Is it normal to still think of an ex and even get a bit sad after years?

[I wont lose this]

i know that feel
imglad my brain has seem to forgotten her thanks to no contact but i still think about it if that makes sense

A year no contact here. These months that have passed were surely.... painful

 

[Feelsbadman]

A year no contact here. These months that have passed were surely.... painful

in time you'll forget (unless you look at pictures and things of her)
i don't know if its a good or bad thing sadly

 

[vondoom]

no, thats not normal... it is actually pathetic if you cant let go...
you are so fixed on the idea of having a gf, as if it makes your life better... it wont, you got to do that on your own...
the only reason why you think of here is because you cant get any other (or you think you cant) and as long as you think like that, you wont...
goes for everyone here who is stil thinking about the ex, you are not teenagers anymore...

 

[Feelsbadman]

no, thats not normal... it is actually pathetic if you cant let go...
you are so fixed on the idea of having a gf, as if it makes your life better... it wont, you got to do that on your own...
the only reason why you think of here is because you cant get any other (or you think you cant) and as long as you think like that, you wont...
goes for everyone here who is stil thinking about the ex, you are not teenagers anymore...

How can I let go man?
It's been 3 years and i haven't had an experience of been with a girl like her since

it's easy to let go if i had multiple women and girlfriends

 

[vondoom]

How can I let go man?
It's been 3 years and i haven't had an experience of been with a girl like her since

it's easy to let go if i had multiple women and girlfriends

most likely the only way is a new one... or at least date a few others, sure easier said than done, but i think that is what should be done.. be out among people, that is a little distraction and is a good thing to do anyway...

i had the same issue when my third gf left me overnight without a trace... for a few years i couldnt get over it... one night stands didnt help, fwb didnt help, but one day i just didnt care anymore because i had enough other sh*t to do... didnt have a gf for about ten years after her, because circumstances, but that didnt bother me that much...

a good start is not to mention her every day^^

 

[Feelsbadman]

most likely the only way is a new one... or at least date a few others, sure easier said than done, but i think that is what should be done.. be out among people, that is a little distraction and is a good thing to do anyway...

i had the same issue when my third gf left me overnight without a trace... for a few years i couldnt get over it... one night stands didnt help, fwb didnt help, but one day i just didnt care anymore because i had enough other sh*t to do... didnt have a gf for about ten years after her, because circumstances, but that didnt bother me that much...

a good start is not to mention her every day^^

Yea well that's happened to me
i've forgotten about it now and im happy i haven't relapsed by looking her up on facebook
it's somewhere in the back of my mind now
i hve a vague memory of it bu i ush it away

But it's the worst when i go to movies or places and think i miss dating
oh well.

 

[Feelsbadman]

was thinking about her today

f*****g blows


i seriously rekcon my life would be better/ id do better in all aspects of life (e..g more moivated to work hrd and be motivted) if i had a gf and was more fullfilled / not ugly

f*** it was such a long time ago and i sill miss it
fml