Reasons Why I Dont Want To "embrace The Baldness"

[xetudor]

Exactly. Men are like women, they want to be with attractive people. Baldness is not attractive. It's not rocket science.

 

[Roberto_72]

To be fair men are the same way. Lets be honest, if being fat was something 100% genetic would you suddenly be more accepting of fat chicks? Its not really a problem with women so much as it is a problem of humanity(myself included). People who give useless advice often say "play the hand you are given" and I agree with that. But part of that hand is being born in a time where finasteride, minoxidil, hair transplants exist with more stuff possibly on the way. Most men dont need to accept baldness.

I use finasteride, min, keto; I had two transplants.
Yet I cannot agree 100% with you.
There are people who were absolutely crippled by finasteride (see dench57's story) and who have not enough donor area for a transplant.
You wrote "most men" don't need to accept baldness. I haven't. At the same time I know that "most men" might be a smaller percentage than you would think.

 

[tdag]

I use finasteride, min, keto; I had two transplants.
Yet I cannot agree 100% with you.
There are people who were absolutely crippled by finasteride (see dench57's story) and who have not enough donor area for a transplant.
You wrote "most men" don't need to accept baldness. I haven't. At the same time I know that "most men" might be a smaller percentage than you would think.

What Norwood were you? According to Rassman only somewhere around 10% of men go to Norwood 6 or 7. And even some of them are decent transplant candidates if they have decent expectations. Conservative hairline, minimum hair in the crown area. Will it be perfect? No. Will it be better than being bald? IMO yes. As for finasteride, every legit study has shown the risk of sides is low. Most men will not get serious side effects. A lot dont even try because the same mental midgets saying "just man up and shave, brah" discourage them with over exaggerations of the drug's potential side effects. I swear if I didnt know better I would think they were bald guys who lost their hair before they knew about meds and want to discourage others from saving their hair because misery enjoys company and the more bald people there are, the less they feel like an outsider.

My point is that there are options out there, ones that can make a real difference. Are they perfect? Of course not. However so many people throw in the towel without even trying because they get pressured by this dumb "just man up and shave" culture. And if somebody truly wants to shave that is fine, but I am sick of every bald guy on the internet trying to convince every other balding guy that there is nothing that can be done and that being bald isnt that bad. There are things that can at least be attempted and being bald affects everyone differently. For some people it is misery.

 

[Roberto_72]

What Norwood were you? According to Rassman only somewhere around 10% of men go to Norwood 6 or 7. And even some of them are decent transplant candidates if they have decent expectations. Conservative hairline, minimum hair in the crown area. Will it be perfect? No. Will it be better than being bald? IMO yes. As for finasteride, every legit study has shown the risk of sides is low. Most men will not get serious side effects. A lot dont even try because the same mental midgets saying "just man up and shave, brah" discourage them with over exaggerations of the drug's potential side effects. I swear if I didnt know better I would think they were bald guys who lost their hair before they knew about meds and want to discourage others from saving their hair because misery enjoys company and the more bald people there are, the less they feel like an outsider.

I transplanted when I had the horrible "forelock", that is to say: no more temples and just a curl in the middle of the front of your head. I guess it was NW4 or NW4a.
For instance, my father could have never transplanted because you can almost count how many individual strands of hair he has on sides and back of his head.
I agree there are many things you can do today to contrast hairloss and I did them all; however, we cannot underestimate the plight of the portion of people who are thinning and who have the misfortune they cannot do almost anything about it.

 

[Rudiger]

I am so tired of people saying the only option is to "embrace the baldness". Screw that, there are plenty of better options. finasteride, minoxidil, hair transplants being the best ones. And really it doesnt have much to do with attracting women. Here is why I think letting your hair go and shaving your head is one of the worst solutions. Some are personal to me and some are general.

1) Maintenance. Every single bald guy on the internet that is trying to delude themselves that it doesnt suck balls always brings up how much time and money they save. BS. Yea maybe they dont have to shampoo their non existing hair or get hair cuts. However the thought of having to shave my head every day or every other day, makes the 30 seconds it takes to pop a finasteride pill and apply minoxidil foam seem like a godsend. Not to mention the money/time spent on razors, having to protect your head from the elements, etc. Seriously one of the main reasons I am trying to keep my hair, is that it is much less time consuming to have hair than to shave. I spend maybe 60 seconds total on my hair in the morning with a low maintenance style. Just shaving my beard is a massive pain in the ***, and all of that hair is in a place I can easily see.

2) Self Image: There are some guys who can look awesome bald. However I dont want to "just get jacked and grow a beard dude". That isnt who I am and I am not going to change that to compensate for balding. I dont want to be a walking stereotype. Dont get me wrong fitness is a good thing, but you can be fit and in good shape without looking like the Rock. What it comes down to is that my own personal style involves having hair and not using over sized muscles or facial hair to compensate. No hate to the bodybuilders on here, it just isnt something I am into.

3) This ties into the last one a bit, but the judgements people make about you if you have a shaved head. Even the positive ones like "badass". I dont want to look "badass", I am going into a career where I need people to trust me not be afraid I am going to mug them.

4) I dont want to be shamed for trying to save my hair. The more people say "just accept it" the more I will fight it. If someone personally wants to embrace it then good on them I am happy for them. But that doesnt mean they need to try to convince every other guy to make the same decision.

5) Having to accept bald jokes as if its the only acceptable thing to make fun of about a person's appearance to their face. Screw that, if I did go bald and somebody made fun of it I would go for the kill on whatever insecurity they have. I dont care if it would leave me friendless. Which is probably why its a good thing I am on finasteride/minoxidil.

I feel like I could have gotten drunk and written this exact same thing under a different username, but you wrote it really well, and others may think it's "obvious" but nobody really explains themselves reasonably like this.

You've torn down all the ridiculous reasons people think baldness is a positive thing, but more importantly on an anti-slickhead forum as this, you've acknowledged that in some cases men are forced to accept it as a positive thing, I congratulate the balance of both sides which I rarely see on this forum.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I dont think any (reasonable) posters here are pushing for self acceptance in terms of baldness. I have my reasons for not embracing baldness too... too bad my follicles are indifferent to my personal desires. if anyone accepts baldness it is because we have to for lack of better options, not because we want to. hope you can understand the difference.

 

[EvilLocks]

I dont think any (reasonable) posters here are pushing for self acceptance in terms of baldness. I have my reasons for not embracing baldness too... too bad my follicles are indifferent to my personal desires. if anyone accepts baldness it is because we have to for lack of better options, not because we want to. hope you can understand the difference.

I agree. I have not accepted my baldness and probably never will, but I'm left with this feeling of defeat instead. I lost the battle against baldness, and I have to learn to live with that. Not because I have accepted it, but simply because I have no other choice.

 

[cocohot]

I just feel incredibly angry all the time. Why should I have to suffer this fate and practically no one else is NW5 bald in their twenties? I'm consumed with jealousy and frustration. It will only get worse as the remaining strands/stubble disappear and my head becomes slick bald. The difference when I put a hat on is incredible, suddenly I'm a young man in the prime of my life again.

Prince William syndrome.

 

[hellouser]

Why doesn't the public embrace baldness?

 

[Saurabhaj]

Why doesn't the public embrace baldness?

Hairloss is our problem,not of public.
If you said hairloss destroys life,they will have a laugh.

Visit Quora and see the problems people are facing,
10s guy is getting rejected for being poor/less money ,some girl's are feeling bad when they see a beautiful girl,saying I wish i was like her.
Many girl/s not happy with the type of guy they want,
many failing in life,the problem list is endless.

 

[EvilLocks]

I just feel incredibly angry all the time. Why should I have to suffer this fate and practically no one else is NW5 bald in their twenties? I'm consumed with jealousy and frustration. It will only get worse as the remaining strands/stubble disappear and my head becomes slick bald. The difference when I put a hat on is incredible, suddenly I'm a young man in the prime of my life again.

Prince William syndrome.

I feel you, trust me. It's a very lonely feeling being the lone balding girl amongst a sea of fullheads. The only other bald girls are really cancer patients or the occasional alopecia areata case. I understand your bitterness and anger very much. Every time I see an old, fullhead man (which is more often that you'd think) I want to punch something. I get so consumed with anger and jealousy when I see those fullheads walking around with no clue at all how it's like to be bald. Some days are torture If I go out in public and see all the ignorant, happy fullheads. They simply have no clue...

 

[hellouser]

Hairloss is our problem,not of public.
If you said hairloss destroys life,they will have a laugh.

Visit Quora and see the problems people are facing,
10s guy is getting rejected for being poor/less money ,some girl's are feeling bad when they see a beautiful girl,saying I wish i was like her.
Many girl/s not happy with the type of guy they want,
many failing in life,the problem list is endless.

But it is their problem. They say it's just hair but then proceed to view baldness with disgust. THEY need reform, not us.

 

[Saurabhaj]

But it is their problem. They say it's just hair but then proceed to view baldness with disgust. THEY need reform, not us.

True,many relatives look at my hairloss problem with ease,they think its easy problem,many even crosses the limit to say hairloss isn't a problem,
but this is the public who will reject the bald guy.

 

[blackg]

But it is their problem. They say it's just hair but then proceed to view baldness with disgust. THEY need reform, not us.

True!! I have been saying this for years. I even mentioned this concept, in a friendly and thought out manner, to one of my full head friends .
This guy is very accepting and non judgmental, but even he looked at me with a confused look after I finished explaining to him that the onus should be on society to lighten its views, not only on baldness but a host of other things that are out of peoples control.

You know, things people were born with and didn't actually choose.

This concept is just to hard and requires too much thinking for the average drone walking around out there.

 

[hellouser]

This guy is very accepting and non judgmental, but even he looked at me with a confused look after I finished explaining to him that the onus should be on society to lighten its views, not only on baldness but a host of other things that are out of peoples control.

You know, things people were born with and didn't actually choose.

Like being a fat ***, right?

This concept is just to hard and requires too much thinking for the average drone walking around out there.

Most people are really stupid.

 

[F2005]

Ain't that the truth, Hellouser. I believe that all of this technological innovation has led to a dumbing down of society. Instead of talking or even texting a normal conversation, people simply type inane garbage like "ttyl", "bff", or even just complete gibberish like "r u gonna be at da gym?" We live a society where lots of people's social consciousness revolves around their stupid facebook pages, so it's no wonder people lack thoughtfulness or common courtesy when addressing things like baldness. Especially since it's already perfectly acceptable to mock baldness. I've heard people make off-the-cuff racial comments just because they are complete morons, and such comments are frowned upon by most of society (as they should be). But it's perfectly OK to make fun of hair loss. I'll put it in a mathematical equation: Lack of taboo regarding mocking hair loss + society being populated by a bunch of morons = A total clusterf*ck and a recipe for disaster. And if the person has no real physical flaws like hair loss or has an inflated ego (perhaps due to hundreds of people "liking" their photos on Instagram or facebook, then hike up the result of the equation a few more points.

 

[Rudiger]

Are we really expecting people to deny human nature of physical aesthetics? Is that what's really being discussed (yet again) as if that's some sort of possibility? Not only will that never happen but it's ridiculous to even expect it to happen, and if we're to expect society to accept baldness then we must create the example of genuinely embracing it ourselves and LOVING our baldness (I mean, seriously, hahahaha) but that's never going to happen because, baldness is ugly and unhealthy looking.

It's very easy to say "shouldn't society embrace it?" but it's total bullshit, anyone saying it wouldn't be posting on here, trying various treatments, in order to fix something that they apparently feel other people are supposed to accept.

We can try and be hippies about it but it's just as deluded as being a "I know a bald guy who fucks hot women" type of guy, in fact it's probably even less realistic. It's verging on insanity.

 

[Eren]

What Norwood were you? According to Rassman only somewhere around 10% of men go to Norwood 6 or 7.

Really? f*** me then. When I quit finasteride I'll be Norwood 7 (all the hair in the NW7 area is already affected, they're weak as f***).

Damn, I knew I had sh*t genes, but this puts it all into another perspective. I actually feel like an inferior piece of sh*t. Going bald in your teens, I am starting to hate life.