No Excuses.

[s.a.f]

Well judging from the posts I read on here, I'd say the average HairLossTalk.com member is more concerned about health, fitness, looks and ageing than the average man.

 

[s.a.f]

Well judging from the posts I read on here, I'd say the average HairLossTalk.com member is more concerned about health, fitness, looks and ageing than the average man.

I think the average member on here is a young 20 something (generation Y), and "looks and appearance" seem to be even more important than they were in my generation (generation X).

Nah I think that even today the vast majority of young guys out there realise that they are what they are, and they know that they're not Brad Pitt and never will be. I see plenty of guys who have imperfections that could easily be fixed but they just dont worry about them. You can go back to any era since the 50's and there were guys obssessing about how their hair looked.

 

[FSHGLD]

Yes, but nowadays - with all the social networking that goes on with the younger generation (mostly gen Y) on facebook, myspace, twitter, etc....as well as all the online dating that goes on, looks seem to play a much bigger role in making "first impressions" because a lot of them meet online. Whereas, in older generations, meeting people was mostly done in person, and even if you didn't look so good (in most crowds, not all) you still had somewhat of an opportunity to make a good first impression by being witty, charismatic, funny, intelligent, etc... When people meet online, and then hook up later, a lot of discrimination goes on - mostly based on looks and appearance. (And I'm talking mostly for dating purposes here, not so much for friendships).

The other side of that is that many people are more confident expressing themselves in writing and are more likely to write something witty than come up with something similar in a bar

 

[s.a.f]

Yes, but nowadays - with all the social networking that goes on with the younger generation (mostly gen Y) on facebook, myspace, twitter, etc....as well as all the online dating that goes on, looks seem to play a much bigger role in making "first impressions" because a lot of them meet online. Whereas, in older generations, meeting people was mostly done in person, and even if you didn't look so good (in most crowds, not all) you still had somewhat of an opportunity to make a good first impression by being witty, charismatic, funny, intelligent, etc... When people meet online, and then hook up later, a lot of discrimination goes on - mostly based on looks and appearance. (And I'm talking mostly for dating purposes here, not so much for friendships).

Nah I still think that the overwhelming majority of young guys still meet women face to face at clubs, parties or through freinds. I dont think anyone scans facebook looking for dates with people they dont even know. Most online dating sites cater to the 30's 40's+ age groups who have been out of the socialising scene.
I still believe that the average person with average looks is very self assured and not as shallow as you would think.

 

[Vanzzzz]

Yea TBH i was quite surprised at dudemon view on relationship, considering his current age. He still seem to be interested in picking up girls in clubs. No doubt that is a valid method, but I do not think it is something still done by mature men.

All in all, I would say that it is the overall package that counts. I do not place undue emphasis on looks alone. I feel that the ability to communicate and connect is far more important than looks. However, I will concede that baldness will probably have a impact on first impression...

 

[Guest]

dudemon- dont worry about what some other people post. I am in my early 20's and through my line of work, i have had the opportunity to work with many men and women in their 30's, 40's, and 50's. the men i work along side in their 40's+ are some of the most fun people to associate myself with. Many are still very active with athletics, physical activities and have showed no signs that their sex life would be any different. I only hope that i will be the same when i reach 40+ years old.

 

[cuebald]

I am so ragged, worn and bald at 24 I can only imagine what I will be like at 40.

 

[Vanzzzz]

Hey dudemon I didnt mean any offence. Nor did I mean to imply that life stops at 40. Thing is, I just thought that at 40, you will be trying to pick up women closer to your own age, and from my experience women aged 40 and above seldom frequent clubs. So I thought you will be going clubbing less and will instead be looking for partners in a more mature setting.

 

[sandovalusa]

Hey dudemon I didnt mean any offence. Nor did I mean to imply that life stops at 40. Thing is, I just thought that at 40, you will be trying to pick up women closer to your own age, and from my experience women aged 40 and above seldom frequent clubs. So I thought you will be going clubbing less and will instead be looking for partners in a more mature setting.

Maybe the type of clubs you go to aren't the ones attracting 40 somethings. A lot of 40 somethings participate in night life like bars, happy hours, night clubs, etc.

Enjoying alcohol and the company of friends is not something that goes away when you turn 40, or 50, or 60...