Is the main battle with yourself?

[uncomfortable man]

Why the stong kneejerk reaction to glaze over, minimize and trivialize the balding experience? Its because they want to maintain a thin layer of civility and moral/political correctness. There is what people say, and then there is the truth. Bald guys are just in a position to see firsthand how people contradict what they say by their behavior and actions everyday. We see through the bull****. The same bull**** that certain members on this forum choose to cling to.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Unfortunately, its human nature now a days to be attracted to "perfection". The further you are from "perfection", the lower your social tier. So many people strive for perfection that our cosmetic doctors are booked up weeks in advance especially if they are really stellar doctors. When people get rejection, they always find fault with themselves and justify their rejection with some type of physical flaw. They never give a second thought that maybe the person doing the rejection has their own issues that makes them very unaccepting. We always make everything about ourselves. Once you have the mindset, which is very challenging for most people, to no longer care what people think about you and that no one is your "judge or jury", you will be free of the "power" you let other people hold over you.

And UM, I have said this before. There is not doubt in my mind you are a good person and have a lot to contribute. However, if people mock you then its because they are jealous of you. They see something in you they want and feel powerless until they can regain that power and find something to mock about you. Your height maybe a challenge for some as height is sign of power and authority. Your lack of hair is always going to be the easier target. Once someone finds that "bullseye" on your body, they shoot right at it. When you look like a guy like Stephen Amell (the Arrow) or his cousin Robbie, that target is maybe almost impossible to find so most people become powerless when these guys take the center stage. Most men cannot compete with guys like these. However, once these guys start balding, its game over for them because their "bullseye" becomes very obvious. The media will always find the "bullseye" if you can't.

Fred, I would agree that not everything can be accomplished even if you put the right mindset to it. However, the fact that you make an effort to do so is very commendable because it shows that you are trying to achieve a positive outcome and with the laws of statistics eventually with enough chance you might beat the odds. Life is all about chance. Yes, definitely when the odds are stacked against you, its so much easier to never to pursue the chance of success.

And to sum it all up, Society is true "hell". Life is a "b**ch" And some may question, why are we really here? Supposedly our purpose is to give service to mankind and help our civilization survive. I guess the survival of the fittest is very true. Just remember, each and everyone here is very special in their own way. Sometimes people might not want to accept how special you are until they realize, they need you more than you need them.

 

[swingline747]

A myriad of reasons why I hate being bald. How I am treated by the masses, having to adopt a look that I don't want, just to look half decent, loss of identity, not being able to blend in(especially as a natural introvert), and looking uglier.
Most on here are kids who want hair mainly to attract women. Nothing wrong with that, but when some posters are stating they so handsome before hairloss, and now they are obtain 5s, then its pure vanity. That high school jock, macho bulls**t. Strutting, preening, posturing alpha-male jackoffs. The same people who would ridicule me for the way I look generally.
Perhaps losing half a dozen strands will promote some humility.

There is nothing wrong with vanity, vanity is a good thing or none of us would wash or wear deodorant. Wed all be walking around in mismatch sweats and there would be NO psychical attraction what so ever. People would not take care of themselves and just get fat and pass on disease.
We find things attractive for more than just societal reasons, its to further our species health as well. On average physically attractive things are usually healthier and genetically better.
On that note I did look great with hair.... I do not without. I have a HUGE guido nose and forhead now that looks fuqing ridiculous without the lower hairline to make them more charming than disfiguring. I could honestly care LESS about the rest of society because 90% of them are mentally RETARDED! 99% of people are followers. Even those jocks and "alphas". Trust me I have had "alpha" guys eating out of the palms of my hands because EVERYONE wants someone else to blame. Why do you think regimes like Nazis become so popular. When schit hits the fan people like to point the finger.
Either way attracting the opposite sex is more than just "sex" now. Its job interviews, information, politics, personal growth. Theres way more than getting laid when dealing with the other half today and the fact you cant see that is scary.
If women want you then men will want to be around you.... regardless of hair, but we all know women do NOT want bald guys unless they are 6-4 and have super chiseled faces.
Now loss of identity is ALSO vanity or else you would make a new identity and move on like a grown up, but YOU CANT so you are no better than anyone else here and acting like you are is not going to help your case.

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Like Captain said, if 80% of men realised that they were truly doomed and that they will never get anything except the very occasional drunk sex, there would be riots.

I know I seem to make everything revolve around women, but to me, women are the best indicator of your attractiveness and your social worth (these are strongly linked).

I'd say to slybaldguys, those naysayers about the horror of balding just shave their heads in a NW5 fashion and then just talk to 50 women between 18 and 25 years old.

When they arrive at the 50th reaction of disgust, they will know the truth.

Basically we would have groups like ISIS everywhere. One of their main selling points to these drudges of men is a "sex life", which is pretty much "raping infidels".

Sly bald guys are shot in the head, well most of them. Its the usual "well if a woman doesnt like me cause Im bald then its not a woman I would want to hang out with" (emphasis on the "I" cause they are such prizes), or "my wife loves my bald head", no she doesnt you asshat.... she is just happy she can now get fat and you cant say anything... Im going through it NOW!
Or one of my personal favs "women love rubbing my bald head"
NO ONE IS WALKING UP TO YOU ASKING TO RUB YOUR HEAD YOU DOLT! NO ONE DOES THAT!

I mean if you like the look and it makes you feel good then by all means enjoy but dont flaunt it like ANY guy can do it cause they cant, I CANT, I tried.


Im trying to get past all this now. Im not going to complain about my situation with hair, or try not to because in the end there ARE much worse things that can happen and wollowing in pity is not going to make us look "better". If a guy ever comments on my hair I will hit him. I actually beat the crap out of some guy in a diner years ago cause he made fun of my hair style when I HAD hair.... let alone this guy was "sly" lol, so looking back he was prob jealous and I get it.
Honestly I have been hankering for a fight to burn some steam so maybe I will get lucky and some anus tard will say something to me and I can pummel him in front of his girlfriend (or get my *** kicked.... anythings possible).
I have honestly been in debate of just shaving it again and hoping the new hairline is enough to fool people.

 

[bilboswaggins]

One of the main reasons I don't socialise much anymore is that I know some of my "friends" will find pleasure in knowing im losing my hair. I don't want to give them the satisfaction of feeling superior to me now that I've been hit by this condition

 

[zdm632]

One of the main reasons I don't socialise much anymore is that I know some of my "friends" will find pleasure in knowing im losing my hair. I don't want to give them the satisfaction of feeling superior to me now that I've been hit by this condition

Maybe you value too much other's opinion about you.
Feeling superior about having much hair than other person is quite dumb, in my opinion.
You said it well, "friends", not friends. If that's all they see at you, less hair, then it's not worth socialising with them.
I could care less about the opinion of superficial-minded people about my hair. If they want to feel superior just because they have more hair, ok. Their problem, not mine.

 

[zdm632]

No, it becomes your problem too. Just like this stupid "She isn't worth my time if she hates my baldness!"

Well you're going to have fun when you realise the vast majority of women are all of a sudden not worth your time.

Let's not fool ourselves, we care about others opinion, and others can about what we look like, especially women.

You can't get sex or affection, you can't get respect from society anymore, so it becomes your problem wether you want it or not.

Sex, maybe. Even if we need to research more on the supposition that some women find bald men very sexy.
Respect from society denied because of being bald? I don't think so...Only from the dumb-superficial part of society, which unfortunately seems to be very big, but still...
LEt's not mess up the sex/affection part with the career part. I really don't think baldness affects your career, unless, of course, you're an actor or something like this.

 

[zdm632]

It does affect your career, since you're interviewed by shallow dumb 24 year old girls for a job.

What do you think are their thoughts when a 25 years old NW5 steps into her office?

Where in the world, for what job are you interviewed by 24 year -old, and dumb on top of that??

 

[billybob mcdougal]

A lot of people want to believe anything can be accomplished by anyone if he has the right mindset. This positivity trend is BS.

It's reassuring to tell oneself that there is a way out. A lot of people will think: "Why am I failing? It must be because I'm too negative"

People will tell that person the same: "It's not because you're balding and not pleasing to the eye that no woman wants to get romantically involved with you!"

No, it's because he's "negative". He should be positive, confident, he should go up to that hot 20 year old hottie with a big smile and everything will be fine.

So he goes for it and gets shot down, again and again. People will say it must be his attitude or something. No, it's his NW4, he will never get that kind of woman.

He could if he goes into warrior mode and approach 50 women like that a day, eventually one will say yes, and it will be like winning the lottery for that guy.

Like Captain said, if 80% of men realised that they were truly doomed and that they will never get anything except the very occasional drunk sex, there would be riots.

I know I seem to make everything revolve around women, but to me, women are the best indicator of your attractiveness and your social worth (these are strongly linked).

I'd say to slybaldguys, those naysayers about the horror of balding just shave their heads in a NW5 fashion and then just talk to 50 women between 18 and 25 years old.

When they arrive at the 50th reaction of disgust, they will know the truth. And that's how you'll also be treated by the rest of society, to summarise: not worth their time.

People want to hang out with cool people, people that look normal enough to do bold and fun things, like hang out with women at parties.

Bald men? "Come on, that would be weird, don't tell Jerry the Bald guy to come with us! He will creep out the ladies!"

Bald men are only useful when they can be laughed at in a group, so the other members can feel superior to them.

"Warrior mode"......oh right, didn't know the dating game was a modern day battlefield. You have to let it go, woman aren't interested anyway, its consuming youre whole being.

 

[billybob mcdougal]

It may not be the case in Bulgaria.

Ever heard of HR departments?



What? I have no trouble getting women, and I'm not consuming myself dating women.

With the end rush to get my master, my full-time job and my girlfriend, I don't have the time to do that right now.

It has nothing to do with an obsession. Like I've said, you want to know your real worth? Open a dozen of women, you will know.

Been married, two of her friends fancied me. On the round I work delivering the mail, there is three who fancy me. Yes this fact, not fabricated in my twisted mind. Pulled so many women its shocking(when take a look at my appearance). My self worth needs not to be validated by a females opinion. If that was the case, my self esteem would be sky high.

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Women want a good slap and tickle just as much as men. For physicality, most desire a masculine male. There is no better than a malformed cranium headed, hideous, bald beast of a specimen than I, hence the amount of women that want my large one. With a few subtle changes in appearance, I would a prime candidate for escort work....now finding a coherent female for a LTR is a different kettle of fish.

 

[swingline747]

Been married, two of her friends fancied me. On the round I work delivering the mail, there is three who fancy me. Yes this fact, not fabricated in my twisted mind. Pulled so many women its shocking(when take a look at my appearance). My self worth needs not to be validated by a females opinion. If that was the case, my self esteem would be sky high.

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Women want a good slap and tickle just as much as men. For physicality, most desire a masculine male. There is no better than a malformed cranium headed, hideous, bald beast of a specimen than I, hence the amount of women that want my large one. With a few subtle changes in appearance, I would a prime candidate for escort work....now finding a coherent female for a LTR is a different kettle of fish.

Id really love to know the caliber of these women physically.

Either way my GF works HR and she will even agree a better looking guy with even a few less qualifications will get moved to the top of the pile because "they know he can be trained to do the job".

I really find your stories to be quite fake. Are you one of those guys who when a woman asks for the time "man this chick wants me to PLOW HER HARD!"

 

[billybob mcdougal]

Every woman whose had the honour of gobbling on my large one has been a perfectly structured, sublime creation. The last one I straddled was a horny housewife. I parked up and waited for her NW2 nimrod of a husband to leave the house. I knocked on the door, was invited in, and whilst her friend waited lookout downstairs, followed the aforementioned magnificent creature upstairs, where I proceeded to straddle her. Approx 5mins passed, she came, then 20secs thereafter I expelled my swimless tadpoles into her flawless, flaccid, flange. I then promptly left, quite a load lighter.
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[doublebatman]

Id really love to know the caliber of these women physically.

Either way my GF works HR and she will even agree a better looking guy with even a few less qualifications will get moved to the top of the pile because "they know he can be trained to do the job".

I really find your stories to be quite fake. Are you one of those guys who when a woman asks for the time "man this chick wants me to PLOW HER HARD!"

Where I work (health) when we're sifting through applications we have no access to the names, let alone photos of the people applying. I see plenty of baldies when we are interviewing and I can categorically say that being bald won't make any difference to your chances if you answer the questions well.

Outside of where I work I'm sure it's a different ball game. You try applying for a job in a surf shop or a trendy clothes store and your appearance will be more relevant than your experience or skills

 

[swingline747]

Every woman whose had the honour of gobbling on my large one has been a perfectly structured, sublime creation. The last one I straddled was a horny housewife. I parked up and waited for her NW2 nimrod of a husband to leave the house. I knocked on the door, was invited in, and whilst her friend waited lookout downstairs, followed the aforementioned magnificent creature upstairs, where I proceeded to straddle her. Approx 5mins passed, she came, then 20secs thereafter I expelled my swimless tadpoles into her flawless, flaccid, flange. I then promptly left, quite a load lighter.
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and I dont believe a god damned thing you say

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Where I work (health) when we're sifting through applications we have no access to the names, let alone photos of the people applying. I see plenty of baldies when we are interviewing and I can categorically say that being bald won't make any difference to your chances if you answer the questions well.

Outside of where I work I'm sure it's a different ball game. You try applying for a job in a surf shop or a trendy clothes store and your appearance will be more relevant than your experience or skills

Doesnt matter believe me or not, she says there's an expression with women in HR

"do you want to give the nut to the cute squirrel with the fuzzy tail or a rat". Im sure if its a blue collar job where its guys interviewing then you have a shot but anywhere where I applied and got hired in the past it turned out to be because the HR woman or manager thought I was cute and could have cared less about my resume. And these were blue collar then. Even now my ex boss who hired me for my current job (ive said this story before) WHO IS A LESBIAN, said the fact I was "a cutie" was a huge perk for me. Had I been shaving my head at that time and as thin as now Im sure I would not have been so lucky.

 

[billybob mcdougal]

Please believe me, I really value youre opinion.

 

[swingline747]

Please believe me, I really value youre opinion.

doesnt matter your stories are full BS or your just hooking up with fatties. I wouldnt doubt your another one of the banned guys with a new name again.

 

[billybob mcdougal]

I met my ex wife at 23 when I had a severe receeding hairline, and was painfully thin. I am now an alpha male(unlike you). 6ft 3", 104kg of raw power. I have celtic/norse blood coursing through my veins. I have stated before, I look like stone cold.
Please refrain from using the lords name in vain. Considering America is the world leader in religion, you guys used that term an awful lot.

 

[swingline747]

I met my ex wife at 23 when I had a severe receeding hairline, and was painfully thin. I am now an alpha male(unlike you). 6ft 3", 104kg of raw power. I have celtic/norse blood coursing through my veins. I have stated before, I look like stone cold.
Please refrain from using the lords name in vain. Considering America is the world leader in religion, you guys used that term an awful lot.

yeah now I know youre full of schit

 

[billybob mcdougal]

Ok, you got me. I am 5ft 4", incel, living at home with mummy, don't work, don't drive, never been married, and I look like an even skinnier version of Michael Stipe.

 

[swingline747]

Ok, you got me. I am 5ft 4", incel, living at home with mummy, don't work, don't drive, never been married, and I look like an even skinnier version of Michael Stipe.

This I believe

 

[benjt]

Let me quote:
"Any man who must say, 'I am the king', is no true king."


Same holds for self-proclaimed "alphas". If you have to rub it into people's faces that you're alpha you are many things, but certainly not "alpha".