Hairloss and attracting women

[Friendofyou]

"Lastly, and perhaps controversially, if you have any glaring defects (especially in the face) get them fixed by a plastic surgeon."

oh man, get a brain...sigh

 

[Shave my poodle]

Bullshit.

There are bald guys getting laid by hot women all over the world.

What is their secret? They FORGET the fact that they are bald, and just go about living their lives in the most kick-*** way they know how. Sure, we have a little to compensate for, but if you have your crap together, have a good job, are in decent to good physical shape and can make a girl laugh, you have a great chance of sweeping a girl off of her feet.

If you go through life with this "I can't go up to her because my hair is thinning... I can dance and attract attention because my hair is thinning, I don't want to start a conversation with her because she won't be interested because I am receeding, I have no chance with her because my hair is receeding" mentality, then you won't get jack $#iT, and frankly, there are guys with perfect hair that have the same attitude and THEY don't get jack $#iT either!

Be in the moment. Don't shy away from competitiveness, in fact, GET competitive! Take care of your nutrition, make your attack on hairloss a full scale frontal assault on your personal health in general, and get over your self-consciousness! Be bold and not give a f***.

Women will respond to you based on the cues that you give them. If you approach them with the mentality that you have a damaged self-worth because of your hairloss, then they will sniff that out of you and treat you accordingly. If you approach them like you are kickass, not arrogant, but confidently kickass, then they will be intrigued. Be yourself, but not just that, be the BEST, most KICKASS yourself that you know you are. If you can honestly do that, women will notice.

This is MORE that just talking or acting a good game. It is about playing a good game. Getting your life in order. Getting healthy and nutritious. Being secure in your job. Being satisfied with what you have accomplished.

Make your hairloss a rallying cry to you to change your life. Stop playing small. Get into the game, and FIGHT for yourself.

Women have a nose for men with attitudes like this, and it excites them more than anything.

Great post. You guys need to read this till your eyes starting bleeding because its THE only way you'll ever really defeat hairloss.

 

[SE-freak]

Treating women poorly does not make them hot for you. If you honestly believe that you need to seek out some psychiatric help my friend.

If you see a woman with a guy who treats her like sh*t, it isnt the fact that he is treating her like sh*t that "attracts" her to him (unless of course she has some serious psychological issue). You seem like an otherwise smart guy SE-freak... Dig a little deeper bud. Just because relationships exist where a women is being mistreated ("a") and she is staying with the guy ("b") doesnt always mean "a" = "b".


If you believe your assertion I suggest you go to your local singles bar, exhibit no redeeming qualities (look as ugly and unkept as possible with clothes that preferable are dirty and have holes in them), and act like the biggest a**h** you can possible mimic to each and every woman you hit on. Just make sure to wear some sort of protective device over your balls :wink:

No I am not smart-really.

Anyway, I believe we are talking about two entirely different things. I never talked about punching them, or being dressed like a bum(ok my original paraphrase was to make an impression). I am talking about not being a wussbag.

You sound like a cowboy, I sound like a Harley man.

These are the years of the "Harley". :eplus2:

 

[mogadon]

the saying "nice guys finish last " is somewhat true, of course balance is the key, but women dont always like men who always agree with them, that always open doors for them, they like men to be 'men'

this doesnt mean of cause be rude and obnoxious.

 

[Britannia]

I agree with SE Freak. Being overly nice and an *** kisser towards a woman is a very unattractive thing to do. He didnt mean you should treat them like sh*t, but being too nice is just not a good idea.
Im sorry but Im going to have to say this; being rich and owning a lot of status symbols (i.e. smart cars, expensive clothes etc) is most likely to get you laid. Not because all girls are gold diggers, it simply because a guy who wealthy and has status instantly becomes different and interesting and is seen to have all the positive qualities women look for - interesting, successful, stylish etc.

 

[bluntman]

Bullshit.

There are bald guys getting laid by hot women all over the world.

What is their secret? They FORGET the fact that they are bald, and just go about living their lives in the most kick-*** way they know how. Sure, we have a little to compensate for, but if you have your crap together, have a good job, are in decent to good physical shape and can make a girl laugh, you have a great chance of sweeping a girl off of her feet.

If you go through life with this "I can't go up to her because my hair is thinning... I can dance and attract attention because my hair is thinning, I don't want to start a conversation with her because she won't be interested because I am receeding, I have no chance with her because my hair is receeding" mentality, then you won't get jack $#iT, and frankly, there are guys with perfect hair that have the same attitude and THEY don't get jack $#iT either!

Be in the moment. Don't shy away from competitiveness, in fact, GET competitive! Take care of your nutrition, make your attack on hairloss a full scale frontal assault on your personal health in general, and get over your self-consciousness! Be bold and not give a f***.

Women will respond to you based on the cues that you give them. If you approach them with the mentality that you have a damaged self-worth because of your hairloss, then they will sniff that out of you and treat you accordingly. If you approach them like you are kickass, not arrogant, but confidently kickass, then they will be intrigued. Be yourself, but not just that, be the BEST, most KICKASS yourself that you know you are. If you can honestly do that, women will notice.

This is MORE that just talking or acting a good game. It is about playing a good game. Getting your life in order. Getting healthy and nutritious. Being secure in your job. Being satisfied with what you have accomplished.

Make your hairloss a rallying cry to you to change your life. Stop playing small. Get into the game, and FIGHT for yourself.

Women have a nose for men with attitudes like this, and it excites them more than anything.

Preach!

great post gardner, i agree with everything you stated, and i really couldnt say it any better

-Blunts

 

[bluntman]

haha sorry shaved poodle, i guess i should have read all the other posts before posting my own.

Gardners post just really got to the heart of the issue and motivated me

 

[lil weezy]

Well, my opinion is this:

Physical attraction is key if you want a hot and steamy relationship. A lot of guys will stress get in good shape, make money, so on and so forth... Well, that is all fine and good if you want a gold digger who going to start f*cking the pool boy after a few months or a year or two.

So what does one do if they are average in height with hairloss? Well, besides taking care of your body (which is obvious) you got to also figure out how to make yourself more desirable in other areas. The most notable area is the FACE.

1. Good skin. No substitute! Hair or no hair if you have bad skin you're going to fight an uphill battle. Keep your face washed and cleaned, maintain good skin tone, and take measures to prevent any type of blemishes like acne, moles, or veins.

2. Good teeth. No substitute! Hair or no hair if you have nasty yellow teeth or missing teeth you need to get it fixed! Go to the dentist, get your cavities filled with non-metallic filling and white porcelain caps and invest in having your teeth whitened!

3. Maintain good facial grooming habits. Dont sport a uni-brow, nor unsightly thick eyebrows. wax em, pluck em, do whatever you need to do, just whatever you do dont go overboard! Looking like teen-wolf is just as bad as looking like you just penciled in your eyebrows! Also, if you grow facial hair make sure you have a trimmer and trim daily! Dont let facial hair get unruly!

4. If you wear glasses consider contacts. Some guys pull of the look with glasses some guy dont.

5. If you still have some hair left, (IE NW1 - NW4) get on treatments and consider using Toppik.

Finally, when it comes to your body:

1. Take a shower every goddamn day and make sure you wash EVERYWHERE! This includes both private areas.

2. Use good cologne. Old spice (or anything else that can be bought for $3 a gallon) is not good cologne. Smelling good has got me laid way more then ANY single other thing.

3. Take care of your finger nails, toe nails, and feet. Nails should be trimmed, neat, and filed.

4. Like your eyebrows, teen-wolf isnt in style anymore. If you're a hairy dude takes proper steps to make yourself look like a civilized member of society and not a walking semi-errect caveman.


Lastly, and perhaps controversially, if you have any glaring defects (especially in the face) get them fixed by a plastic surgeon. A huge nose or a big bump on your nose aint pretty on most guys. Ears that stick out and look like Dumbo aint good either. If you got a 6th finger or toe TAKE CARE OF IT.

Bottom line is you got to get a woman's juices flowing if you want to get from her what it is you're really looking for: Good sex!

Money, power, and "personality" only go so far and can attract the wrong kind of women (IE gold diggers and goodie goodie no sex till we are married gals). I'm not saying dont make good money and elevate yourself about working at a local fast food chain... I'm just saying there aint no real substitute for ATTRACTION then PHYSICALLY looking good. Physical attraction can be accomplished even without the best of hair or greatest of height if you are willing to invest the time, energy, and money in accommodating the rest of your body!

beautiful answer.

i agree 100%