My blog that sometimes (almost all the time) covers hairloss

[TheGlamorous]

Disclaimer (oct23rd): I've decided to turn this thread into a blog that sometimes (almost all the time) is about me that covers hairloss. Why don't I just keep going on about this in my story thread? Well because this is also about my life, not about my hairloss regimen or progress, although it includes it- of course. So read, weap, smile, or get angry at anything I have to say. If anything positive comes out of this (inspiration? not likely) then cool, if not then it's a place for me to ramble and mumble.


I guess one can say that i've struck a day that I just couldn't be bothered anymore. I knew it last night because I had a bit of a bitching session to my grandma (who I live with) finally expressing to her how I feel about my hair loss. Here is the condensed version.

I SAY
I think I can survive this last 6 weeks of school, but after it's done i'm shaving my head.

SHE SAYS
What are you crazy? You'll look like a dick.

I SAY
No. I'm not crazy. I just... i'm sick of worrying about my hair.

SHE SAYS
Then stop worrying about it. It's fine, really I wouldn't have noticed if you didn't point it out to me.

I SAY
I can't just "stop worrying about it". I've tried and it doesn't work.

SHE SAYS
Well don't shave it! It'll show off your receeding hairline even more.

I SAY
Maybe so, but at least I'll have to bare the brunt of it in my own control. I'd rather choose to shave it off and reveal all, then let my hair slowly disintegrate throughout the next three years.

SHE SAYS
I still think it's a bad idea. Just grow it out and you won't notice a thing.

I SAY
But people have been noticing.

SHE SAYS
Who? What people? Are they important to you?

I SAY
That's not the point. I don't care who notices, i'm just sick of it. Sick of people looking at my hair and wondering whether it's just thin, or that i'm losing it. Wondering if I know, if they should point it out and tell me, or make a joke about it. I'd rather shave it and live my life.

SHE SAYS
Okay. But you have such a small face. And shaved heads look weird. People will think what the hell has he done?

I SAY
That's a possibility. I've also never shaved my head before so I don't know how good or bad it will look. Look, you don't know what it's like to constantly have your hair on your mind all the time. Every mirror makes me look different. Every reflection I see of myself can make my day better or worse. Every time it's sunny and i'm having fun and the wind gusts I feel uneasy. And i'm sick of it.


Bla bla bla - for another half an hour. I had a really good rant.

And I woke up this morning with no will to go to school. I woke up at the same time and looked into the mirror. My hair looked okay, but I couldn't be bothered to try and make it look "good".

I think I just need a day's break. I'll go back to school tomorrow.

 

[Nathaniel]

Ask your grandmother how would she feel if she was losing her hair. I told that to my mother and now she respects and understands my feelings.

And a few words of advice brother, don't try to justify or ask for opinions about your hairloss from people who have no clue about how it feels to lose hair. Most people think balding men have no feelings for their condition, so they try to make it sound like its not important. But it is, so screw them! Get on with a regimen and do not comment it and if you want to shave your head, don't even ask for opinions, just do it. f*** everyone.

 

[TheGlamorous]

Thanks for that, Nathaniel.

That's what I plan on doing.

Deep down I don't give two shits what people think of me. I care what I think of me and at the moment Me doesn't like having hair loss. The outward social limitations are just a consequence of that.

If I happen to Like my head shaved and the majority of people don't like it at all- I won't give a sh*t.

So I hope I like it.

 

[tchehov]

I hope you like it too. I didn't like it but I wouldn't let anyone talk me out of it once I'd made up my mind. And if you don't like it you can always grow it out again. That's the problem with parents/relatives in general - if you want to do something they don't want you to do they try to make like it's the end of the world.

It's your hair - do what you think best.

Nice avatar, by the way.

 

[Rage]

Just say you're shaving it for charity.. and actually do it for charity!

 

[TheGlamorous]

Just say you're shaving it for charity.. and actually do it for charity!

That would be a noble gesture but i'm not looking for excuses for people to make it "acceptable".

 

[s.a.f]

Women in general can't understand and your mum/gran etc are the worst people to talk to it about. In their eyes you will always be a nice handsome young man. And most mothers would'nt want their son to shave his head in case people think he's a thug.

 

[Guest]

SAF is totally right. Most women can't really empathize with the situation.

 

[sphlanx2006]

How the f*ck can u have the EXACT same thoughts as me? I am a bit releaved i can say. I ve missed a lot of classes just because i wake up, look at the mirror and get depressed. Thumbs up for the part u said how a glance at a mirror can make ur day better or worse. I am also at the part where I think whether to shave my head or not...i cant really advise you what to do or not since i am in the very same condition as you are...well i hope you find your solution and u feel good about it i hope that goes for me too! :lol:

 

[TheGlamorous]

How the f*ck can u have the EXACT same thoughts as me? I am a bit releaved i can say. I ve missed a lot of classes just because i wake up, look at the mirror and get depressed. Thumbs up for the part u said how a glance at a mirror can make ur day better or worse. I am also at the part where I think whether to shave my head or not...i cant really advise you what to do or not since i am in the very same condition as you are...well i hope you find your solution and u feel good about it i hope that goes for me too! :lol:

Ahhh *gasps* someone I can relate to in this world. At least partly. Sometimes I think I can't relate fully to anybody on this planet. Wonders if there are any bisexual, balding, eighteen year old only child's out there in the world?.

Okay. So my week since then has been up and down.

Friday
Friday at school was okay I guess. My hair was pretty horrible looking, but it didn't affect me too much.

Monday
Yesterday was probably the worst day at school i've had ever. Between periods and between classes even, and at lunch time and even after school, I was in the toilet mirror having a look at my hair. Sometimes it looked okay. Sometimes it looked sh*t. A few times it looked good.

I came home feeling so bloody stupid, I said to myself- enough. ENOUGH. So I gave it a brush, had a look at it and said to myself "you know what. It looks fine." and that seemed to help for some reason.

That night I had the best night in a long time. I didn't come on to these forums to weap or see if there was some miracle cure being introduced. I worked out. I talked to some mates. I thought about my dreams and aspirations for what's happening when I graduate high school in 4 weeks. I watched some Television without subconsciously being envious of the characters and actors looking so bloody good, compared to me.

I had a really good night, and I managed to organise myself enough to get to bed early for the first time in weeks. Which leads me to:

Tuesday Morning

Tuesday morning I woke up, and I was feeling okay (not the sickness in my stomach to having to worry about my hair the whole day that I sometimes get) but it didn't help that a huge southerly wind was blowing outside. It was blowing at 70km/ph this morning. Never the less I didn't focus on my hair much (about 1/3 as I usually do in the morning) which was about 7 minutes. I put some hairspray in my hair and went to school.

Today at school was the first semi- good day I've had there in a while. I went outside like I remember doing a month or two ago, in the wind. And I didn't care. I went to all my classes and hardly thought about my hair. I was talking and babbling more then usual which was a good release.

I only checked my hair twice today at school, once between periods and once at lunch time. Just out of habit I guess- I wasn't "NEEDING" to check it though which was good.

When I got home I was still feeling good and it's been 5 hours since then and it's been alright. I know my hair isn't the best in the world. But it's not the worst. So how am I after all of this? A bit sad yes, because I am losing a lot because of my hair loss, but I do feel calm which is good.

Let's see how tomorrow goes?

 

[Guest]

The wind is only going to get worse between now and your buzz date. WHy not just buzz it now? You won't have to worry about the wind knocking your hair around and exposing your balding areas. WYSIWYG

What you see is what you get.

If your hair looks pretty thin as you say at 4 inches then it should look a lot better buzzed.

Have you posted pics on here before? I don't remember. If you posted a tell your story thread I probably responded to it because I respond to a lot of them.

Edit: Ah yes I found your tell your story thread. My bad I reply to so many I forgot about it. But i instantly remembered you when I saw your pics.

I think if you are going to keep it long till then that you should keep trying to comb over it as much as possible without it looking too obvious. Just push your hair in towards the center- you have a good hair type for that.

 

[TheGlamorous]

WHy not just buzz it now? You won't have to worry about the wind knocking your hair around and exposing your balding areas. WYSIWYG

Coz my hairline sucks and I have four weeks of school left to go. I'd like to be able to live.

Basically my main concern is, that I buzz it. It looks good. I'm happy. It looks like sh*t. I shave it.

Whether the shaving looks like sh*t or not, i'll still have to give myself a week to tan my scalp enough to make it look semi-normal. And if then I still don't like it, i'll just grow it back.

Hence, going to school every day would be a complete disaster.

I think if you are going to keep it long till then that you should keep trying to comb over it as much as possible without it looking too obvious. Just push your hair in towards the center- you have a good hair type for that.

It actually isn't really that obvious at all. One of my friends was like "wow it's so cool how your hair naturally grows up!". Heh. Dumbass!

I haven't had any combover comments. I'll take a webcam snap now.

http://img223.imageshack.us/img223/8548/meoctcj9.jpg

 

[Guest]

I haven't had any combover comments. I'll take a webcam snap now.

http://img223.imageshack.us/img223/8548/meoctcj9.jpg

doesn't look bad at all man. and you are an attractive guy. so even if you do go to an nw6 you can shave it and look fine. you have great facial features and a great face to pull off the bald look if it becomes necessary. most people on here will agree with me about that

 

[TheGlamorous]

I haven't had any combover comments. I'll take a webcam snap now.

http://img223.imageshack.us/img223/8548/meoctcj9.jpg

doesn't look bad at all man. and you are an attractive guy. so even if you do go to an nw6 you can shave it and look fine. you have great facial features and a great face to pull off the bald look if it becomes necessary. most people on here will agree with me about that

Thanks a million!

Yeah I suppose. I don't know. I love my hair. I want to grow an emo haircut. But nooo. :hairy: If I had really good hair, I would be so self centered and vain right now. Maybe i'm going bald to bring me back down to earth.. Or not. 8)

 

[Guest]

no prob man. i got your private messages and responded. peace.

 

[Nathaniel]

You shouldn't even be considering shaving your head bro.

 

[TheGlamorous]

You shouldn't even be considering shaving your head bro.

Why's that?

 

[Nathaniel]

1) If you get on treatments, you might keep your hair.

2) Even if treatments don't help you, you still have plenty of hair to style for some years. Shave and only shave if your loss is very noticeable (and its not at this point.)

 

[Guest]

1) If you get on treatments, you might keep your hair.

2) Even if treatments don't help you, you still have plenty of hair to style for some years. Shave and only shave if your loss is very noticeable (and its not at this point.)

Since when are head shaving and hair loss treatments mutually exclusive? He can still take finasteride while having a shaved head, he can rub minoxidil on areas he knows are balding, topicals will be easier to apply. Then in a year he can grow it out again and see what regrowth he has gotten.

 

[s.a.f]

Having been there and done it I can say its a fine line to walk. Shave your head when hairloss reaches the point of being too bad. For me I'd say about nw2.5 -3 but until then keep that hair for as long as possible. Unless of course you like the shaved look. Speculum2 may consider his hair to be thin for his age (maybe it is) but the fact remains (as nathaniel pointed out) he still has plenty of hair and will have for a while yet. As for me I shaved my head aged 26 and kept it shaved for 4 yrs until I got hair transplant's. Those were the worst years of my life it did'nt suit me at all but I had no choice.