hairloss has humbled me

[Boondock]

I'm actually with UMan on this one.

If OkNow had come on the board and made a thread about his fears surrounding hairloss, and how he couldn't get it off his mind, that would've been fine. But he started a thread claiming that it "humbled" him, talking about how it's radically changed his entire life, and how the pain and anguish is too much to bear.

Now he may really be experiencing these feelings, but I still consider it offensive to come on here and say it in such a pretentious way when there are people with real hairloss - not just a temporal recession which may even be a mature hairline. In the same way, if I contracted the flu and I felt truly dreadful, I would still not moan about it in a hospital ward and talk about how badly it's affecting my life, because I'd respect the fact that there are people with far worse situations there.

It just takes the piss, to be frank, and when I read it I just couldn't shake how self-indulgent I felt it was.

 

[DoctorHouse]

My advice would have been use the "BDD card" and blame everything on that.............................After all, its worked well for me so far....................... :whistle: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent: :innocent:

 

[Oknow]

Yes, but hairloss is hairloss at the end of the day.

Obviously not, or else there wouldn't be stages to the Norwood scale. It is not all the same. Minor recession is not the same as being completely bald, in fact they are two different worlds. I hate to use the tired analogy, but it is like you lost your pinky toe and then go to the veterans hospital and b**ch to someone who has lost a leg. No one is going to notice a missing toe through your shoe and you can still walk while this other guy is stuck in a f****ing wheelchair with an empty pant leg dangling. Damn, I just want to slap you with all my might.

I never did deny that your level of hair loss is worse, actually I made it quite clear in my OP that if I ever did have extreme hairloss I would fall into deep depression, so in that sense I am quite empathetic with you. Maybe you should look at it that way, rather then a personal attack.

However as gemini x has pointed out, yes - ok, my hairloss is mild given my age. But, you are almost giving the impression that it may stay like this forever. When really, no one knows, and it is that thing alone, that has made this whole experience a really depressing one. The fear. What's stopping it from worsening?

In that respect it has humbled me, because it has made me appreciate what I have on top of my head a lot more, because there is a chance that I could lose it in my mid-late twenties - even if that chance is slim. And if it comes down to that, it is sh*t.

Cosmetically even though my hair loss is minor, there are some styles I just cannot rock anymore. I have to do the comb forwards now around my temple area. When my hair is very short, my hairline is very exposed, so I keep it longer. Girls do notice, especially when it is shorter. Although I can live with this, as it is not too bad. It has changed my look somewhat. And if I knew my hair would remain in its current state for the next 20 years, you know what I would stop posting here, but I don't.

I guess, I wouldn't be too fussed if this had hit me in my fourties.

 

[superfrankie]

[quote="uncomfortable man":2h52rizh]I feel...weak. Superfrankie, HatPrisoner where are you? I need the support of my bald brothers.

Even though we may be thousands of miles apart, I still feel a strong sense of togetherness with you and some others in here. Sometimes you guys feel like the closest friends I have. I`m with you til you die my NW5-friend. :firing:

Thank you so much for your support and understanding SF. I know it means as much to me as it does to you and although we are a minority on this site (as we are in life) you, HP, SAF and dudemon help me to feel less alone.[/quote:2h52rizh]

You can continue to explain how the reality is out there for guys like you and me and yet some people in here will continue to perceive it as if you say that everyone is starring at you and therefore suffering from paranoia, when all you are trying to say is that MANY people are starring/laughing behind you back/looking strange at you/giving comments etc, but not EVERYONE.

Some people in here will never understand how it is and feels like to be in your shoes. And that is not your problem. What matters is the reailty. Not some randoom peoples perceptions on something they dont have a clue about. Im with you all the way UM. You know that.

 

[Oknow]

I cant stop thinking about hairloss. Every time I am out I make check my hair out in the mirror trying to make sure my "mature hairline" is hidden. It is become unhealthy to a certain degree and is affecting me socially. How can I overcome this? Please no sarcastic replies.

 

[Oknow]

Your mature hairline? Grow up mate. Take a walk, look at the other millions of men with 'mature hairlines' you will shockingly see some men that are 'bald' too.

Apologies if you have drastic hairloss that is changing your appearance in a short space of time, but otherwise, just stop whining and carry on living your life.

Yeah you are right, but really it has changed my apperance in the sense that I am now literally limited to certain hair-styles. The temple points receeding is such a b**ch, because they really do a good job at framing your face. Thats the problem I am having, with hairloss, my face is not being framed properly.

Anyway, it isn't just the above, so paranoid that it may worsen.

 

[Boondock]

I cant stop thinking about hairloss. Every time I am out I make check my hair out in the mirror trying to make sure my "mature hairline" is hidden. It is become unhealthy to a certain degree and is affecting me socially. How can I overcome this? Please no sarcastic replies.

I appreciate how you're finding this hard but you seem to have no regard for how offensive your comments come across as. You don't have real hair loss, as you admit. It may not even progress any further. Any problems you're having at your stage are 100% in your head, and you are responsible for dealing with them.

 

[Oknow]

I cant stop thinking about hairloss. Every time I am out I make check my hair out in the mirror trying to make sure my "mature hairline" is hidden. It is become unhealthy to a certain degree and is affecting me socially. How can I overcome this? Please no sarcastic replies.

I appreciate how you're finding this hard but you seem to have no regard for how offensive your comments come across as. You don't have real hair loss, as you admit. It may not even progress any further. Any problems you're having at your stage are 100% in your head, and you are responsible for dealing with them.

Thats part of the problem, I don't know if it will become severe or not. Hairline has changed so drastically in 3 years, like jesus. Temple points over the course of the year have receeded to the point those little triangles on the temple are disappearing. I know male pattern baldness runs in the family but even then very hard to predict where I am heading, I have uncles that get to NW2 and stay there. Others get to NW5/6 (although a minority) and my grandfather/dad are bald. Out of all my cousins I would say that the others do not have a mature hairline, there hair at 30 is the same as when they were 20. Sucks.

 

[Boondock]

I cant stop thinking about hairloss. Every time I am out I make check my hair out in the mirror trying to make sure my "mature hairline" is hidden. It is become unhealthy to a certain degree and is affecting me socially. How can I overcome this? Please no sarcastic replies.

I appreciate how you're finding this hard but you seem to have no regard for how offensive your comments come across as. You don't have real hair loss, as you admit. It may not even progress any further. Any problems you're having at your stage are 100% in your head, and you are responsible for dealing with them.

Thats part of the problem, I don't know if it will become severe or not. Hairline has changed so drastically in 3 years, like jesus. Temple points over the course of the year have receeded to the point those little triangles on the temple are disappearing. I know male pattern baldness runs in the family but even then very hard to predict where I am heading, I have uncles that get to NW2 and stay there. Others get to NW5/6 (although a minority) and my grandfather/dad are bald. Out of all my cousins I would say that the others do not have a mature hairline, there hair at 30 is the same as when they were 20. Sucks.

Of course it sucks, but there are plenty of people on these boards who were fully bald by your age.

You don't know what's going to happen, so why not just focus on other things for now? You can still keep track on it, without obsessing, and you may find that your loss doesn't progress. Even if it does, at least you'll have enjoyed the time you had with hair as much as possible.

 

[Caillou]

lol

 

[Jpw1999]

bet his hairline hasn't moved one bit since those pics

 

[Regan]

You're basically sperging out over a Norwood 1.5 bro. But it's true, in the fight against hair loss, time is of the essence, and being proactive is important.

 

[Oknow]

bet his hairline hasn't moved one bit since those pics

It has and my hair is thinner

 

[KevinEdEddEddy]

It has and my hair is thinner

Realisation that your hair got thinner is the worst

 

[Oknow]

Realisation that your hair got thinner is the worst

and I’m treating it

 

[losingbattle88]

and I’m treating it

Your weak regiment explains why. But dont worry not even fina or duta is strong enough to stop male pattern baldness. You need tranny pills to stop it completely unfortunately.

 

[Oknow]

Your weak regiment explains why. But dont worry not even fina or duta is strong enough to stop male pattern baldness. You need tranny pills to stop it completely unfortunately.

the thinning started before treating it
Ive maintained my hair, since starting my regime

 

[I wont lose this]

the thinning started before treating it
Ive maintained my hair, since starting my regime

You can't beat my regimen tho

 

[losingbattle88]

the thinning started before treating it
Ive maintained my hair, since starting my regime

Maintained lol bro you never had male pattern baldness lol. Very very mild. How can you maintain with topical zix and some dumb useless hair oil? Not to mention LLLT which is useless And i cant maintain with high dose dutasteride both topically and oral and oral minoxidill. U never had hairloss ur a delusional troll.

 

[Oknow]

Maintained lol bro you never had male pattern baldness lol. Very very mild. How can you maintain with topical zix and some dumb useless hair oil? Not to mention LLLT which is useless And i cant maintain with high dose dutasteride both topically and oral and oral minoxidill. U never had hairloss ur a delusional troll.

Probably as you said very, very mild