buckeyeblitz
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Hey guys, I'm a short-time lurker of these forums, and decided I should finally just register. It's been a blessing to find these forums, as it provides me with a place where I can laugh, become motivated, share depression, and above all else, RELATE (something very difficult to do, at my age when it comes to baldness)
I'm a NW3 (and quickly moving up), and believe it or not, I have gotten to this point over the course of about 6 months. I noticed a slight recession at 21, but it was so negligible that nobody noticed, even if I pointed it out. Within the past 3 months, the rate of my hair falling out has increased seemingly tenfold. At the current rate, I should be a full on NW5 by the end of the year, possibly next year. Either way, I'm a 22 yr old college student, and it's pretty difficult.
I always had a very shaggy head of hair, that I used to style, and really based my identity around. I never had sharp features (very babyfaced), so having great hair really was my saving grace, that and being 6'3 (albeit relatively thin).
Being that I have lost my hair so ridiculously quickly, I have unfortunately been exposed to how much it changes your dating life. This has also been exacerbated by the fact that last month I finally had to cut the shaggy hair I have always had, and had to break out the number 1 guard. Short hair never really suited me, and certainly, short hair with a five (six, seven?) head really doesn't do me any favors.
All of that aside, I am still myself, and so despite such a drastic change in my appearance, I am still unfortunately mentally accustomed to being treated a certain way by women. I have always been mildly successful with girls. I have to work for them and go out of my way, but I have always been able to land about 1-2 good looking girls a year, and maybe get attention from lesser girls on a monthly basis.
That all has seemed to disappear, and not for a lack of confidence, or a change in my behaviors, as I have to credit myself for being very positive, unassuming, and brave through this whole sh*t storm.
I am not ridiculed, so much as just invisible. In some sense, I feel as though no girls truly view me as a peer. Girls 18-20 who were previously right in my wheelhouse (girls always seem to like guys a couple years older) now view me as being too old. Girls my own age seem to have the same thought. I am paradoxically young looking, and old looking all at once. I don't have the striking, masculine features to attract older girls. Not even close, in fact, my attempts are really just viewed as comical or endearing.
to younger girls, im creepy and awkward, to older ones, I'm endearing.
Remember, prior to this whole thing, I had the same issues, but to a much lesser extent, and there were at least scattered and moderately consistent successes.
Despite this, I feel bound and determined to get it right. I do not view this as the end, so much as an awkward transition phase. Although I know my baldness will progress, I know that this will be the most difficult time. I am not used to it, I have not developed the coping skills, the confidence, or at least the ambivalence, so this is quite difficult now.
I have started a very strict workout regime, which has yielded great results, but so far, hasn't translated to any more attention from the opposite sex. I suppose facial attractiveness is far more important than bodily aestheticness, because if a guy with a full head of hair had my body, they would clean up (I know that sounds both whiney and smug, but you'd be hardpressed to convince me otherwise).
I read the posts here, and oddly, I am more pessimistic. I very much hope that the negative posts here are a result of the nature of the boards (a support forum, afterall), but they certainly help me in knowing that others suffer a similar affliction.
This is getting long, and I have a lot to say, but I'll leave that for future posts. Thanks for being here guys, and I look forward to sharing advice, successes, failures, and good humour with you all!
-buckeye
I'm a NW3 (and quickly moving up), and believe it or not, I have gotten to this point over the course of about 6 months. I noticed a slight recession at 21, but it was so negligible that nobody noticed, even if I pointed it out. Within the past 3 months, the rate of my hair falling out has increased seemingly tenfold. At the current rate, I should be a full on NW5 by the end of the year, possibly next year. Either way, I'm a 22 yr old college student, and it's pretty difficult.
I always had a very shaggy head of hair, that I used to style, and really based my identity around. I never had sharp features (very babyfaced), so having great hair really was my saving grace, that and being 6'3 (albeit relatively thin).
Being that I have lost my hair so ridiculously quickly, I have unfortunately been exposed to how much it changes your dating life. This has also been exacerbated by the fact that last month I finally had to cut the shaggy hair I have always had, and had to break out the number 1 guard. Short hair never really suited me, and certainly, short hair with a five (six, seven?) head really doesn't do me any favors.
All of that aside, I am still myself, and so despite such a drastic change in my appearance, I am still unfortunately mentally accustomed to being treated a certain way by women. I have always been mildly successful with girls. I have to work for them and go out of my way, but I have always been able to land about 1-2 good looking girls a year, and maybe get attention from lesser girls on a monthly basis.
That all has seemed to disappear, and not for a lack of confidence, or a change in my behaviors, as I have to credit myself for being very positive, unassuming, and brave through this whole sh*t storm.
I am not ridiculed, so much as just invisible. In some sense, I feel as though no girls truly view me as a peer. Girls 18-20 who were previously right in my wheelhouse (girls always seem to like guys a couple years older) now view me as being too old. Girls my own age seem to have the same thought. I am paradoxically young looking, and old looking all at once. I don't have the striking, masculine features to attract older girls. Not even close, in fact, my attempts are really just viewed as comical or endearing.
to younger girls, im creepy and awkward, to older ones, I'm endearing.
Remember, prior to this whole thing, I had the same issues, but to a much lesser extent, and there were at least scattered and moderately consistent successes.
Despite this, I feel bound and determined to get it right. I do not view this as the end, so much as an awkward transition phase. Although I know my baldness will progress, I know that this will be the most difficult time. I am not used to it, I have not developed the coping skills, the confidence, or at least the ambivalence, so this is quite difficult now.
I have started a very strict workout regime, which has yielded great results, but so far, hasn't translated to any more attention from the opposite sex. I suppose facial attractiveness is far more important than bodily aestheticness, because if a guy with a full head of hair had my body, they would clean up (I know that sounds both whiney and smug, but you'd be hardpressed to convince me otherwise).
I read the posts here, and oddly, I am more pessimistic. I very much hope that the negative posts here are a result of the nature of the boards (a support forum, afterall), but they certainly help me in knowing that others suffer a similar affliction.
This is getting long, and I have a lot to say, but I'll leave that for future posts. Thanks for being here guys, and I look forward to sharing advice, successes, failures, and good humour with you all!
-buckeye
