I think I'm far gone and will soon have a phychotic break

[Diffused_confidence]

I don't mean to be cynical but will a Hair loss forum like this do? I think this place is a good start for you and the OP. I am a big fan of group therapy. I think it's great that the OP has other people around his age to talk to on here about depression and anxiety in general. This place has really helped me grow and become a better version of myself. Hopefully, it can for you and the OP.

I think it could both help and do damage. I think there are some people on here who post stuff like that they would rather have cancer or that their lives are over. That isn't helping anyone. I come here with intentions to help people but I do occasionally read posts on here, some a little older that are just very dark.

I think this forum should focus more on helping each other. Giving support and advice, which I think you have done on here.

I actually enjoy reading the hair loss future research section because it gives me slight, and possibly a fools, hope. It helps me stay optimistic about how hair loss could potentially be cured for future generations and I wouldn't want my kids or grandkids to go through this.

 

[randolf_faust]

I think it could both help and do damage. I think there are some people on here who post stuff like that they would rather have cancer or that their lives are over. That isn't helping anyone. I come here with intentions to help people but I do occasionally read posts on here, some a little older that are just very dark.

I think this forum should focus more on helping each other. Giving support and advice, which I think you have done on here.

I actually enjoy reading the hair loss future research section because it gives me slight, and possibly a fools, hope. It helps me stay optimistic about how hair loss could potentially be cured for future generations and I wouldn't want my kids or grandkids to go through this.

so you just want someone who tells you everything will be okay? that either hairloss wont have any impact on you or that just a magical cure without any risks and side effects that will solve your problems?

i mean in the end its very simple

- finasteride comes with risk. but there also a lot of people who are doing fine with it (but no garantuee you will belong to those)
- being bald will make you physically uglier. there is a low certain percentage of men whose looks barely gets affected by being bald but there is a high chance you dont belong to these people
- then there are other options with pros and cons such as ru, hairtransplant, smp or hairpieces
- life goes on. even if you become bald and ugly. you will face way worse things then hairloss in your future life. in the end we will all die though. your time here is limited and hairloss is the first reminder of many men of that fact.

 

[FailSafe55]

I think it could both help and do damage. I think there are some people on here who post stuff like that they would rather have cancer or that their lives are over. That isn't helping anyone. I come here with intentions to help people but I do occasionally read posts on here, some a little older that are just very dark.

I think this forum should focus more on helping each other. Giving support and advice, which I think you have done on here.

I actually enjoy reading the hair loss future research section because it gives me slight, and possibly a fools, hope. It helps me stay optimistic about how hair loss could potentially be cured for future generations and I wouldn't want my kids or grandkids to go through this.

Baldness is a death sentence, but there are far worse things, such as failing out of college. My mental state when I was focusing on my balding is very tame compared to what it is for me right now given I completely failed college

 

[I wont lose this]

Baldness is a death sentence, but there are far worse things, such as failing out of college. My mental state when I was focusing on my balding is very tame compared to what it is for me right now given I completely failed college

Same here. Failing miserably on college because of this curse called hair loss. My case is a puzzle, I have no bald relatives but I shed like a dog every day (more than 56 hairs every shower) and it's been like that since I started having dermatitis flare ups. My scalp is itchy and stingy, and if there's a day during the week where I get relief is a miracle sent by god himself, if it exists that is.

My cousin sent a picture of us when I was younger (15) and when I saw my hair I almost cried. It was thick, wavy and shiny. Now it's just a flat broom. I'm not receding, I have the perfect hairline, but I'm losing density overall, if anything more on top. I have lots of regrowth but what scares me most is the thin regrowth which I lose sometimes. The strands are like 2 inches long and thin/wispy/pigtail. Honestly, I'll give it more two months to see if some light guides me, otherwise I'll shave this sh*t and keep it forever.

 

[vondoom]

well, cant you repeat the current year and do better next time (honestly no idea how college works, we didnt have that)...
or as you said, take a year off and visit a mental institution, if its that bad...
maybe there is even a way to continue studying while in an institution... if not, at least you can study on your own then and improve...

and then take care of your hair... i got no idea what you did so far, but what you can do is more or less pretty clear and straight forward (before it gets experimental)...
i can tell you that for me, everything besides finasteride/dutasteride and min didnt do anything... been using other topicals while using the usual, no effect, microneedling, no effect, tretinoin, no effect...
not saying those dont work at all, just dont be surprised if it doesnt work...
for side effects, i used to be a bit worried before i started, though nowhere afraid... i just started and thought if i get sides, so be it, got to stop then (not that you can do
much else then)...
also no idea about your medical
history of course... for me, i knew i can take everything and never had any sides, or anything... but i am also never sick, so except a few exceptions, i never had to take medicine and usually refuse taking medicine...
if so far you never had any issues, i would seriously consider it... it at least gives you a piece of mind... i personally worry less much about hairloss than i used to... doesnt mean i dont worry at all, of course... but i wont give up and that make me feel
better...

 

[vondoom]

Same here. Failing miserably on college because of this curse called hair loss. My case is a puzzle, I have no bald relatives but I shed like a dog every day (more than 56 hairs every shower) and it's been like that since I started having dermatitis flare ups. My scalp is itchy and stingy, and if there's a day during the week where I get relief is a miracle sent by god himself, if it exists that is.

My cousin sent a picture of us when I was younger (15) and when I saw my hair I almost cried. It was thick, wavy and shiny. Now it's just a flat broom. I'm not receding, I have the perfect hairline, but I'm losing density overall, if anything more on top. I have lots of regrowth but what scares me most is the thin regrowth which I lose sometimes. The strands are like 2 inches long and thin/wispy/pigtail. Honestly, I'll give it more two months to see if some light guides me, otherwise I'll shave this sh*t and keep it forever.

nice avatar btw

 

[I wont lose this]

nice avatar btw

thanks, one of my fav albums

 

[DoctorHouse]

You're right in many ways and your post has the best interest for OP, but I believe that it's not completely applicable because we might belong to different generations, be in different situations and have different resources to deal with it. I mean your account is 11yo so your age is definitely a bit older than ours... why this is important? Because things might have different before than they currently are for young generation. Also you mention that you had great support from your parents.

In my case looksmax sites just improved my mental health because I found inner peace realizing that I wasn't alone and that my thoughts were exceptionally logical.

Humans have needs. One of them is feeling accomplished, being the CEO of Apple might make someone accomplished in one way, but it might not in other. People who obsess so much about looks consider themselves to have low self worth and are definitely lonely, the thing is for you to change that you need to bring something to the table, and looks might be the most accessible (and efficient in my opinion) way that you can get positive results.

I don't hope for anyone to have BDD or worry about looks that much. You don't enjoy life properly like someone else. But it is what it is and you're in your circumstances. For me giving up on looks would just bring myself even more negative things in my life.

It would have been nice if the OP responded himself but maybe you are the OP under another account. I hope not. I think it applies to most people who suffer from depression or suicidal thoughts no matter what generation you are from. It was not meant to be a "cookie cutter" solution. And it was not about giving up on your looks. It was about not killing yourself plain and simple. And there is nothing wrong with getting different perspectives of people on different forums including looksmax sites. You need to have all perspectives and do you own research before you decide what is best for you. Those sites helped your mental state because like this one, it was group therapy. Just curious, who would you rather take advice from? Someone with alot of experience in life or someone your own age who has very little experience? Most of those guys on the looksmax sites have never touched, kissed, held hands or dated someone of the opposite sex. And my question has nothing to do with how you relate to them.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I am not his alt but apparently we come from the same place and think alike in certain aspects.

Yes it's true it was a group therapy. I never thought there would be a community so honest and relatable that I was unable to find anywhere else before.

I would rather take advice from that, who is right. Something I've learned is that people with "much experience" might not be right. And in fact, said experiences might be clouding their logical thinking, whereas someone my age with "little experience" much be much more open minded and have sharper mental capacity. Facts are facts, and the truth shall always be the truth. It's not dependant on our our ages or what we want to believe. I don't believe I am less able to know the truth than anyone else.

It's not that I am promoting commiting suicide or anything of the like lol. Again, I do not wish for anyone to go through what some of us do. But I feel that sometimes the advices that we give might be shallow and not have relevance on how to change your life.

I used to have BDD to the worse degree. Having a haircut every 3 days. Missing class because you don't look the same that day. Only wanting to be seen from certain angles. Not having pictures of yourself years on end... I've done the craziest sh*t. But it's all in the past... I found peace in proper acknowledging the truth about looks.

It's not that you can't lead a good life without top tier genetic. It's much easier and your less dependant on other factors. Maybe you have parents, family, friends, good enviroment. Some might not. I might not. It narrows down your choices and what you can do. That could be when you are forced to worry more about looks.

I think you should be more open to not judging advice as being right or wrong. It should be more about the content and whether it would be good for you. I find it so interesting when I find people with top tier genetics with one major flaw. I have seen this alot too. Their major flaw is they are depressed or have severe mental disorders like bipolar manic depression or schizophrenia. My point is you don't know what is going on in their brain. If they have mental disorders, you think they are going to be fun to be around despite how good looking they are? Do you think they are going to live a normal life? The grass is not always greener on the other side. Just be the best version of YOU. I think that is the best advice that any person good give no matter your age.

 

[Trompt]

I think I'm mentally destroyed. Like severe, severe, depression and anxiety. Anyone else here struggling with this? I haven't gone to a doctor for it but I think I will soon enough have a mental breakdown and call an ambulance. What should I expect at a mental hospital? I think that's where I'm going to end up very soon

Same