s.a.f said:
I dont really want kids - too much f****ing hassle!
I think theres too much pressure put on people by society to 'breed' like you're somehow a failure if you dont do it.
I also hate the way many people who have kids seem to think they're somehow more important than people who dont have them.
I don't agree with the pressure part, but I agree with the rest. I don't think there is that much pressure on us to breed apart from our mothers saying that they want grandkids :dunno: ... Saying that, I do want to have my own family one day...
I don't want to sound like I have a life plan, but I would like to be married in the next few years and become a father a year or two later.
I think kids are great. They are hassle but they make you feel alive, at least that's how I feel. I also think that we are preprogrammed to want to have kids. I'm not saying there is something wrong with you for not wanting kids, but it is a natural process for the majority of people.
There was an article about "perfect family" on BBC online the other day. I think the article was based on statistics collected on the happiness level of families. The ideal age to marry for men is 31, with the bride being 2 years younger. The couple should have dated for 3 years before getting married and they should have a baby in 2 years after getting married. Our perfect couple in question has sex 3 times a week.
I kinda agree with those stats, and that makes me 3 years too late. I'm 31 and "available". I should have been making wedding plans now instead of looking for my perfect partner :woot:
Anyway, most of us at 30+ have enough experience to know what works and what doesn't (CCS take note). I have a rough idea of what would make a perfect partner for me and how to treat her.