Has The Impact Section Changed You?

[JohnsonDDG]

There's quite a number of us who post on here quite frequently and there are also an even greater number who log in each day to read those posts. For anyone to come here and read thousands of posts, day after day, and week after week, will notice some affect on their psyche.

As a whole, the impact section has a lot of negativity simply because most impacts of hair loss are negative. It would be quite weird to post positives about hair loss. For that reason this forum has quite a dark and morbid outlook on a lot of matters.

All of this has me wondering if this influences our thought patterns - does the impact section make us more pessimistic and negative?

Or maybe its a good place that creates red-pill thinking and pragmatic action?

What does everyone think?

 

[Dante92]

The memes in this section change us all.

Joking aside, this section helped me realize that giving up on women was the only viable solution for me, and that there is no use to be delusional in today's society about baldness.

 

[pjhair]

Personally speaking, impact section hasn't made me more optimistic or pessimistic. My personality has remained the same as it was before I joined hairloss talk. I find some views here to be extreme. For example, the notion that looks are everything in a relationship. From experience I know it to be incorrect. Looks are extremely important but not everything. There really is a psychological component to a relationship otherwise good looking people will never have to go through breakups. While jogging the other day I saw an average looking asian guy in his early twenties with a hot blonde girl friend, a scenario which should be impossible according to many on this forum. However, I am a 35 year old man with experience, so I can distinguish between truth and exaggerations. I often worry that some of the younger inexperienced folks here may lose hope and may not even try asking beautiful women out consequently missing out on opportunities to date and gain experience.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Personally speaking, impact section hasn't made me more optimistic or pessimistic. My personality has remained the same as it was before I joined hairloss talk. I find some views here to be extreme. For example, the notion that looks are everything in a relationship. From experience I know it to be incorrect. Looks are extremely important but not everything. There really is a psychological component to a relationship otherwise good looking people will never have to go through breakups. While jogging the other day I saw an average looking asian guy in his early twenties with a hot blonde girl friend, a scenario which should be impossible according to many on this forum. However, I am a 35 year old man with experience, so I can distinguish between truth and exaggerations. I often worry that some of the younger inexperienced folks here may lose hope and may not even try asking beautiful women out consequently missing out on opportunities to date and gain experience.

From what I can tell, there are only three or four posters who actually believe that looks are everything - most people do not. Its just that two of those who believe looks are everything happen to be very articulate and popular on here

 

[Dante92]

From what I can tell, there are only three or four posters who actually believe that looks are everything - most people do not. Its just that two of those who believe looks are everything happen to be very articulate and popular on here

Those "most people" are all above-average looking. Surprising.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Those "most people" are all above-average looking. Surprising.

How you do you know what so many of the posters look like?

 

[SmoothSailing]

All of this has me wondering if this influences our thought patterns - does the impact section make us more pessimistic and negative?

Or maybe its a good place that creates red-pill thinking and pragmatic action?

Why not both.

I've learned a lot for sure. I've become more aware of how people cope with hairloss and how it affects their life. I look at my friends who are balding, or even just ugly, in a new way.
I've learned how strong and common bdd is.
I've learned more about relationships.
Mostly I've learned more about the negative side of humanity, but kind of like in group therapy, hearing other peoples struggles can actually help you. And people here are mostly supportive despite the rampant redpillism.

So even though I have a more pessimistic world view, I don't think it's made me a more negative person. More realist maybe.

Although I have to say it has made me more fearful of going NW3.

Also I've learned never to move to Italy

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Why not both.

I've learned a lot for sure. I've become more aware of how people cope with hairloss and how it affects their life. I look at my friends who are balding, or even just ugly, in a new way.
I've learned how strong and common bdd is.
I've learned more about relationships.
Mostly I've learned more about the negative side of humanity, but kind of like in group therapy, hearing other peoples struggles can actually help you. And people here are mostly supportive despite the rampant redpillism.

So even though I have a more pessimistic world view, I don't think it's made me a more negative person. More realist maybe.

Although I have to say it has made me more fearful of going NW3.

Also I've learned never to move to Italy

Honestly Norwood 3 isn't so bad.

How old are you?

Its at nw4 when things become harder as there aren't many style that look good

 

[SmoothSailing]

Personally speaking, impact section hasn't made me more optimistic or pessimistic. My personality has remained the same as it was before I joined hairloss talk. I find some views here to be extreme. For example, the notion that looks are everything in a relationship. From experience I know it to be incorrect. Looks are extremely important but not everything. There really is a psychological component to a relationship otherwise good looking people will never have to go through breakups. While jogging the other day I saw an average looking asian guy in his early twenties with a hot blonde girl friend, a scenario which should be impossible according to many on this forum. However, I am a 35 year old man with experience, so I can distinguish between truth and exaggerations. I often worry that some of the younger inexperienced folks here may lose hope and may not even try asking beautiful women out consequently missing out on opportunities to date and gain experience.

Yes I agree people push this too far. I feel it's a counter-reaction to the rampant blue-pillism where people will tell guys "it's all about confidence" and will literally not even mention how important looks are. Some guys will believe this to some extent. Then they find out just how untrue this is, and the swing to far in the opposite direction.

No one should deny that looks are paramount to getting girls, but other things do matter. Mostly I've always though that everything besides looks really just helps you get a looksmatched or slightly better girl. But there are many guys out there who struggle to get a looksmatched girl. So for them these "other things" can help them immensely.

Also there are always exceptions. As you say, if you look around, you can see some genuinely happy couples who are not looksmatched. It's the exception though.

Honestly Norwood 3 isn't so bad.

How old are you?

Its at nw4 when things become harder as there aren't many style that look good

23. I look ugly as f*** bald. Going from NW2.5 to NW2 improved my looks drastically. I got several comments from people along the lines of "you look great, what's different?". Not sure if they knew what was different and just being polite or something but I've asked some girls before what I looked like with my hair pulled back and basically got "yeah you should fight your baldness".

If I'm NW3 in 7 years maybe not as big a deal, if I go NW3 soon I think it will destroy me. Although I have full intentions of getting a transplant if that happens.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Yes I agree people push this too far. I feel it's a counter-reaction to the rampant blue-pillism where people will tell guys "it's all about confidence" and will literally not even mention how important looks are. Some guys will believe this to some extent. Then they find out just how untrue this is, and the swing to far in the opposite direction.

No one should deny that looks are paramount to getting girls, but other things do matter. Mostly I've always though that everything besides looks really just helps you get a looksmatched or slightly better girl. But there are many guys out there who struggle to get a looksmatched girl. So for them these "other things" can help them immensely.

Also there are always exceptions. As you say, if you look around, you can see some genuinely happy couples who are not looksmatched. It's the exception though.



23. I look ugly as f*** bald. Going from NW2.5 to NW2 improved my looks drastically. I got several comments from people along the lines of "you look great, what's different?". Not sure if they knew what was different and just being polite or something but I've asked some girls before what I looked like with my hair pulled back and basically got "yeah you should fight your baldness".

If I'm NW3 in 7 years maybe not as big a deal, if I go NW3 soon I think it will destroy me. Although I have full intentions of getting a transplant if that happens.

Good point - age does matter. I'm 31 so my norwood status is easier to bare - though I would love to be a nw2!

 

[Exodus2011]

Personally speaking, impact section hasn't made me more optimistic or pessimistic. My personality has remained the same as it was before I joined hairloss talk. I find some views here to be extreme. For example, the notion that looks are everything in a relationship. From experience I know it to be incorrect. Looks are extremely important but not everything. There really is a psychological component to a relationship otherwise good looking people will never have to go through breakups. While jogging the other day I saw an average looking asian guy in his early twenties with a hot blonde girl friend, a scenario which should be impossible according to many on this forum. However, I am a 35 year old man with experience, so I can distinguish between truth and exaggerations. I often worry that some of the younger inexperienced folks here may lose hope and may not even try asking beautiful women out consequently missing out on opportunities to date and gain experience.

triggered

are you sure he wasn't hot? tall? looked like bruce lee? are you sure they were together romantically? (i.e. did you see them kiss?)

 

[CopeForLife]

triggered

are you sure he wasn't hot? tall? looked like bruce lee? are you sure they were together romantically? (i.e. did you see them kiss?)

mirin at this denial

 

[Exodus2011]

mirin at this denial

i'm coping for life what can i say?

EDIT: i'm coping for life what can i slay?

 

[Exodus2011]

serious though it does trigger me something bad, because those white girls who like non black minority dudes often like the black hair they have . . . . that which i have lost

no more white girs for me. time 2 die

 

[JohnsonDDG]

serious though it does trigger me something bad, because those white girls who like non black minority dudes often like the black hair they have . . . . that which i have lost

no more white girs for me. time 2 die

What is your ethnicity?

Are you attracted to your own ethnicity?

 

[blackg]

Those "most people" are all above-average looking. Surprising.

Yeah, this is actually a good point.

 

[blackg]

Although I have to say it has made me more fearful of going NW3.

Also I've learned never to move to Italy

Haha, well said.

 

[EvilLocks]

I must admit, the impact section has made me become more cynical and pessimistic on certain things than I would like. At the same time it has helped me tremendously and I wouldn't wanna be without it.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I went to the orthodontist this week for an invisalign consult. I'll be paying out $6100 over 18 months, with insurance maybe covering half.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I must admit, the impact section has made me become more cynical and pessimistic on certain things than I would like. At the same time it has helped me tremendously and I wouldn't wanna be without it.

It should make you more optimistic as you're hot enough to sexually overwhelm many men and use that as a foundation for a relationship.