Oknow guide to online dating , and become a stud

[Oknow]

Step 1.
Find someone who is physically attracted to you
There are billions of people in the world, the odds are in your favour

This is extremely important

I filter women out by having a mixture of attractive and unattractive photos on my profile , so there are no surprises when they meet up with me

one complaint I have heard women say about other dates, ‘his photos were nice but he didn’t look like them’

DONT be that guy!

2. set up a date, and go into the date with low expectations, but and here is the key, try to have fun

Women love relaxed, fun guys as opposed to guys who smell of desperation and are insecure

Some ways to do this :

3. don’t overthink how to communicate, but have some awareness of how you are communicating with them

4. adapt to her behaviour, if you are communicating and you can sense she is not positively responding, change the conversation to something more positive

Women want to feel comfortable and good around you, and it starts with putting them into a positive mindset

5. compliment

6. talk about the future , ‘I really enjoyed tonight, would love to spend more time with you’

7. be confident over your shortfalls , I live with my folks in my 30s , so when I tell my dates I do, I act as if it doesn’t bother me.

If you are acting as if it doesn’t bother you, chances are they won’t care.


8. don’t overshare too early on, women are more forgiving of shortfalls once they get to know you

9. look for social cues to determine interest levels , how they look at you, touch you , proximity , where when you can feel their vibe is positive in a sexual way , make the move and kiss them

10. try to figure out what they are looking for and adapt accordingly

fundamentally dating is like any form of negotiation, people have an idea of what they are looking for and are trying to find someone who meets expectations.

As a guy, with every interaction you need to figure out what the woman you are interacting with makes and dealbreakers are, where as long as the makes are greater than the dealbreakers, you will get some action. Gaurentee it.

I hope this helps people

you see there’s more to it than hair

it’s an art


CC @vondoom @justinbieberscombover @DoctorHouse

 

[doubleindemnity]

1 is the important part. The rest follows naturally. The odds are way against a bald guy. Many a bald guy on here put his best photos and ran out of people to swipe. It's going to be even worse with a mix of average and good photos.

The guide should be renamed to "guide to online dating with hair".

 

[Oknow]

1 is the important part. The rest follows naturally. The odds are way against a bald guy. Many a bald guy on here put his best photos and ran out of people to swipe. It's going to be even worse with a mix of average and good photos.

The guide should be renamed to "guide to online dating with hair".

well then they are not passing 1.

it starts with 1.

and to be fair bald men do get action too, but they really suit it

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

1 is the important part. The rest follows naturally. The odds are way against a bald guy. Many a bald guy on here put his best photos and ran out of people to swipe. It's going to be even worse with a mix of average and good photos.

The guide should be renamed to "guide to online dating with hair".

Attraction is a multivariable equation.

Hair is important as an integral part of your facial aesthetics, but it's only a factor of a factor.

In the modern dating game, women filter men based on two variables first and foremost — purely physically speaking. Height and face.

( I'm only taking about the women I have experience with, between 18 and 30)

You don't need to be a gigachad stud to get dates of course, but if you're deficient in both categories or extremely deficient in one, you will struggle.

 

[Oknow]

Attraction is a multivariable equation.

Hair is important as an integral part of your facial aesthetics, but it's only a factor of a factor.

In the modern dating game, women filter men based on two variables first and foremost — purely physically speaking. Height and face.

( I'm only taking about the women I have experience with, between 18 and 30)

You don't need to be a gigachad stud to get dates of course, but if you're deficient in both categories or extremely deficient in one, you will struggle.

of course

but you can’t be a social retard either and purely rely on looks

what lots of guys don’t realise on here, they have options too

 

[losingbattle88]

You must be lost. Looksmax is your forum.

 

[Regan]

When I was younger, I utterly failed to understand some basics of flirting and male-female interaction. Like the very basic idea of push-pull. You say something nice, then mean, nice, then mean, etc. In a playful way. That sort of thing. When I read about pick-up art, it really helped me, personally. I think a lot of PUA is some crazy bullsh*t, but when you remove many layers of bullsh*t, there are important insights to be gained in that world.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

of course

but you can’t be a social retard either and purely rely on looks

what lots of guys don’t realise on here, they have options too

Depends how good looking you are, but yes, the 'average' gling bro still needs some social skills and a vague outline of a personality to be successful.

As far as I know you're not deficient in any of the important categories. You're at least average, especially for your age.

Many guys on here aren't. You can't sell them a dream broski

 

[doubleindemnity]

Attraction is a multivariable equation.

Hair is important as an integral part of your facial aesthetics, but it's only a factor of a factor.

In the modern dating game, women filter men based on two variables first and foremost — purely physically speaking. Height and face.

( I'm only taking about the women I have experience with, between 18 and 30)

You don't need to be a gigachad stud to get dates of course, but if you're deficient in both categories or extremely deficient in one, you will struggle.

The OP's guide only works if a guy can get a date. The majority of bald guys can not.

 

[Oknow]

Depends how good looking you are, but yes, the 'average' gling bro still needs some social skills and a vague outline of a personality to be successful.

As far as I know you're not deficient in any of the important categories. You're at least average, especially for your age.

Many guys on here aren't. You can't sell them a dream broski

I put up some photos on photofeeler, and here is the incredible thing, I score less than @doubleindemnity but I am regularly getting more action.

If that doesn't dispel looks theory, I don't know what will.

 

[Oknow]

When I was younger, I utterly failed to understand some basics of flirting and male-female interaction. Like the very basic idea of push-pull. You say something nice, then mean, nice, then mean, etc. In a playful way. That sort of thing. When I read about pick-up art, it really helped me, personally. I think a lot of PUA is some crazy bullsh*t, but when you remove many layers of bullsh*t, there are important insights to be gained in that world.

When I was younger , I read 'the game' by Neil Strauss, I think that a lot of people bought into pick up techniques, but missed the point.

It is about being emotionally adaptive, whilst understanding the type of people go for you, and being comfortable within your own skin.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

The OP's guide only works if a guy can get a date. The majority of bald guys can not.

I'd change that to the majority of guys can't get a date full stop. Look at the rising numbers of sexlessness. A sizeable minority of young men is involuntary celibate compared to a generation before

 

[doubleindemnity]

I'd change that to the majority of guys can't get a date full stop. Look at the rising numbers of sexlessness. A sizeable minority of young men is involuntary celibate compared to a generation before

Yep that's true. Now that I'm trying it all with hair, I'm seeing that it really would be possible for a bald guy to get a system and stay without any dates, and that it could even happen to me yet.

 

[Oknow]

Yep that's true. Now that I'm trying it all with hair, I'm seeing that it really would be possible for a bald guy to get a system and stay without any dates, and that it could even happen to me yet.

Going on a date is the easy part, seducing women is harder.

You will soon find out my padawan.

 

[Regan]

When I was younger , I read 'the game' by Neil Strauss, I think that a lot of people bought into pick up techniques, but missed the point.

It is about being emotionally adaptive, whilst understanding the type of people go for you, and being comfortable within your own skin.

What do you mean by emotionally adaptive?

I'd say that for me, what I got by reading pick-up was an understanding of basic techniques (like push-pull) and also I learned to exude a particular "vibe" that is attractive. The vibe is more difficult to pin down, but I can see it in other men and can emulate it.

 

[Oknow]

What do you mean by emotionally adaptive?

I'd say that for me, what I got by reading pick-up was an understanding of basic techniques (like push-pull) and also I learned to exude a particular "vibe" that is attractive. The vibe is more difficult to pin down, but I can see it in other men and can emulate it.

That's what I mean by it, 'emotionally intelligent' is probably a better way to phrase it.

At the end of the day, dating is about building a romantic connection with someone, mentally and physically.

 

[Oknow]

I'd change that to the majority of guys can't get a date full stop. Look at the rising numbers of sexlessness. A sizeable minority of young men is involuntary celibate compared to a generation before

People have been f*****g and dating for centuries (in all shapes and sizes), it shouldn't be that hard for people to do.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

I put up some photos on photofeeler, and here is the incredible thing, I score less than @doubleindemnity but I am regularly getting more action.

If that doesn't dispel looks theory, I don't know what will.

Nothing dispels looks theory because it's supported by human nature. It's just that blackpillers apply it too autistically. Of course there are other things, apart from looks, that matter (especially when it comes to long-term relationships)

But being good-looking can open almost any door in life

 

[Oknow]

Nothing dispels looks theory because it's supported by human nature. It's just that blackpillers apply it too autistically. Of course there are other things, apart from looks, that matter (especially when it comes to long-term relationships)

But being good-looking can open almost any door in life

Fair point, but you can apply that principle in any other area of life when someone has extreme value. For example, if someone was famous, they are probably more likely to pull a stunner than the average man.

The problem people have on here, they think too much in terms of extremes - unless you do not have an extreme amount of materialistic value you are not dateable, which is an absolutely ridiculous way of looking at things.

Many, many average people have partners.

Statistically, the majority of the population are 'average'

Many of my friends are married, and they are not stunners

 

[corkmeister]

good guide, i'm enjoying ur efforts to make the impact subforum a more positive place @Oknow