GeminiX said:
I also get a lot of chasers (closet gay guys who like the idea of a "chick with a dick"), they don't seem to understand that the idea of a guy fancying me because I have a "little extra" makes me want to vomit.
There's definitely a lot of creeps out there :thumbdown2: but i've come across a few people in your situation who ended up having a decent partner.
DoctorHouse said:
And to top it off, these women have so much emotional baggage, you have to be both a boyfriend and a psychiatrist to be able to have a relationship with most of these women. And be very careful on who you date, I met a girl who was beautiful and nice and totally was in to me. I was some way able to find out something about her on our wonderful internet that basically was one in a million and it had to happen to me. Lets just say for safety reasons, I had to get rid of her real fast. That is not a great thing to happen to someone who has trust issues. Sometimes it makes you feel you are better off alone but I know eventually as they say, there is someone for each and everyone of us. When you find it you will know. I thought she might have been close to the one but somehow my instincts kicked in and found out I was wrong.
That sucks..i've usually found that if it's too good to be true, then there's gotta be something that's wrong, for anything. I've also wondered whether you're better off to be alone..i know i'd rather that than to be with someone for the sake of being with someone and thus not be happy. But as to the first part of your post; i don't understand this new(?) cougar hype. Don't these women want someone who's going to genuinely care for them? And i'm sure the guys want the same too..actually i'm sure everyone does. I've been on such internet sites for years, and out of all the guys i've met online, only one of them has remained to be a really good friend.
Draco, as far as your situation, I think you might have to make the first move just like most men here do. Men are more aggressive in nature so if you see someone attractive, you need to make the first move.
You're right, and one of my older friends has said this to me too, to make the first move. And whilst i know i have the courage/confidence to do so, i'm always afraid of being rejected, which is why i never have approached anyone before (in real life that is). Then again, if you're rejected, that means you won't see the person again, so it's no big deal. However the other issue is when i'm interested in a guy who's sexuality i don't know heh:/
I always thought gay men had it easier with each other since they have so much in common with their "nature". Its like you always have common ground from the start. Men find it easy to bond with other men and women can bond with women. Just think how so many people here have bonded in a sense due to going thru the same issues.
You're definitely right about that. I always find it easier to talk about certain issues with my male friends (anyway i only have two female friends and i'm not as close with them), particularly when they're gay.
If we try to tell women some of our issues, they just think we acting like a woman or think we have no confidence or backbone. In the straight world, its like men are just meant to have sex with women even if they can't bond on an emotional level. That is the problem with relationships, most men cannot be intimate both emotional and physically with women.
This is something i've noticed in straight relationships..i don't like how the guy is put up as this strong, rock like figure who acts 'manly', whilst the girl stands weakly by him.
I think for any relationship to work you have to have trust, open communication, know how to compromise (and some hair on your head for those women who have a hair fetish). Relationships will always be like a business contract. If you can't keep up your end of the bargain, the relationship will dissolve.
I agree 100%. I've written stuff like this in internet profiles, and whenever i message someone and they don't reply, i always assume it's because they don't like my idea of a relationship (or because i say i'm not interested in having sex straight up)..It's like an investement and you need to plan it all before you can enter such an 'agreement', know how to react when an argument comes up (as in being able to resolve rather than win), know each others differences, how slow or fast you want to take things, know how to support each other emotionally etc assuming both parties want a serious relationship.
