I Wonder, Why Is Life So f*****g Unfair?

[EvilLocks]

evil are you sure its chronic fatigue and not just being drained of energy cuz of baldness?

Yes, I'm sure. I have suffered from chronic fatigue since way before baldness came into my life at age 20, but I wasn't diagnosed until a couple years ago. But I remember feeling very fatigued already in middle school - I had problems keeping up with my peers and was tired all the time. Actually I can hardly remember a life without feeling tired 24/7. My CFS has become worse over the last few years though, and I'm sure my deep depression over baldness hasn't made it any better. It's not just tiredness over baldness though, it goes way beyond that. I can hardly walk up regular stairs or a slightly steep hill. I yawn and ache for sleep throughout my day, every day. Even typing on my computer makes my muscles ache sometimes. Despite of this though, I would say I suffer a relatively mild form of CFS. The worst cases of CFS have to lay in a dark room 24/7 and has to be fed, hardly able to open their eyes. But I do struggle a lot just functioning every day, and have to save my energy for where I need it the most. It's exhausting.

 

[shookwun]

"Why is life so unfair?" I have asked myself this question many times. And I have come to realise; there is no answer. It all comes down to luck and genetics, that's it. Life is random and pre-determined all at the same time. It f-cking sucks when good people are forced to live subhuman lives, while bad people get all the luck in the world. I know I'm not the unluckiest person in the world, and that there are people worse off than me. But it pisses me off that I have been aggressively balding since 20, suffer from CFS, tinnitus and chronic anxiety and depression when I have done nothing to deserve it - at least in my own eyes. I have asked myself why I had to suffer this fate, but I simply have no answer… I feel like I'm being punished for something, but I don't know what it is. Life f-cking sucks sometimes (more like all the time for me), but we have to just learn to live with the cards we've been dealt. Either that, or commit suicide (which I don't recommend of course).

are you still seeing Chad? (that guy you went out with a few times. Had good feelings about)

 

[EvilLocks]

are you still seeing Chad? (that guy you went out with a few times. Had good feelings about)

Haha Chad? No, I'm not seeing him anymore.

 

[shookwun]

Haha Chad? No, I'm not seeing him anymore.

care to elaborate why it didn't move forward?


You had good feelings, but mentioned how it would be difficult for you get close because that would involve him evebntually finding out about your hair loss. I take it, you are the one that called it off.,

 

[Dante92]

Today a girl finally told me that she loves me.

 

[Zoro]

Absolute bullshit. I hate the damn fear mongering that exists on the internet, including here. Yeah, if you really claim you started losing hair at 15, then it would not be a wise choice to hop on Finasteride. But surely you can hop on it at 17 or 18.
This fearmongering is ruining people's lives. Odds are, you won't get side effects. And if you do, it will not persist after getting off the medication. SO PEOPLE WHO ARE SCARED TO GET ON finasteride, DON'T FALL FOR THIS FEARMONGERING BULLSHIT. Sorry to make an example out of OP, but for people too scared to take the medication, you'll end up exactly like this dude, all depressed, asking why life is unfair. And then, the biggest regret you'll have is not hopping on finasteride earlier.
Again, sorry OP. I'm not blaming you for your decision to pass on finasteride. It's the internet's fault, it's your doctor's fault.

This is so true x1000, if I started taking finasteride a year earlier when I heard about it I would be in a much, much better position. Of course it's my own fault for not taking it, but after hearing people online calling it a feminizing drug and other BS like that it does give you second thoughts

 

[jd_uk]

This is so true x1000, if I started taking finasteride a year earlier when I heard about it I would be in a much, much better position. Of course it's my own fault for not taking it, but after hearing people online calling it a feminizing drug and other BS like that it does give you second thoughts

It is a feminizind drug whether we like it or not. DHT is a masculien hormone and therefore removing it is feminising. Just sad that it is the best 'treatment' there is.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

It is a feminizind drug whether we like it or not. DHT is a masculien hormone and therefore removing it is feminising. Just sad that it is the best 'treatment' there is.

Finasteride is overwhelmingly demonstrated to sometimes feminize men.

What's worse, is that nobody can have any hint in advance of taking finasteride if they are at serious risk of side effects, and which side effects. It's Russian roulette. Maybe you'll gets stronger erections. Maybe you'll get no more erections. Maybe you'll get strong regrowth. Maybe you'll get incredible itch like several posters on this forum. There's no way to know in advance, no way to estimate the odds.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Not according to Merck, the company founder.

They seem to buy people, and still continue to deny it. If they don't do it, there marketing crew will.

Why did you change your screenname?

Merck claiming that finasteride is fine is no different than the tobacco companies claiming cigarettes are fine or coca cola paying nutritionists to defend soft drinks. It's what large American companies do.

 

[EvilLocks]

care to elaborate why it didn't move forward?


You had good feelings, but mentioned how it would be difficult for you get close because that would involve him evebntually finding out about your hair loss. I take it, you are the one that called it off.,

He was just not the right guy for me, I didn't feel strongly enough for him to reveal my secret. I will only reveal my secret when I'm 100% sure I have found the right guy.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

He was just not the right guy for me, I didn't feel strongly enough for him to reveal my secret. I will only reveal my secret when I'm 100% sure I have found the right guy.

Is your secret the hair extensions, the CFS, or something else?

 

[shookwun]

He was just not the right guy for me, I didn't feel strongly enough for him to reveal my secret. I will only reveal my secret when I'm 100% sure I have found the right guy.

Did you experience what I like to call the honey moon encounters, where you meet someone, and the first few dates are amazing but then seem to go down hill from there. it's as though you find out so much, so quickly that you loose interests as time goes. Realizing you don't like them as much as you initially thought you would.

I feel women are much different for selective mating. I have been in situations where I hit it off great, and then it seemed to go south afterwards. It's as though our views, and how we perceive everything seems to matter that much more. What you say can make or break a connection.

For a guy, if we like what we see, that's often enough. But I have come to believe that women must be engaged on a deeper level, for her to truly want to be with you.

 

[EvilLocks]

Is your secret the hair extensions, the CFS, or something else?

Well, mainly the hair. I don't like to talk about my CFS either but since it obviously limits my life a lot it has to come up. The hair is something I'm way more embarrassed about, so it's very, very hard for me to talk about...

 

[EvilLocks]

Did you experience what I like to call the honey moon encounters, where you meet someone, and the first few dates are amazing but then seem to go down hill from there. it's as though you find out so much, so quickly that you loose interests as time goes. Realizing you don't like them as much as you initially thought you would.

I feel women are much different for selective mating. I have been in situations where I hit it off great, and then it seemed to go south afterwards. It's as though our views, and how we perceive everything seems to matter that much more. What you say can make or break a connection.

For a guy, if we like what we see, that's often enough. But I have come to believe that women must be engaged on a deeper level, for her to truly want to be with you.

Yes, that is exactly how it was. And you are right about women having to be engaged on a deeper level, at least that's how it is for me.

 

[EvilLocks]

I'm sure I could have kept on fooling around with him for fun, I mean - the intimacy was nice. But I don't want to move forward with someone when I feel deep down that it's not right. I'm getting older, and I realise more and more that I want a life partner - not a boy toy.

 

[CopeForLife]

B – balding

 

[shookwun]

B – balding

looks fine. able to pull it off.

lucky

 

[Swoop]

Did you experience what I like to call the honey moon encounters, where you meet someone, and the first few dates are amazing but then seem to go down hill from there. it's as though you find out so much, so quickly that you loose interests as time goes. Realizing you don't like them as much as you initially thought you would.

Jup. Just normal process of pure lust initially followed by the honeymoon phase which is always almost fine from my experience. After that comes the long term commitment, which is a whole different story.

 

[IggyPop]

looks fine. able to pull it off.

lucky

Are you serious, he went from 9.5 to 6.....

True story: I even once read a discussion by two sl*ts who were admiring his looks (with hair) and then one of them posted a bald pic and wrote: "Btw this is how he looks today, there you see how much difference hair can make...."

 

[IggyPop]

This is so true x1000, if I started taking finasteride a year earlier when I heard about it I would be in a much, much better position. Of course it's my own fault for not taking it, but after hearing people online calling it a feminizing drug and other BS like that it does give you second thoughts

Yeah, same goes for the rubbish about how it is normal to lose about 100 hairs a day. This kept me in denial for 4-5 more months and probably cost me 0.5 Norwood. IT IS NOT NORMAL WHEN YOU SUDDENLY LOSE 60 HAIRS INSTEAD OF 10!!!!