Hard to admit, but girls do care only about the outlook

[Beingbaldsucks]

You can be the f*****g best personality ever guy but if you don't look good then woman will hate you, someone who dosent look good and try will just make a fool of himself infront of other people, better to be passive and Searious as much as you can and keep your pride

 

[Islander]

This section of the forum is ~90% repeating. Didn't we had a thread like this, like, uhm... 47 times already, maybe more?

 

[uncomfortable man]

Well then you can afford to not develop your personality because you have hair to make up for it so your safe.

 

[s.a.f]

You can be the f****ing best personality ever guy but if you don't look good then woman will hate you, someone who dosent look good and try will just make a fool of himself infront of other people, better to be passive and Searious as much as you can and keep your pride

Oh I did'nt know we had the universal expert on every female on the planet on here. :whistle:

There are 4 billion females out there they dont all think exactly alike. Lookswise I've been with some women who were clearly way out of my league and I've also failed to get women who were well within my league.

 

[s.a.f]

no. just no.

looks matter but girls are emotional creatures, the way u make them feel can get you inside their pants as well

and ffs man stop being a nice gentleman if theres one thing i kno its treating girls like sh*t WILL get them wet. like literally all the guys i ever knew who scored a lot AKL treated girls badly

its a common saying for a reason

Well thanks for the advice I guess we can all stop worrying about our hair now and just be complete ba5tards.

I'm off to go and verbally abuse the hottest chick I see .... :whistle:

 

[uncomfortable man]

Stephen Hawking admitted that the greatest mystery of the universe (for him) is women.

 

[seb]

Treat them like bags of sick...trust me,they love it.

 

[slipy]

if they enjoy masochism then let them have it their way.

 

[seb]

if they enjoy masochism then let them have it their way.

Yes mistress,I am a bald piece of crap.

 

[Buzzlightyear]

These threads are so pointless it seems, majority of users here will agree with these false statements then a few users like myself will try to share an optimistic insight and it will be disregarded. In my own personal experiences and not a friend of a friend who is bald but me who is bald I have met plenty of girls who have liked and even loved me regardless of the lack of hair on my head. To say girls only care about the outlook of a man is downright ridiculous. sh*t no joke about 10 minutes ago I was driving to subway and saw a man and a girl with their baby crossing the road, this girl was easily an 8 quite good looking and this guy was full bald shaved with clippers and not all that good looking imo, yet he had a baby with this gorgeous girl. I highly doubt he was rich either. Yes us bald guys don't look like Edward from Twilight so we can't walk into a room and have girls panties drop the floor, but I hate to break it to you guys the real world is not like the movies you have been watching. Girls do not only care about the outer shell of a man just like deep down inside you all know you don't only care about the outer look of a women.

I will share personal experience with you all. When I first start balding roughly 7 years ago I was quite devastated by it, I pretended not to care but I really did and of course sometimes I still find myself thinking "if I still had hair...." I would cling on to girls because I was scared there wouldn't be anymore at the end of the line due to getting into my own head about my appearance. 7 years later and couple long term relationships + a ton of flings I have first hand knowledge that not all girls in this world only find you attractive if you have hair, but as a matter of fact a lot of them are much more interested in what you bring to the table as a person. My ex girlfriend for example we dated for about a year and I actually took her away from a guy who I would say is much better looking than me and when I would ask her questions like "why did you leave him for me?" She would tell me "because he had no drive, no ambition, and was doing nothing with his life and you well you have all of that + you make me laugh all the time." Yes that is just one girls comments but I am a very out going, ambitious person, I do a lot of acting and perform stand up so people do find me quite funny which does seem to work with the ladies. I know this is one person's comments and it doesn't change how most of you feel but I have been with a lot of girls since I started balding I was in a relationship on and off for about 5 years between 18 - 23 and yet have still been with about 20 different girls in the past 3 years.


My point is if you go around assuming the worst of people and believing this crap you will convince yourself it's true. You can sit around wallowing in self pity about everything or you know what you can get up and try, yes so what you might get rejected everyone does. If it takes asking out 100 girls to get one date so be it, life is way to f*****g short to not go after what you want in life and the more you try the more success you'll have. Success breeds confidence so go out everyday and try, try to get whatever it is you want out of life and stop worrying about how people perceive you because I assure you some girls will give you a shot. Stop viewing baldness as some defect that you now have to convince girls to look past. Girls are human beings and have insecurities to, when you find it in you to look past a females insecurities and not care about them you'll see it's a two way street.

 

[s.a.f]

If you go around assuming the worst of people and believing this crap you will convince yourself it's true. You can sit around wallowing in self pity about everything.

Your post is too much like common sense to have an impact on some on here.
Its easier to just believe that you have no chance without hair.

Most normal guys can see that you dont have to be Brad Pitt to get a woman. Which explains why MOST 'normal' bald guys ie the ones not on forums are doing just that.

Most normal guys can also see that people are different and have different views on what they look for in a partner. Just because some people are shallow and superficial does'nt mean everyone is like that.
Most people will know someone who is bald or balding wether its a work colleague freind or relative so to imagine that there is some kind of society wide universal hatred of baldies is just ridiculous.

 

[HairPieceMan]

guys with hair dont like/respect us fully.

just like poor people dont like/respect rich people (peopel born into rich families)

just like tall people dont like/respect short people.

society doesnt like us.

 

[s.a.f]

guys with hair dont like/respect us fully.

just like poor people dont like/respect rich people (peopel born into rich families)

just like tall people dont like/respect short people.

society doesnt like us.

If you ever needed an example of paranoid delusion ^^^ :hump:

(man I wish this forum was allowing us to upload pics atm.)

 

[s.a.f]

...There are 4 billion females out there they dont all think exactly alike. ...

Actually, a well known and really awesome 'dating coach' (David Wygant) whose material I have been studying, said just the opposite. According to him, ALL women are wired the same way, they are emotional creatures (like Exodus said), and they all think the same way. He said that if you can talk to an ugly girl the right way, then you can talk to an attractive the exact same way and you will sleep with her ... IF you play your cards right.

(Facepalm) yeah ok, I wonder why there is so much variety in life? Because all women apparently like the exact same things they all wear the same clothes have the same hair drive the same car, like the same music, movies, eat the same meals ect ect ...

 

[Buzzlightyear]

...There are 4 billion females out there they dont all think exactly alike. ...

As much as I respect your opinions, saf, actually I've heard from a well known and really awesome 'dating coach' (David Wygant) whose material I have been studying, said just the opposite. According to him, ALL women are wired the same way, they are emotional creatures (like Exodus said), and they all think the same way. He said that if you can talk to an ugly girl the right way, then you can talk to an attractive the exact same way and you will sleep with her ... IF you play your cards right.

You have to remember everyone is different and all people are at different stages in their lives, some girls might be looking for flings, relationships, taking time off of dating etc. Thought processes are never going to be the same for all girls due to those circumstances as well as their lives. Look at the insecurities of most of the guys on here they'd settle for whatever they can get, girls are the same as guys we are all human and they have insecurities as well and some will have the same mindset as some of the guys on here. People are all at different stages in their lives and react differently, you can't say all women are programmed the same because it's not true. Different things happen to people in their lives, disconnected from their parents, trauma in their childhood, victims of abuse, drugs, booze, everyone is not going to have the same thought process. The best advice ever given to me about picking up girls is find what they have an insecurity about and pretend that's what you're most attracted to about them. for example I walked up to a girl at a bar she was 28 and had braces, now this was a no brainer I walked right up and told her I thought her braces were so hot. Obviously I am thinking this is so stupid and she's going to think I am a pedophile but sure enough it worked. Obviously you can't just guess what someone is insecure about, but strike up a conversation and the more you get to know her to=he easier it becomes to spot it. Think about it if a girl walked up to you and said "your bald head is so hot" you'd have an instant boner, it works both ways.

 

[HairPieceMan]

tbh i dont believe the whole game stuff

i read it alot and believed it, but once i started talking to girls i found out that baldness is a real deal breaker for some, as is height

 

[s.a.f]

You have to remember everyone is different and all people are at different stages in their lives, some girls might be looking for flings, relationships, taking time off of dating etc. Thought processes are never going to be the same for all girls due to those circumstances as well as their lives. Look at the insecurities of most of the guys on here they'd settle for whatever they can get, girls are the same as guys we are all human and they have insecurities as well and some will have the same mindset as some of the guys on here. People are all at different stages in their lives and react differently, you can't say all women are programmed the same because it's not true. Different things happen to people in their lives, disconnected from their parents, trauma in their childhood, victims of abuse, drugs, booze, everyone is not going to have the same thought process. The best advice ever given to me about picking up girls is find what they have an insecurity about and pretend that's what you're most attracted to about them. for example I walked up to a girl at a bar she was 28 and had braces, now this was a no brainer I walked right up and told her I thought her braces were so hot. Obviously I am thinking this is so stupid and she's going to think I am a pedophile but sure enough it worked. Obviously you can't just guess what someone is insecure about, but strike up a conversation and the more you get to know her to=he easier it becomes to spot it. Think about it if a girl walked up to you and said "your bald head is so hot" you'd have an instant boner, it works both ways.

:doh: you lost it all at the end there mate.

 

[Buzzlightyear]

You have to remember everyone is different and all people are at different stages in their lives, some girls might be looking for flings, relationships, taking time off of dating etc. Thought processes are never going to be the same for all girls due to those circumstances as well as their lives. Look at the insecurities of most of the guys on here they'd settle for whatever they can get, girls are the same as guys we are all human and they have insecurities as well and some will have the same mindset as some of the guys on here. People are all at different stages in their lives and react differently, you can't say all women are programmed the same because it's not true. Different things happen to people in their lives, disconnected from their parents, trauma in their childhood, victims of abuse, drugs, booze, everyone is not going to have the same thought process. The best advice ever given to me about picking up girls is find what they have an insecurity about and pretend that's what you're most attracted to about them. for example I walked up to a girl at a bar she was 28 and had braces, now this was a no brainer I walked right up and told her I thought her braces were so hot. Obviously I am thinking this is so stupid and she's going to think I am a pedophile but sure enough it worked. Obviously you can't just guess what someone is insecure about, but strike up a conversation and the more you get to know her to=he easier it becomes to spot it. Think about it if a girl walked up to you and said "your bald head is so hot" you'd have an instant boner, it works both ways.

:doh: you lost it all at the end there mate.

lol how so ? The point I was making is that bald people are not the only people in the world that are insecure about something , and that if someone came up to you and told you that the thing you fear the most about people not liking about you was the thing they liked about you, it would put those fears to bed.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Was it you who said you were bald buzz? I can't remember. What Norwood are you now?

 

[Man in Space]

again with the game.

This is how a woman sees 'game'

Contrived sense of self=insecurity=dry meat at the deli counter.

If your game is simply being confident then crack on but if its all these contrived rules and terms then it reeks of insecurity.

What so many guys constantly refuse to understand, both bald and hairy alike, is that all you have to do to get a woman interested is be cool. Some will dig you some wont no matter how hot/ugly you are, you cant please everyone, dating women is luck of the draw.

You have to bare in mind the dynamics of the sexes. Men are like somone knocking on the door of a house and women are the ones your trying to get to open up the door and let you in. They are not gonna let just anyone in.

If you knock on the door obsessively that is creepy, no matter how hot you are they wont trust you and you will be on the end of a lockout. If you turn up at the door in the flashest gear trying to impress they will think of you like an estate agent or window salesman. Some might like it and let you in just to see what happens but you will put off as many women as you attract. If you look unkempt and shifty, they will look through the peephole and lock the door. It is also never acceptable to try and steal in round the back and burgle your way in!.

If however you knock on the door casually and confidently, in half decent clothes and having washed in the last 2 days and say 'im so and so from down the street, new to the area and just introducing myself etc' then they will be disarmed and at the very least usually let the door off the latch and have a chat on the doorstep. You then have an in and before you know it you knock a couple more times and they are inviting you in for coffee. Thats when you punish the b**ch for leaving you out their on the doorstep waiting so long!. (im joking of course). Im not trying to make a point about bald people having confidence here, I accept that some women will see a bald gentleman on the doorstep and simply not answer. Whilst annoying, my point remains the same regarding that, yes you are marginilised but would you even want her to open up if she thought like that, she sounds like a div. I have hair and i wouldnt want to chat to someone like that. Maybe you would i dunno, in which case my point is to be disregarded.

Of course one other option is to go down the pub get drunk and chat up drunk women, that is the equivilant of them leaving the door open for you, its then up to your morals whether or not you go in. There have been many occasions where i have been drunk and they have too and for some reason ive let myself in and at some stage ended up declaring squatters rights and sticking around, generally though there comes a point where they want you out of the house if you go about it that way.

One last thing, dont be knocking on the door of a palacial mansion and moan when you dont get let in. Im not saying dont try, but be realistic! (thats a metaphor for extremely hot women, not extremely large ones)