How Have / Will You Respond(ed) To Bald Shaming??

[buckthorn]

I mean this to be a serious topic. It's one thing to deal with hair loss as an individual, but another to deal with it in public. It's a common theme here that we are supposed to simply swallow our pride and be humiliated when things like this happen. I can't do that. I have never been able to. So, seriously, what are your responses if/when these social parasites call you out on this?

 

[shookwun]

My biggest issue with balding is how much energy, motivation and desire it drains out of me.

It impacts everything in my life from women, exercising to my performance at work.

When I feel like a stud I lift heavy as f***, I just go beast mode, and push my limits.

When I feel like sh*t I skip work outs, meals & have half intensity work outs


When I feel like a stud I go passed my limits at work, arrive early, leave late. Lots of initiative, and doing tasks that I other wise wouldnt

When I feel like sh*t I take short cuts, in return increase risk and bad behavior. the way I approach people is mistaken for attitude.


When I feel like a stud I am very social, and interested in approaching both men, and women. Deriving lots of energy from discussion

When I feel like sh*t I am avoidance, have bad anxiety and generally have a hard time keeping eye contact. My thoughts are skattered.

 

[buckthorn]

My biggest issue with balding is how much energy, motivation and desire it drains out of me.

It impacts everything in my life from women, exercising to my performance at work.

When I feel like a stud I lift heavy as f***, I just go beast mode, and push my limits.

When I feel like sh*t I skip work outs, meals & have half intensity work outs


When I feel like a stud I go passed my limits at work, arrive early, leave late. Lots of initiative, and doing tasks that I other wise wouldnt

When I feel like sh*t I take short cuts, in return increase risk and bad behavior. the way I approach people is mistaken for attitude.


When I feel like a stud I am very social, and interested in approaching both men, and women. Deriving lots of energy from discussion

When I feel like sh*t I am avoidance, have bad anxiety and generally have a hard time keeping eye contact. My thoughts are skattered.

It's pretty crazy how hair loss has had this exact impact on all of us on here. it just drains our emotional energy and kills motivation. I find myself unable to even listen to people's conversation.

 

[N003]

Interesting it is when you get really sick ( stroke,disability,cancer).

What then? Jump from the bridge??

I think hair loss is a f*****g thing but there are some solutions. The hardest but effective is a hair transplant.
With today's technology there are amazing results possible.

 

[buckthorn]

The hardest but effective is a hair transplant.
With today's technology there are amazing results possible.

well, true.. if you're one of the lucky like 5% of hair loss sufferers, where all the factors are right.

1) if you're headed to NW7, transplants will just make you look diffused thin. which is better than slick bald imo, but is still horrible
2) if you're uncertain about your donor zone, or about your ultimate balding pattern, this can really f*ck you over
3) scarring... especially if you're dark skin like myself, FUE scars are definitely detectable
4) cost - most people don't have 30k to spend on this
5) graft survival - there's always the possibility that for some reason you will have poor graft survival

this is reality, not negativity. some people are perfect candidates. others are not. I have diffused thinning through the entire NW7 pattern. Unless I go for a massive transplant, deplete my donor area, and disregard the ultimate death of my native hair, I am f*cked like the rest of them.

 

[I.D WALKER]

Sadly my friend,
Parasites/bloodsuckers can hardly be ignored and even harder to reason with.
It is a real dilemma and maybe the hardest for any of us possessing a sensitive temperament?

Most importantly, what I gain from your posts is that you are a person with steady conviction.
Your insatiable attitude for stalwart, pragmatic character in spite of your understandable unfortunate hair issues, is demonstrative of your honorable and intelligent resolve for self improvement.
Much to your credit, you don't roll through life with blinders on.

Out there on the societal killing floor our wits are tested already before we even "get started".
Identify and side step or neutralize the 'Energy Thieves" as fast as you're able to do so because when we stop to address their offenses, we immediately put ourselves/future plans inn harms way
and jeopardize our positive ideas and endeavors for personal excellence.

Granted platitudes, like meteorites fizzle out fast once they reach Earth's atmosphere (David will have more to say about this),
but every time we falsely believe we can a win a war on their wasted terms, one more potentially brilliant day is wasted,
and we're left with little to show for our troubles - except maybe what once used to be a tiny fragment of incandescent space matter.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Depends on who says it. Maybe "grow a beard ya pussy", or "your mother doesn't seem to mind". Basically anything to get people to laugh and know that you'll stick them back.


If you happen to get someone who becomes offended at your comeback you're onto a winner. Pound him/her with another one and you'll definitely get another laugh.

 

[kj6723]

It definitely bothers me that I'm so bothered with what others think.

At the end of the day, though, how receptive others are to us in sexual/romantic, social, employment settings plays a huge role in the quality of our lives. No amount of forced apathy is going to change this

 

[DoctorHouse]

My biggest issue with balding is how much energy, motivation and desire it drains out of me.

It impacts everything in my life from women, exercising to my performance at work.

When I feel like a stud I lift heavy as f***, I just go beast mode, and push my limits.

When I feel like sh*t I skip work outs, meals & have half intensity work outs


When I feel like a stud I go passed my limits at work, arrive early, leave late. Lots of initiative, and doing tasks that I other wise wouldnt

When I feel like sh*t I take short cuts, in return increase risk and bad behavior. the way I approach people is mistaken for attitude.


When I feel like a stud I am very social, and interested in approaching both men, and women. Deriving lots of energy from discussion

When I feel like sh*t I am avoidance, have bad anxiety and generally have a hard time keeping eye contact. My thoughts are skattered.

Shook, every time I read your thoughts(posts), I realize you and I think very much alike. Basically, on a good hair day, I feel like your "stud" mode and on a bad hair day, I feel like your "sh*t" mode.

 

[N003]

well, true.. if you're one of the lucky like 5% of hair loss sufferers, where all the factors are right.

1) if you're headed to NW7, transplants will just make you look diffused thin. which is better than slick bald imo, but is still horrible
2) if you're uncertain about your donor zone, or about your ultimate balding pattern, this can really f*ck you over
3) scarring... especially if you're dark skin like myself, FUE scars are definitely detectable
4) cost - most people don't have 30k to spend on this
5) graft survival - there's always the possibility that for some reason you will have poor graft survival

this is reality, not negativity. some people are perfect candidates. others are not. I have diffused thinning through the entire NW7 pattern. Unless I go for a massive transplant, deplete my donor area, and disregard the ultimate death of my native hair, I am f*cked like the rest of them.

Hmm i dont know how old you are? Young?

I think the most people here are arround 20-30 you can see it how the people write

When i was young 20-25 i was really a death freak i was so unhappy with myself i was really really thin had horrible teeth a
crooked nose and
protruding ears.

Yeah it was a hard time trust me but then i start to fix some problems.

Self-pity and withdraw was not my way. i repair my theeth with 3 big operations start with sport and fitness. At same periode when i was 25 i start loosing hair @vertex front was good till i hit my 35 year. The front is now my problem.

Now in my middle age i still have a crooked nose, protruding ears mut i accept it, its me it's , it's my personality I'm really not a beauty but yes i have a really special charisma my view is really really special and i like it now

My experiences have made me into what I am now and i like it

If you are really unhappy with your siuation :
If I were you I would like to focus on the front, on the front is your face and there are really good options with a hair transplant for the front.

As an example:

Look this guy he is norwood 6 or 7 but now with hairs on the front he is look like a other person.

That's the way which i will go now Put some hairs into my front

 

[hellouser]

Silence is the only appropriate response. Never talk about your balding in public, nearly every single conversation I've had that involved hair loss had humiliation and/or ridicule of baldness. I don't even talk about in private with friends. Only my parents and sister know, nobody else. Literally ANYTHING you say can and likely will be used against you. So it's best to just 'join in' on the humiliation of yourself. Baldness isn't respected and nobody has a shred of empathy for it, so just avoid it as much as possible.

Wanna talk about hair loss? Do it here on HairLossTalk.com or any other hair loss forum. Otherwise it's just opening up a can of worms.

 

[Rudiger]

"your mother doesn't seem to mind". Basically anything to get people to laugh and know that you'll stick them back.

This comeback will work for the 14 year old or younger NW6.

 

[buckthorn]

Silence is the only appropriate response. Never talk about your balding in public, nearly every single conversation I've had that involved hair loss had humiliation and/or ridicule of baldness. I don't even talk about in private with friends. Only my parents and sister know, nobody else. Literally ANYTHING you say can and likely will be used against you. So it's best to just 'join in' on the humiliation of yourself. Baldness isn't respected and nobody has a shred of empathy for it, so just avoid it as much as possible.

Wanna talk about hair loss? Do it here on HairLossTalk.com or any other hair loss forum. Otherwise it's just opening up a can of worms.

perfect. I wish I could fit all this in my sig.

 

[Rudiger]

While I like that post, your Bob Marley quote is a staple of this forum for me. It captures the psyche of everyone perfectly.

 

[uhoil]

I went hiking with couple friends a month ago and the following happened:
One of them has probably the weirdest hair loss i've seen, he is diffuse thining all over the scalp but his hairline is intact. Well, he was sweating and the sun was the brightest so you could see his scalp very clearly, so my other friend, who is nw0 and has incredibly black thick hair, goes: "dude wtf you're balding!" His response did hurt me: "I know" in the most shameful and depressing tone you can imagine. I felt really bad, you don't point out other people like that. I was wearing a baseball cap so I didnt receive any comment, but man all we can do is suffer in silence.

 

[kj6723]

I went hiking with couple friends a month ago and the following happened:
One of them has probably the weirdest hair loss i've seen, he is diffuse thining all over the scalp but his hairline is intact. Well, he was sweating and the sun was the brightest so you could see his scalp very clearly, so my other friend, who is nw0 and has incredibly black thick hair, goes: "dude wtf you're balding!" His response did hurt me: "I know" in the most shameful and depressing tone you can imagine. I felt really bad, you don't point out other people like that. I was wearing a baseball cap so I didnt receive any comment, but man all we can do is suffer in silence.

I'm so anxious to get my transplant and hopefully leave the fear of these kind of exposures and callouts behind me for some years.

People just don't sympathize with baldness

 

[Goldee Lox]

I have receded temples, but otherwise solid hair. I'd consider myself an NW2.3, if that's a thing.. My hair has generally been the same since 19/20. It can be styled well at 28.. As far as using actual treatments, I didn't start until around the beginning of this year to try and generate some regrowth along with prevent maintenance. I've definitely made progress, but nothing too Earth shattering as of yet.

I've had slights thrown my way, more so at my latest job than any I've ever had before.. To a lot of people I'm what you would consider a pretty boy. Pretty much every person that has ever actually said something to me or smirked at me for it has nothing themselves to be overly proud of. One was a very ugly black dude with an IQ of 80 that has since been fired.. another is a shortish/fat young white kid with thick hair, but he stutters and has zero charisma. Another is a middle aged black dude that has a high line-up, but I'm sure he thinks it's lower. His hair isn't thick and it would probably look like sh*t if he didn't have it cut down to a 2 guard consistently. He wears blue contacts, so I automatically don't take him seriously. Another dude has hair somewhat similar to mine, but with a better hairline, but he looks like an overgrown chubby squirrel that has acorns stuffed in his cheeks.. These are just a few examples.

Many of the girls that work with us dig me.. I've slept with a few of the cute ones at work already. The fornicating isn't public knowledge (as far as I know) but these guys see how girls are around me at work. I have my flaws and I think they leech on them to try and bring me down, which is something I've never done in my life.. Tis not my style.

Like I said, I can have really solid hair days, especially if I'm consistent with getting good haircuts and waking up to focus and style well. Get myself together well, I should say. I can have my off days, and that's when they occasionally try to dig at me. It never hurts me, it however can sometimes annoy me. What helps me cope in those situations is knowing I'm going to blow these fucks out of the water. It's very rare that I'm truly jealous of someone, even if they have "better hair" than me.

 

[SmoothSailing]

This comeback will work for the 14 year old or younger NW6.

Surely if someone is slagging you for being bald they are already acting like a 14 year old.

 

[Runninghair]

I think some people that joke about it genuinely dont mean any malice and in their head they are creating rapport.

Unfortunately though these jokes usually cut a balding man deep

 

[DoctorHouse]

Conforms pretty well with my own experiences. I wonder where the people who say "no one cares about your hair" come from. In my experience, everyone cares.

True, but nobody will care more about your hair than you do. Most people are so into themselves eventually they will care less than you do. We are own worse critics.