How Have / Will You Respond(ed) To Bald Shaming??

[That Guy]

Surely if someone is slagging you for being bald they are already acting like a 14 year old.

Back in the days before I was losing hair myself, my boss at my old job had recently survived cancer and lost his hair due to the treatments. This old guy I worked with leaned over and said "Look at him. He looks like a penis with ears."

The guy had f*****g cancer and he was not safe from bald shaming.

 

[buckthorn]

Back in the days before I was losing hair myself, my boss at my old job had recently survived cancer and lost his hair due to the treatments. This old guy I worked with leaned over and said "Look at him. He looks like a penis with ears."

The guy had f*****g cancer and he was not safe from bald shaming.

I would have stared that reject dead in the eyes and choked him half to death. no joke. that's f*cking terrible. f*cking insensitive, inhumane piece of trash.

 

[Rudiger]

I would have stared that reject dead in the eyes and choked him half to death. no joke.

:/

 

[F2005]

True, but nobody will care more about your hair than you do. Most people are so into themselves eventually they will care less than you do. We are own worse critics.

I agree with this in certain ways. When working out at the gym or going shopping, no one is really going to shame you for being bald. In this respect, people really are too into themselves and do not give a sh*t.

But when it comes to attracting a woman and looking your best, baldness will surely have an impact. But I think we all know that.

 

[Aldrich]

I haven't received any bald shaming or other comments about my hair, so far. Or, well, I received a "you can see the scalp"-comment from a friend once, but this was many years ago, long before any serious hairloss. I have an unusually big cowlick/whirl that looks like a bald spot unless i shower/fix it. People do comment when I cut my hair short, though, but it's not about hairloss, but rather because I cut the sides extremely short in order to draw attention away from the scalp (which is usually the same length).

The day I receive an actual comment about hairloss, I'll quit my job, shave my head, and become a monk.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Back in the days before I was losing hair myself, my boss at my old job had recently survived cancer and lost his hair due to the treatments. This old guy I worked with leaned over and said "Look at him. He looks like a penis with ears."

The guy had f*****g cancer and he was not safe from bald shaming.

Yeah I'm not denying that people can't avoid bald shaming. I'm pointing out that saying someone looks like a penis with ears is a childish as a come back such as "your mother doesn't seem to mind". I find that for me, so long as I have a comeback that gets laughs then a few slaggings is no big deal.

 

[Tofacitinib Lotion]

"your mother doesn't seem to mind".

I tried this comeback, but unfortunately it was my cousin who was doing the ball-breaking, so it kinda back-fired and became creepy.

 

[Jimbo5]

Other than a couple close friends (and we've been bustin' each others chops since college) no one has ever made a comment to my face about the thinning hair.

And that's probably a good thing ... for them.

If you're gunna take a shot at the thinning hair, you better bring some young-Brad-Pitt-level genetics to the table or I'll expose every single one of your flaws and ridicule them relentlessly.

Perhaps not the most diplomatic way to handle the situation, but that's how I roll...

 

[buckthorn]

Other than a couple close friends (and we've been bustin' each others chops since college) no one has ever made a comment to my face about the thinning hair.

And that's probably a good thing ... for them.

If you're gunna take a shot at the thinning hair, you better bring some young-Brad-Pitt-level genetics to the table or I'll expose every single one of your flaws and ridicule them relentlessly.

Perhaps not the most diplomatic way to handle the situation, but that's how I roll...

Nice, that's how I roll too. Any one that's tried to humiliate me for any reason has had the favor immediately returned in a much more brutal way.

 

[Jimbo5]

Good to hear, buck.

Sheer brutality can come in handy every now and then...

 

[buckthorn]

Only "half"? Even if he apologized, you should give him this:

hahaha.. you find the BEST gifs.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Bald shaming is very real and can range from subtle, like people actively trying to contain their laughter while talking to you to more obvious offences. To which I say, baldness is genetic but being an a**h** is a choice.

...because we didnt DO anything to deserve this kind of shitty treatment.

 

[hellouser]

Bald shaming is very real and can range from subtle, like people actively trying to contain their laughter while talking to you to more obvious offences. To which I say, baldness is genetic but being an a**h** is a choice.

...because we didnt DO anything to deserve this kind of shitty treatment.

Even if this kind of logic were to slap a fullhead right in the face, they still wouldnt get it and for some reason, still mock baldness. You can't win with baldness.

 

[blackg]

Even if this kind of logic were to slap a fullhead right in the face, they still wouldnt get it and for some reason, still mock baldness. You can't win with baldness.

Yep, true. while they have hair, they will never get it.

 

[GoldenMane]

I would just say;
How would you feel if you were losing your hair? And then I made fun of your hair loss in public.

Might not be the socially acceptable retort, but might make them think. My brother once said exactly this to me years ago when I made a comment about his hair loss in a queue before I knew that I was balding too. Stuck with me...

 

[Rudiger]

I would just say;
How would you feel if you were losing your hair? And then I made fun of your hair loss in public.

Might not be the socially acceptable retort, but might make them think. My brother once said exactly this to me years ago when I made a comment about his hair loss in a queue before I knew that I was balding too. Stuck with me...

The thing that hurts is that it probably only made you think because in the same way we notice a father, or other relative balding, and we reach a certain age, it dawns on us that this could be a reality. As you say it's not going to work as a retort because 1) people won't have that empathy towards you as a stranger, that you would have with your brother, and more importantly 2) they won't have that empathy because you don't represent the same thing happening in them.

Let's face it, if a lot of us were perfect NW0's and never spotted a single hair on a towel or pillow, we would likely be just as ignorant towards baldness as the people we despise. But then again it's all circumstance, mentally and physically it's what constructs how we are, and we can talk about parallel universes but in this one we at least are not ignorant and completely superficial full heads.

So from this un-desirable disposition, either we can at least take from this that we are more empathetic towards others feelings and more of a thoughtful and mentally evolved human being, or we can despise all forms of deformity just as we despise our own.

 

[GoldenMane]

The thing that hurts is that it probably only made you think because in the same way we notice a father, or other relative balding, and we reach a certain age, it dawns on us that this could be a reality. As you say it's not going to work as a retort because 1) people won't have that empathy towards you as a stranger, that you would have with your brother, and more importantly 2) they won't have that empathy because you don't represent the same thing happening in them.

Let's face it, if a lot of us were perfect NW0's and never spotted a single hair on a towel or pillow, we would likely be just as ignorant towards baldness as the people we despise. But then again it's all circumstance, mentally and physically it's what constructs how we are, and we can talk about parallel universes but in this one we at least are not ignorant and completely superficial full heads.

So from this un-desirable disposition, either we can at least take from this that we are more empathetic towards others feelings and more of a thoughtful and mentally evolved human being, or we can despise all forms of deformity just as we despise our own.

Perhaps, but after he said that to me, I was more sympathetic towards all balding guys, not just family and friends. When I realised that I too was going bald, it just hit home like karma for that comment I made, though looking back, I was thinning and receding even back then.

 

[Jimbo5]

I would just say;
How would you feel if you were losing your hair? And then I made fun of your hair loss in public.

Might not be the socially acceptable retort, but might make them think. My brother once said exactly this to me years ago when I made a comment about his hair loss in a queue before I knew that I was balding too. Stuck with me...

That's certainly an option, 'Mane.

But I believe a stiff right to the cheekbone could prove more effective in delivering the message...