Jawdropping Family Comments on Your Hairloss?

[The Gardener]

Aaah, its the holidays, which means food, drink, and family get-togethers. Now, we all know that most relatives would try to be kind and understanding about a topic as sensitive as hairloss. However, there are always a few incidents (sometimes inspired by alcohol, or perhaps innocent insensitivity) where a family member makes an infamously memorable comment about your hairloss.

Have any of you ever had this happen? What is the WORST comment that a family member has ever made to you about your hairloss?

For me, I have an uncle back east who I have not seen very often at all. Well, I see him for the first time in maybe 5 years, and he says to me "Wow, Gardener, you are starting to look middle aged! And you're losing your hair!"

Thanks uncs, for shouting that to the entire group. The comment was so brutal I had no idea how to even respond, much less get my jaw picked up off of the floor. I just said "uh, yeah, that would be true" and walked away.

 

[Aplunk1]

I was at a party in the summer of 2005 with some friends, and my girlfriend's best friend asked, in front of about 10 people, "Hey, you have a baldspot? Or is because you dyed your hair?"

I said I'm growing my hair out because I dyed it, but I was definitely thinning.

LoL, not as good as yours, G, but embarassing nonetheless.

 

[Felk]

My girlfriend relatively recently after seeing a picture of me - "I think you looked heaps younger with long curly hair... you looked like this... this gorgeous little angel"

Meh i don't really mind, I was sixteen in the photo and she was being all "aaaw" and cutesy, it's to be expected.

 

[The Gardener]

My girlfriend relatively recently after seeing a picture of me - "I think you looked heaps younger with long curly hair... you looked like this... this gorgeous little angel"

Ha ha ha! That's hilarious, I had the exact same experience with an ex. We were looking at pictures from my youth, and she says "damn, what happened with your HAIR!?" Now, she expressed it in a playful intonation and didn't mean any insult, but the funny thing was that in my head I was thinking the EXACT same thing just as she said it.

 

[s.a.f]

Well people who hav'nt been effected by hairloss cant understand how you feel, so maybe not all of them who make comments are assholes. I've had them my whole life (not by family though) at school I used to get one kid go on about how I'd be bald before 25. Funnily enough I saw his wedding pic in the local paper aged 25 and he was a nw3.5.

 

[Packers]

My girlfriend relatively recently after seeing a picture of me - "I think you looked heaps younger with long curly hair... you looked like this... this gorgeous little angel"

Ha ha ha! That's hilarious, I had the exact same experience with an ex. We were looking at pictures from my youth, and she says "damn, what happened with your HAIR!?" Now, she expressed it in a playful intonation and didn't mean any insult, but the funny thing was that in my head I was thinking the EXACT same thing just as she said it.

Same here but not as bad. Girlfriend was looking at pitures of me in high school when I had cool gelled up spikey hair and said "aww, you look so good with this hair. why don't you grow it out like that again?" If she only knew... :cry:

 

[IBM]

f*** off to those guys and girls.

 

[Captain Obvious]

Everybody says the same thing about me. "you look so much older". It's obviously a reference to my hair because hair is a sign of youth.

My grandpa is cool enough to mention it discreetly. He's also way bald and has been bald probably ever since my age. He's not blood related though just a coincidence. He really puts me at ease though because he's obviously not affected by it anymore seeing that he's like 78. And I know some day I'll be too old to care as well. Some day...

 

[thiningbigtime]

I have had relatives telling me I was thinning! I have one friend who also has mentioned it and has in front of other friends! Like no sh*t I had not realized it. Thanks for pointing it out!

Why the hell do people do this! Do they think we do not know???!!!

 

[SkylineGTR]

Yeah i feel your pain. I like to wear my bears hat around and my relatives will actually tell me to take it off to see how im progressing.

I know im thinning and balding.. you dont have to remind me.. and im only f*****g 24. My ex used to crack jokes sometimes so id call her fat lol... hence why she is my ex now lmao.

Thats kinda what pushed me to start doing something about it.

 

[Felk]

Everybody says the same thing about me. "you look so much older". It's obviously a reference to my hair because hair is a sign of youth.

My grandpa is cool enough to mention it discreetly. He's also way bald and has been bald probably ever since my age. He's not blood related though just a coincidence. He really puts me at ease though because he's obviously not affected by it anymore seeing that he's like 78. And I know some day I'll be too old to care as well. Some day...

I can only hope your tone then wasn't wistful. By the time you're "too old to care" it's not going to be a "relief", it's because so many other problems are in your mind there is no room for such superficial worries as hair loss.

This knowledge alone should help you from worrying about it now and wasting your time.

 

[Guest]

Everybody says the same thing about me. "you look so much older". It's obviously a reference to my hair because hair is a sign of youth.

My grandpa is cool enough to mention it discreetly. He's also way bald and has been bald probably ever since my age. He's not blood related though just a coincidence. He really puts me at ease though because he's obviously not affected by it anymore seeing that he's like 78. And I know some day I'll be too old to care as well. Some day...

How is your grandpa not blood related to you? I can understand a great uncle not being related but he's one of your parent's parents. Unless one of your parents was adopted? But in that case your grandma wouldn't be blood related to you either, so I'm confused

 

[SkylineGTR]

step-side probably
or a divorce - remarried grandma

 

[Guest]

step-side probably
or a divorce - remarried grandma

ah yeah forgot about that.

 

[recboi]

It wasn't directed towards me, but my hairloss was bothering me a lot, and I got hair transplant, and my parents tried to discourage me, and said hair isn't that important, blah blah, that I was being shallow. Then my mom said she ran into some guy I went to HS with and said "wow, Randy really needs hair transplant badly!" and then my dad and I looked at other other, eyes rolled, and I said "gee, and I was the one being shallow eh?"

 

[DaSand]

The only comment I got was from my older brother saying "You're losing hair just like me..."

My relatives didn't give any comments or insults.

 

[47thin]

That's pretty funny. I can remember saying something that was assholish-
When I was much younger, I had a hair cutter/stylist tell me that it LOOKED like I was losing hair. This began a 26 year obsession with my scalp, which is only now really looking truly transparent. I mentioned it to a guy that had a recedding hairline- " my hair's like your, you know falling out". He say's, " No, my hairlines always been like this..". Several years pass, and I see the guy at a party- and his hairline and widows peak have gone back an inch! he says "Ever since you pointed it out, i started losing hair, and yours is fine! a**h**!" . he was laughing when he said it, but I still obsessed and worried, while others lost more hair than me (up until now). A coward dies a 1,000 deaths, you know.

 

[aussie_dude]

it affects me sometimes too.. ive had so many comments... im only 17 and my nic name is baldy... one time for my 17th bday my mates got me like a cheap wig as a present and i opened it infront of everyone and everyone saw it
but the best thing to do is laugh with it and take it as a joke
when people say your going bald? i go na my forehead is just getting bigger and then laugh... i know its lame but you cant just get embarresed
trust me i have it worse than alot of you and i still take it as a joke
ive gone from a good looking long blonde haired surfer guy
to a shaved head receding hair average looking guy, but ill admit im now pretty muscly and im like 90kg of muscle but still i dont pull as many women as i used to when i was 15-16 but i still have my share
i look at it like this
- i can now try and pull milfs
- i can now go to the bottle shop and buy grog
- i can now get into clubs when my mates cant
everything happens for a reason, just believe in yourself because no one else will do it for ya

 

[s.a.f]

Thats pretty sad, I know it takes effort to crack a smile about it when it really hurts. These people have no idea how it feels but maybe they will in the future.
You are doing the right thing if people see it gets to you they will delight in doing it all the more, and people will think that you are more confident if you dont let it show that it bothers you.

 

[theDudeAbides]

My wife and I arrived at the airport after serving 2 years overseas in the military, and I was happy to see my 2 best friends had come to greet us...

...until one of them walked straight to me and without a hello or a handshake, lifted my baseball cap off my head and then looked at my other friend, as if they had made a bet on the progress of my hair loss over those 2 years.

The guy that took my hat off, BTW, weighs over 300 pounds. I had never, ever messed with him about his weight, knowing he is sensitive about it. I made an exception this time...I looked at him and said, "I might grow my hair back someday, but I'll bet every penny I have that you'll always be a fatass."