Love has knocked my door
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hairwegoagain
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Well, did you speak to her? Did you give her any indication that you are fond of her?
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i cant help you , IBM, sorry.
IBM, if you are getting abusive PM's report it to the Mods - there's no reason anyone should feel bullied here - we're all balding bastards and that makes us all equal.
As for the girl, do you work with her? Do you get to spend time with her? If so, see if you can find a little common ground and start from there. Share your experience of books and films. Find out what she's interested in and research it so you make small talk. If she's shy or timid you can draw her out. Make her attentive to you by paying attention to her.
Don't let her get away without letting her know you're at least a little interested. If it fails what the hell...at least you won't spend the rest of your life wondering.
We all know you have a little poetry in you - we've seen it in your posts. Go with that.
And good luck.
As for the girl, do you work with her? Do you get to spend time with her? If so, see if you can find a little common ground and start from there. Share your experience of books and films. Find out what she's interested in and research it so you make small talk. If she's shy or timid you can draw her out. Make her attentive to you by paying attention to her.
Don't let her get away without letting her know you're at least a little interested. If it fails what the hell...at least you won't spend the rest of your life wondering.
We all know you have a little poetry in you - we've seen it in your posts. Go with that.
And good luck.
well IBM I don’t wanna sound negative...but you are just like me defensive, straight, and up tight... so let me tell you, you like her a lot you look at her like you are looking at a beauty queen you know what she likes and she does not like you are curious about her you want to know what did she do yesterday, what she is doing today , and what she is planning to do tomorrow, you look at her you say to yourself I will make you the happiest woman in the world...but does she know about your feeling?? no and she will never know because you cant express yourself, defensive, and you think that she wont like you once she get to know better...she is going to leave its going to hurt but you gonna forget about her after a while just like every girl you see and like every once in a while.
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hey IBM, i think you slowly have to change your ways around her. Eye contact is huge!!! Through out the day try get some eye contact happening, if you get her looking back, thats an awesome start. Then slowly slowly start to chat to her, you could just start with her how was the weekend blah blha blah. Try loosin up, believe me you can get her if you want. Also make sure your well groomed in all ways, dress well, wear a nice cologn... Goodluck and keep us updated
p.s if you have started to think you could live with girl, then you have to force your self to make an effort around her, even if you sh*t yourself, you got to do it.... you will be amazed...
p.s if you have started to think you could live with girl, then you have to force your self to make an effort around her, even if you sh*t yourself, you got to do it.... you will be amazed...
It sounds like you are too shy with her. The first thing you need to do is put the confidence in yourself that you have nothing to lose. If she says no, great, she moves away. Don't fear rejection because it's a part of life. Try something like this next time you are at work. Make eye contact with her, when she looks back smile at her, then walk over to her and start a random conversation. Talk about something that isn't everyday like the weather. Just be relaxed, and introduce yourself then initiate a conversation. Talk about something that you have a sense of humor in. Make her smile and feel good about herself. The main things are CONFIDENCE, RELAXED, INITIATION. Just let everything go with the flow man. Remember that if you don't make a move soon, then you will never know.
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where are you from? how old are you?
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yes i think it is.IBM said:
i thought it might help in advising you to know whteher you were like 20 or 40 and what country you're from to get an idea of the culture. but if you don't want to share then fine.
hairwegoagain
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Did you talk to her?
How about asking her to lunch tomorrow?
How about asking her to lunch tomorrow?
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hairwegoagain said:
I lunch with her and our collegues though its very expensive and i cant continue to do this this luxury. And my collegues are not bald, they have better stuff to tell like trips to europe and asia, nights, adventures, etc... I dont fit in this society.
I need money and a lot of it. I've to reshape myself. Right now i've got no conditions.
And i've to be honest an women like that certainly have a boyfriend.
I'll just forget and pretend i dont feel anything for her. I hope someday we work again.
hairwegoagain
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No, I meant why don't you ask her to go to lunch with YOU only?
You can't write every girl off just because *you think* she may have a boyfriend. Some will, some won't. Some may like you, some may not. You have to take some risks, though....or you'll never get anywhere with anyone - that much I can promise you.
You can't write every girl off just because *you think* she may have a boyfriend. Some will, some won't. Some may like you, some may not. You have to take some risks, though....or you'll never get anywhere with anyone - that much I can promise you.
grow some balls, walk up to her talk to her, make her smile and ask her out sometime. Its that simple. If you keep staring at her all day you are never going to get anything. If a girl won't accept you for being bald then f*** her man. If she rejects you you are never going to see the b**ch again.
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hey, just approach her. last night in disco i approached 10 girls i think. nearly a new record lol. but i didnt have success, sadly. though i had some nice conversations. and i know , if i go on like this i will find a girl.
if this girl is nothing for you, then find another. but if you really really like her, then dont give up. the most important is *do something*. with girls you sometimes have to make yourself look stupid. or you have to say something you normally wouldnt say. just to get her. i dont mean lying, but per example when you approach a girl, you normally wouldnt do that with a complete stranger, but you have to do it to even have a chance. so do something be it as stupid as it can be. and remember. faults are there to be done. its good to do faults. you only do faults if you try something new or hard and by that you learn.
if this girl is nothing for you, then find another. but if you really really like her, then dont give up. the most important is *do something*. with girls you sometimes have to make yourself look stupid. or you have to say something you normally wouldnt say. just to get her. i dont mean lying, but per example when you approach a girl, you normally wouldnt do that with a complete stranger, but you have to do it to even have a chance. so do something be it as stupid as it can be. and remember. faults are there to be done. its good to do faults. you only do faults if you try something new or hard and by that you learn.