

 

[I.D WALKER]

A bit off track from OP theme (sorry for that),
When prompted I found on average that the salon hairdressers I've patronized in the distant past will profess they don't have a clue about male pattern baldness related hair loss.
Others (I suspect) will even pretend they know little to nothing about male pattern baldness/Big 3, and maybe the more sales saavy minded one's will top you off by breaking out in a song and dance that flaunts the wondrous virtues of an exotic sounding product like nioxin..,etc..

I've been handling my hair independently for several years (me and my trusted Remington) so I don't know if this experience is so evident anymore. You can either suck it up or laugh at the residual ill effects perpetrated by the long arm of consumerism and/or the fathomless depths of ignorance overall. What more can a bald guy do?

 

[Exodus2011]

My last hair cut by a barber was 6 years ago. And it will probably be the last one ever.

yep. one of those definite nostalgia things that i suddenly remember when i see a barber

feels so long ago lol, seems so strange that i used to go to a barber's

 

[Notcoolanymore]

I can't remember the last time I paid for a haircut. Been cutting my own for years now.

 

[Wolf Pack]

My last two hair stylists have been gay and we talk about hair, hair transplants, hair systems and balding all the time. I always ask if I am going bald and they do confirm I have less hair than I used to and that they don't think I am going to be bald but lose more density and be a diffuse thinner. And let me tell you, I know this is stereotypical, but gay men really know how to cut, color, and style hair for both men and women.

I did once go to a gay stylist, it was unintentional. I didn't like it. He made a big fuss, charged more, end product was the same. Also talked a lot about my hair and said he offers a more personal service compared to barbers. I find him annoying, each to their own.

I prefer going with my friends to old school barbers. We often go together before a big night out for example, it's rarer now since we are past university. But we still do. Fresh cut, talk sport and life in general with the barbers. These guys definitely give a better youthful fade to me, so it depends on what you're after. They are also good at noticing early signs of hair loss like the stylist you describe.

We're all in our late 20's early 30s and the barber has noticed some hair loss in a couple of us. Told us to start treating it asap or have transplants instead when the time comes. I think a lot of people with typical male pattern baldness/low Norwood destination can actually get by with just transplants. He gave me a few examples of people he sees. I like to stay on finasteride too though just in case.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

I did once go to a gay stylist, it was unintentional. I didn't like it. He made a big fuss, charged more, end product was the same. Also talked a lot about my hair and said he offers a more personal service compared to barbers.

When he said that did he look at you like this?

 

[shookwun]

Spend about 60 a month at the barber. Twice a month.

25 + 5.00 tip

 

[DPAMan]

Feeling your pain, OP. My barber is the loud no-filter type, and every time I go I fear he's gonna say something about my thinning, especially as it gets worse. He's also almost 50 and a NW1, so no chance of empathizing either, but so far, not a word. Maybe I'm not giving him enough credit.