Just another story - (pics)

[LookingGood!]

Hair matters most to women? Penis size???? Height? DUde you are a living testament of what men with little confidence think of. Grab your balls and get tough. Bald men get laid man. Penis size, unless you have 2 inches is not a defining difference. Did someone say you are small?? Get out more! You spend more time on these boards then in a bar or club where girls are. Do you even try? Give better advise or just dont say anything! Jeez! :freaked2:

I don't know if you're a dude or a lady, but based on your use of the word 'man' I'm going with... man.

Anyway, personally I'd like more than anything to agree with you, but for some reason I just have trouble with it. Being bald and short, especially at a young age, really does f*** up a lot of your chances. I'm not saying that everyone under these circumstances is completely screwed, but you are at least somewhat screwed. I think it varies from individual to individual, and I think the loss of confidence and the perceived sense of inferiority contribute to the loss of charisma and attractiveness more than the physical symptoms themselves, but nonetheless the physical traits set you back too.

I guess what I'm saying is that I wish I was a ladykiller, but I'm not, so I've become a sad, introverted little $#iT with no confidence. Funny how that happens. Anyway, I'm at the point where I think my hair is a douchebag anyway and he can just leave my head entirely if he thinks he's too cool to put in an honest day's work. I just wish that I had other qualities and physical characteristics that made up for all my flaws, in particular my hair and height. I mean, realistically, some guys are good looking whether or not they have hair, and some aren't good looking either way, and unfortunately for those of us in the second category, the world becomes an empty, vacuous, loveless (including self-love) place to exist.

I disagree with some of the content. I agree that it can challenge your confidence too. I felt that way yrs ago. Dude, you're a good looking guy, your hair isnt bad at all. You do have options. Give the big three: Propecia, minoxidil and Nizoral a chance but do not consider a transplant right now. You are too young, it's expensive and there is risk b/c if your hair progresses then you lose the hair around the hair transplant and it would look freaky.

Maybe your going after the wrong woman. Maybe you're not going after enough at all. It's a numbers game. Dude bald guys get babes. Thinning guys get babes. hair transplant guys get babes too. It's a phase. Many go thru it. You can get thru it. JUST BELIEVE! When you're positive people see it and its infectious. It worked for me. You dont have to be a lady killer to be a hit with the women. I cant tell you how many females like guys with personalities first before the looks.
Stay positive!

 

[LookingGood!]

hump,

I know how you are feeling about looks. I too basically have my happiness determined by how attractive i think i am in that moment in time. Sometimes I look good, sometimes I don't, and I always have hairloss going on right now, but I got hair transplants so I know that will be improved or even great soon enough.

Hiar transplants can deliver for you your hair back, if you want to take the chance. Sounds to me like you don't have alot to live for, so why not go for it. You can make the money...really easily if you become a truck driver. Sure the job sucks but you can make 50 grand a year easy. Maybe that will give you your hair...and you move on from there.

Don't kill yourself...maybe one day you get your hair back (chances are pretty good really, with hair transplants) and you make some money in the stocks, and you get yourself a nice home somewhere with a girl who is cute and sweet. Don't kill yourself because you weren't given these things on a silver platter. Sure it sucks getting there but if you ever get there, you will feel a sense of accomplishment and will appreciate it that much more.

Get on propecia or dutasteride.

Become a truck driver???? What are you a career counselor too???

:x

 

[Guest]

LookingGood,

You can get trucker babes at truck stops with your truck!

Hey baby ignore my Norwood 7 because I'm a mack with a Mack.

Hey whad'ya say?

 

[Follically Challenged]

Hump,

If you are going to get hair transplants, which I recommend for someone who is unhappy with your hairline, wait for the finasteride or dutasteride to be doing the trick. I'd give it 6 months to be pretty sure it will have halted the fallout.

 

[Skaff]

No matter what happens to your hair you've definately been through the worst of it. Things can only get better... high school is a rough place, especially when your losing hair. I think you'll find things get easier as you go into the 'real world'...but you've gotta make an effort. The transition out of high school is a really powerful phase, it's like you're given a clean slate. Use it as an opportunity build a 'new you'. I know it sounds cheesey but it's true. Goodluck

 

[humpthewhales]

No matter what happens to your hair you've definately been through the worst of it. Things can only get better... high school is a rough place, especially when your losing hair. I think you'll find things get easier as you go into the 'real world'...but you've gotta make an effort. The transition out of high school is a really powerful phase, it's like you're given a clean slate. Use it as an opportunity build a 'new you'. I know it sounds cheesey but it's true. Goodluck

The worst of it? I haven't even entered university.

You know, I really am not a complainer by nature. Most of the time I've told myself to suck it up and stop being a b**ch... but I'm sick of it. How many days in a row can you tell yourself to hope things get better and know that they won't? It's been years of a progressively deeper slip into the reality that I've got nothing going for me anymore. The hair isn't the only thing that gets me down... but it's certainly a big one. Just sensing my enormous scalp day in and day out, and being scrutinised by myself and others, and realizing that any potential I saw in myself is truly vanishing... it's too much for me. Some people find other things about themselves which outweigh their negatives, but I don't think everyone has such things... I am of the conviction that some people live a charmed life, some can struggle to reconciliation, and still others are doomed to a life of despair.

I don't wish to be overly negative and drag anyone down with me, but this is the space that I am in, and it's been a long, fruitless struggle. I'm through. Thanks for the advice, all.... I wish I could live up to some of it.