Losing your hair made you resentful towards women?

[s.a.f]

No, not really.

If anything, I became a bit jealous of my friends. When I started to notice my diffuse and receding hairline, I was 22-23 and my friends all seemed to have perfect hair then.
Yet, I had to work hard to have a nice hairstyle and to keep in shape as well. Yet, it felt like most of my friends could go out party (we were at college) eat what they want -stay in shape and have perfect hair.

And I hope you've realised your mistake since.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I think there is a thin line between preference and prejudice. Women like to play the preference card because it gets them off the hook from looking like a bigot. Oh, it's just an innocent preference like choosing blue eyes over brown. But I don't think that is usually the case... I think social standards via media has conditioned women to be prejudiced against bald men. Simply not liking someone because of a physical feature they cannot control is wrong. Just because we don't have hair doesn't mean we don't have emotions and can't feel dammit!

 

[s.a.f]

People who are just plain ugly have feelings to but no one gives them a break.

 

[ghg]

Some of you (the ones that are almost bald, or already bald) probably get rejected for that fact alone, did it made you more resentful to women?

Initially, yes it made me resentful towards women. This became even more of an issue when a particular woman would not only reject me, but also belittle me, act condescending towards me, or plain flat out act like a rude little c*nt towards me ... all because my hair made me apper to be undesirable to them.

But, as the years have gone by, I have come to the realization that it really isn't a woman's fault for rejecting me (this doesn't mean that its OK for them to do any of those other mean things). They are just being women, and the rules of natural selection are in play in my case. It isn't their fault that I was dealt a bad hand genetically. I cannot be angry at them for being who they are.

Hell - if I was a woman ... I'd reject me too! :mrgreen:

and lets say you wake up one morning with a full mop, will you have an urge to 'revenge' your mistreatings?

When I was younger, yes, I would have had the urge to seek revenge. However, like I said above, I have come to the realization that they are not to be blamed for my shortcomings. It isn't their fault that I am undesirable to them.

So, now, I would say "no" and I see no reason to seek revenge on women.

(However, there are many people (men and women) in my past who I'd love to get revenge on who actually went out of their way to consistently make fun of me for being bald (on a regular basis) just to be mean a$$holes. These folks have caused me a lot of emotional pain.

Now they are a different story ... :bigun2: :firing:

Lol, I don't have to answer to this thread 'cause you said it all! I'm not surprised at all that women don't fancy me, it's natural. That's exactly what I said to my therapist, "if I were a woman, I definitely wouldn't want to date someone as flawed as me". Women never game me their time of day even before I was balding, so it's not a surprise that it isn't any easier now.

 

[CaptainForehead]

. That's exactly what I said to my therapist, "if I were a woman, I definitely wouldn't want to date someone as flawed as me". .

What did the therapist say?

 

[HairPieceMan]

that so stupid, your points are invalidated by the NW5 20 or 30 somethings that are getting married this year!

maybe if you had an actual deformity then yes, ottherwise your "look" is totally normal. especailly since your not that bald, and even if you were, you are still dateable.

 

[ghg]

. That's exactly what I said to my therapist, "if I were a woman, I definitely wouldn't want to date someone as flawed as me". .

What did the therapist say?

Tried to console me of course... saying all the usual stuff about how everyone doesn't see the flaws in the same way etc. Of course that's true, but it isn't true that it doesn't make dating and mating any harder. It makes it just that much harder.