Observations that bring hope in attractiveness.

[CopeForLife]

China has 107 men for ever 100 women in the age range 15-64, which was the only age range i could find.

It should be marginally easier for women in China to find a man.

Yes but high expectations... You know.

Now consider how much more chinese men who suffers same problem but in worse situation due to their overpopulation over a females.

 

[oye_rg]

Sounds like you got a bunch of hot nympho's at your workplace. Lucky you :woot:

 

[swingline747]

Chinese women approaching 30s are in a similar situation as Indian men:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/li...n-what-its-really-like-being-unmarried-at-30/

This article is horse schit.

"[FONT=Austin News Text Roman, Georgia, Times, serif]It’s even harder when such discrimination thrives in the workplace. A friend in HR at a China government-owned company says there are certainly “reservationsâ€￾ when hiring unmarried women of my age, due to the “lack of stabilityâ€￾ that comes with family."[/FONT]

[FONT=Austin News Text Roman, Georgia, Times, serif]Everything she talks about happens here in the US as well. Is just a social norm world wide. I get the same garbage from employers. They see me (no wife, no kids at 35) as unreliable and sketchy. Nevermind the fact that I never have to worry about leaving to get home to the family, they see it as "I cant control this person because he has nothing to really lose. No family to support means he can tell me to fuq off if he wants".[/FONT]

[FONT=Austin News Text Roman, Georgia, Times, serif]The family module has destroyed self expression. The "get settled down and have kids" has turned those of us who like our freedom into weird pariahs. Its all jealousy though. Ask any married people and more than half say "if I get divorced Ill never be in a relationship again". More than half in the US end in divorce.
Men usually have it a bit easier only because younger girls prefer a guy a couple years older. Women who dont take care of themselves will easily be pushed aside for younger women in just looks alone. In the end women seriously DONT mature past 25 and most guys know this so there is no point in looking for one in their 30.
But this just means a women in her 30's will prob have to seek a guy in his 40s. Is that so bad? Are they too good for a guy in his 40s????[/FONT]

 

[atthekeysbored]

Those women are whiners, in china you have a lot of women trying to punch way above their weight both in terms of money and looks. They are only "leftover" because they can't get the truly top tier man who they could "love".

 

[parisienne]

This article is horse schit.

"[FONT=Austin News Text Roman, Georgia, Times, serif]It’s even harder when such discrimination thrives in the workplace. A friend in HR at a China government-owned company says there are certainly “reservations” when hiring unmarried women of my age, due to the “lack of stability” that comes with family."[/FONT]

[FONT=Austin News Text Roman, Georgia, Times, serif]Everything she talks about happens here in the US as well. Is just a social norm world wide. I get the same garbage from employers. They see me (no wife, no kids at 35) as unreliable and sketchy. Nevermind the fact that I never have to worry about leaving to get home to the family, they see it as "I cant control this person because he has nothing to really lose. No family to support means he can tell me to fuq off if he wants".[/FONT]

[FONT=Austin News Text Roman, Georgia, Times, serif]The family module has destroyed self expression. The "get settled down and have kids" has turned those of us who like our freedom into weird pariahs. Its all jealousy though. Ask any married people and more than half say "if I get divorced Ill never be in a relationship again". More than half in the US end in divorce.
Men usually have it a bit easier only because younger girls prefer a guy a couple years older. Women who dont take care of themselves will easily be pushed aside for younger women in just looks alone. In the end women seriously DONT mature past 25 and most guys know this so there is no point in looking for one in their 30.
But this just means a women in her 30's will prob have to seek a guy in his 40s. Is that so bad? Are they too good for a guy in his 40s????[/FONT]

Oh man. I already started to get bull**** thrown at my face for that, I'm not even 25. I feel you and mentally prepare myself to join the club of the weird pariahs

 

[Roberto_72]

Do I sound like a nazi here? Anyway, put yourself in the shoes of these employers, you'll understand their worries.

No. Nazis did not avoid hiring personalities they did not like. They tended to confine them and kill them.
The company you like sounds old fashioned but that is their prerogative as the prerogative of other companies is not to hire anyone who would want to wear a tie (they do exists and they do grow fast).

 

[cocohot]

There's nothing you can do about it, even I think there is something wrong with people who disregard their biological imperative.

People do what they want, but they're going to pay for it sooner or later. I've seen older men and women with no family.

They're usually extremely bitter and in the end, yes, dangerous somehow, as they have nothing to lose. So I understand why the employers would be concerned.

I went to a company this week (yep, I'm also cheating on my company, oh my god!) and they said they were very conservative and that they want men with values.

That meant: no tattoos, no piercings, no smoking, the desire to build a family and to have children.

Their company is extremely successful and growing like crazy, this is no coincidence in my opinion.

Do I sound like a nazi here? Anyway, put yourself in the shoes of these employers, you'll understand their worries.

What is their worry? The fact is a woman who chooses work over kids is a workaholic and single middle aged women are the highest earners for that reason.

You had no job for a long time, you have no family but it still depressed you being unemployed, and if they fired you that would still depress you wouldn't it? The stigma of unemployment means the threat of being fired forces you to conform.

The biggest companies in the world are banks, banks force people not to have kids or families by making them work till midnight. Most successful companies are anti family values, capitalism itself is anti family values.

 

[Roberto_72]

What is their worry? The fact is a woman who chooses work over kids is a workaholic and single middle aged women are the highest earners for that reason.

You had no job for a long time, you have no family but it still depressed you being unemployed, and if they fired you that would still depress you wouldn't it? The stigma of unemployment means the threat of being fired forces you to conform.

The biggest companies in the world are banks, banks force people not to have kids or families by making them work till midnight. Most successful companies are anti family values, capitalism itself is anti family values.

This is a bit reflected in the movie "idiocracy", which was supposed to be funny but was not, yet underlined one important trend of today's society: because of stress and long work hours, educated, clever people are less and less likely to leave their genes to the world, compared to - you guessed it - idiots

 

[Follisket]

They're usually extremely bitter and in the end, yes, dangerous somehow, as they have nothing to lose.

At worst about as bitter as most other people, I'd say - except they're not keeping up appearances and dragging other people (partners/children) down with them.

There is some truth to what you're saying though. But what you describe as having "nothing to lose" is really just the kind of freedom people who've settled down can't afford and find threatening because it proves there is a choice and alternative; it is a threat to the established order that makes it easier for conformists to accept their own misery in the conviction that it's exactly how it needs to be - the only way it could be.

After all, it's no coincidence married people waste a heckuvalot more time butting into single people's lives and choices than the other way around.

I find myself startled by the pathological gloating many conformists exhibit over single people who might experience loneliness. As if people who refuse monogamy deserve to be denied all forms of love and companionship.

And I guess that's just the creepiest part; people increasingly considering intimacy exclusive to sexual relationships.