How Do You Get Past Your Own Flaws?

[macaroni]

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[Rudiger]

Guys - i know we are all bald/ing to some degree - i have to ask, how do some of you get past your own flaws and go out on dates with women and even have long term relationships when you have such insecurities?

You kind of, don't?

When I read that question I thought about how I just try and not give a sh*t, but realistically I am putting off serious relationships and have been for a while. I keep convincing myself I have different reasons but I think I'm looking for them.

Hope that helps LOL

 

[PappinAce]

well, does she notice / care about your hair loss? how is it when you spend time with her?

 

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

Just focus on your strengths. Sounds cliche but it's true. Do everything you can to looks max. Just remember never to let you insecurities known to a woman, chest out head up high. Any woman who says she doesn't care about your hair loss is a liar, she does. So if you ever get into the situation where you feel 'comfortable' enough to not care about it, really reconsider. Don't want to be single and bald once she dumps your bald ***.

 

[Rudiger]

she's 7 years younger than me and beautiful - i have no f*****g idea why she even talks to me in the first place. To be honest i keep my hair very short and use concealer so it looks like a stylistic choice but my hair is in the shittiest condition it's ever been. It's the most disgustingly uneven diffuse thinning with lots of vertex thinning i've ever seen. Does she talk about it? No, but there's no conceivable way she doesn't notice it as bad as it is.

You'd be kind of amazed how women/people in general don't notice unless you're both NW3+ AND diffuse, even at NW3 some women don't even notice.

If you go down on her make sure the lighting is dim as possible, or completely dark, and if you meet harsh lighting, tilt your neck back as much as possible. Even if it snaps you'll die a happy man.

 

[sunchyme1]

You'd be kind of amazed how women/people in general don't notice unless you're both NW3+ AND diffuse, even at NW3 some women don't even notice.

If you go down on her make sure the lighting is dim as possible, or completely dark, and if you meet harsh lighting, tilt your neck back as much as possible. Even if it snaps you'll die a happy man.

lol so f*****g stupid

f*****g hair loss is BULLSHIT MAN

hate this f*****g sh*t

 

[Dante92]

"How do I get past my own faults?" I simply don't.

 

[Exodus2011]

"How do I get past my own faults?" I simply don't.

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L M A O

Goddamn being a man is so much f*****g harder than being a woman lol. Looooool at everyones advice here being NEVER SHOW EMOTION TO WOMEN

Just lmfao. We arent even allowed to be human. Holy f*****g sh*t mens lives are literally f*****g suffering

And yet spoiled weak feminists complain . . . That there arent enough men in science. looooool

 

[buckthorn]

she's 7 years younger than me and beautiful - i have no f*****g idea why she even talks to me in the first place. To be honest i keep my hair very short and use concealer so it looks like a stylistic choice but my hair is in the shittiest condition it's ever been. It's the most disgustingly uneven diffuse thinning with lots of vertex thinning i've ever seen. Does she talk about it? No, but there's no conceivable way she doesn't notice it as bad as it is.

dude, if she likes you, she likes you. You could even be slick bald perhaps, and she may STILL like you. MIND BLOWN YET?!?! yes it's f*****g possible. there is so much more to life than looking perfect. Actually, looking perfect doesn't even really mean sh*t. This forum is f*****g up your mind. Women have, can and will like bald / balding men. This forum puts in your mind that you're a disgusting piece of genetic trash that will die alone. Think outside the forum.

 

[Patrick_Bateman]

dude, if she likes you, she likes you. You could even be slick bald perhaps, and she may STILL like you. MIND BLOWN YET?!?! yes it's f*****g possible. there is so much more to life than looking perfect. Actually, looking perfect doesn't even really mean sh*t. This forum is f*****g up your mind. Women have, can and will like bald / balding men. This forum puts in your mind that you're a disgusting piece of genetic trash that will die alone. Think outside the forum.

 

[Rudiger]

dude, if she likes you, she likes you. You could even be slick bald perhaps, and she may STILL like you. MIND BLOWN YET?!?! yes it's f*****g possible. there is so much more to life than looking perfect. Actually, looking perfect doesn't even really mean sh*t. This forum is f*****g up your mind. Women have, can and will like bald / balding men. This forum puts in your mind that you're a disgusting piece of genetic trash that will die alone. Think outside the forum.

I can't speak for Macaroni but I don't think it is the forum for me, it's finding someone that I feel really assured won't care about my baldness. There's 2 women in the past that I felt they could feel real love and get past it, but that was a while ago and didn't work out, all it does is give me hope that it's possible again.

Even being *gulp* suh-suh... sly...bald

 

[buckthorn]

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haha... i know you have this GIF saved on your desktop for occasions just like this.

 

[buckthorn]

i get it but at the end of the day its the fact being bald/ing makes you insecure. I know a lot of guys here say confidence doesn't matter but i think it does to a big extent. I don't have the confidence in myself to date and keep a girl like this - truly, she is out of my league by a mile, so you can understand my hesitations here.

I feel you brother. probably the worst advice I'll ever give - if you two care about each other, and your lack of confidence will ruin this anyways, then perhaps just expose it to her (I can already feel the backlash I'll get from this). Do this when it's at the point where you have no other options. IF she understands, then she is an extremely virtuous woman and that's f*****g amazing. If she doesn't? well, it would have ended anyways.

 

[CaptainForehead]

L M A O

Goddamn being a man is so much f*****g harder than being a woman lol. Looooool at everyones advice here being NEVER SHOW EMOTION TO WOMEN

Just lmfao. We arent even allowed to be human. Holy f*****g sh*t mens lives are literally f*****g suffering

And yet spoiled weak feminists complain . . . That there arent enough men in science. looooool

Did you read Hairblues post about how once a date of hers rented out the whole restaurant?

 

[buckthorn]

Exposing my insecurities to anyone is not in my nature - i'll take them to my lonely and very manly grave with me. I was brought up old school - don't talk about feelings, if you hurt yourself walk it off, etc etc; you don't shake that kind of upbringing off that easily

it doesn't matter how you were brought up. How we were brought up isn't always right. IF she truly is important to you, you must do whatever you need to make it work.

 

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

Too much blue pill on this forum.

 

[Guzam]

Remember this. Just living is not enough. You have to transcend.

It's time to Ascend and split from the physical world. No more showers nor food nor social norms, let's abandon humanity.
We'll live as beasts in the countryside, munching on herbs and preying on others' farm animals, sleeping on dirt and shitting and pissing ourselves.
We'll forget how to write, then how to talk, then how to think. All that is human will abandon us.

Then, maybe, we'll get over hair loss. Maybe.

I think that becoming soulless bums is the only way to get over it.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

Guys - i know we are all bald/ing to some degree - i have to ask, how do some of you get past your own flaws and go out on dates with women and even have long term relationships when you have such insecurities?
I can't get past my own flaws and I am guaranteeing a lonely existence - mind you i don't have an issue with a lonely existence, but in the grand scheme of things i am amassing a great number of regrets with every day that passes. How do you do it?

I've dated women with my own insecurities - hair loss, no car, no home ownership and a few others - and all you can do is just get on with life. None of us are perfect and you cant berate yourself too much for only being human. Even though I was insecure about these things it turned out that a lot of them were not important. Obviously some women want a 30 something guy to drive them around or to own a home, but some women don't even care. I guess all you can do is be honest about them, and should these issues be noticed then wait and see if they care all that much. You will tend to find that a lot of flaws aren't actually deal breakers.

And also don't forget that most women also have their hang ups - a lot of them feel too fat, or worry about cellulite, or are paranoid that their boobs sag too much - and these are just the physical insecurities!

 

[Guzam]

No. I will live for myself and take what I can get, even the smallest things, no matter what. I've been stripped of my dignity, youth, beauty and sexual life. It's time to take what I want without caring about others or consequences for others. Nobody ever cared about making me suffer and stripping me of something. Time to settle a very big score. Starting from my career.

What's your job Dante?

 

[Dontwannabeabetabob]

No. I will live for myself and take what I can get, even the smallest things, no matter what. I've been stripped of my dignity, youth, beauty and sexual life. It's time to take what I want without caring about others or consequences for others. Nobody ever cared about making me suffer and stripping me of something. Time to settle a very big score. Starting from my career.

This is the attitude that it takes to survive in the real world. f*** everyone else, take what's yours. Love your posts man keep dropping truth bombs.