Some kids reactions to shaving their heads

[winnyblues]

Aaaand this is where Fred goes quiet. He knows this is the truth, whether he means to or not, he loves dragging people down to feeling as bad as he does, it's really sick actually. And I've been bringing it up for a while, the fact he keeps doing it, and any time I do bring it up, he shuts right up, that's the last we'll hear of it. Even if he does reply to this thread now, he won't want to touch this issue with a 10 foot pole.

Absolutely anything else I bring up, even if he's completely wrong and squirming out some twisted excuse to validate his thoughts, he'll still reply, damn sure, but this? Nope, never touches it, he knows what he's doing.

Just like that girl, he wants to put everyone in these little boxes he creates, and of course, none of these little boxes ever mean anything positive, it's always doom and gloom, and the "exposure" of human superficiality and greed, because he thinks 100% of people think like he does, that we're all biologically the same as apes. He reads one article that sort-of agrees with his thoughts (sometimes, not even at all, for example that cancer one) and then it becomes FACT, the confirmation bias is unbelievable.

But this gives him the strength to put others down, just like that girl. I can only guess he has a really empty life to do such things, and worse he's doing it on the pretence that he's doing us all a favour, which is practically borderline psychopathic. He claims it's to make us "real" so we don't wake up sad one day, and while I agree that being realistic is important, this is not at all the reason he constantly puts others down, what a load of bull****, he jerks off on the idea of everyone being as depressed as he is, and he'll continue doing his best to achieve this.

What annoys me more isn't Fred himself, because he's just some maniac who should be avoided, but the people who hail him as some sort of great visionary, that think these binary thoughts he has are "real" and revolutionary, and his greatest fans are the ones down the line who end up coming on here to say they're getting worse and worse, baldness is killing them and they can't deal with it. What a ****ing surprise that is! Well it's a good thing they remained "real" otherwise they might not be so damn happy right?

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[jd_uk]

The usual (fullheaded) suspects deny the obvious.

You can be happy if you want, you can choose delusion if you want.

That's just not how I deal with life (anymore). Long-term it will eat your soul.

And that approach just doesn't work at all once you're bald, because you get negative feedback so regularly.

The truth shall set you free. See reality for what it is.

And please, I don't have an empty life. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

My life has been awesome lately, minus, you know, the accident with my girlfriend. And the bombings.

But what can you do, external events. With a determined solution, unlike baldness.

When you've been through baldness at a young age, every unfortunate event other people would be paralyzed over just seem "meh" to you.

Other than that: amazing holidays in Thailand, currently juggling with a few job offers, and getting great support from my friends (and people here I should add) after that tragic event.

But "Fred must be so miserable, and likes to put people down!" right? Not really, I just don't like to read BS, like people (who have never even been close to being bald) minimizing the impact of hair loss.

It's taken you days to think that up and you still sound like a c*nt. The things you have said in this forum (and others I believe) are here for everybody to see. Also your 'these guys are all 'fullheads' comments sounds absolutely mental for one and i'm sure doesn't fool any sane person either. There is a clear reason why I have seen numerous people even outside this impact forum mock you as being pathetic.

To, Cocohot...you would take 6 weeks of life with hair over any time being bald because you feel so disfigured. This is the point where you need to get help.

 

[Rudiger]

Fred would you like to strap on your big boy pants and respond to me directly? What the hell was that?

You're getting great support from people after that tragedy, I wonder what they'd think if they knew the truth that you only think "meh" because it doesn't compare to your own self-obsession with what's on top of your head.

 

[Rudiger]

This is so frustrating, you just blatantly, and shamelessly, moved away from what I wanted to talk about, and I have no idea what that was, or what relevance it had to what I wanted to discuss.

Maybe we should do a recorded skype for the world to hear? It's the only way you can't move away from issues and divert.

 

[F2005]

The usual (fullheaded) suspects deny the obvious.

You can be happy if you want, you can choose delusion if you want.

That's just not how I deal with life (anymore). Long-term it will eat your soul.

And that approach just doesn't work at all once you're bald, because you get negative feedback so regularly.

The truth shall set you free. See reality for what it is.

And please, I don't have an empty life. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

My life has been awesome lately, minus, you know, the accident with my girlfriend. And the bombings.

But what can you do, external events. With a determined solution, unlike baldness.

When you've been through baldness at a young age, every unfortunate event other people would be paralyzed over just seem "meh" to you.

Other than that: amazing holidays in Thailand, currently juggling with a few job offers, and getting great support from my friends (and people here I should add) after that tragic event.

But "Fred must be so miserable, and likes to put people down!" right? Not really, I just don't like to read BS, like people (who have never even been close to being bald) minimizing the impact of hair loss.

I agree with the first and last sentences. It's always the people who have most of their hair who preach positivity and complain about all the supposedly depressing stuff on this forum. Hell, I'd be positive too if I wasn't even close to being bald! I've said it before and I'll say it again because it's the crux of the matter: in order to know something, you have to life through it and experience it for yourself (especially with baldness). Let alone tell some one else how they should react, or worse, judge them for it. Second hand experience is no substitute for first hand experience, not by a long shot.

I know Fred has had it especially rough, starting to lose his hair in his teens and although I have a friend who also started to lose his hair in his teens (and handled it very well), I'd never judge Fred for his reactions (and even some subsequent viewpoints) because I've never lived through the trauma of hair loss as a teen-ager.

It may be true that some of what we say here is depressing, but that's because (for some of us) forums like these are our only places to vent our deepest and darkest frustrations over hair loss and its subsequent deterioration of our outer looks. I cannot and will not express these sentiments in public and oftentimes many of us will display an outwardly congenial demeanor on the outside, even though we are hurting on the inside. For instance, I had a very good chest workout at the gym while shooting the bull with a few buddies about the NCAA tournament. Judging by my demeanor, none of these guys would've even guessed that I was upset about hair loss and I certainly wasn't going to vent to them with the confines of the gym. So for many of us who lead otherwise productive lives, this is an ideal and anonymous place for us to vent.

 

[I.D WALKER]

For the balding individuals who are psychologically impacted by Androgenetic Alopecia
it may be reasonable to see hair loss as a silent killer.
Most men I know will not wear their hearts on their sleeves; a tender spot or touchy subject
it seems is either avoided, dismissed, or diverted with self deprecatory and humor.
It is difficult to know what's really going on in the hearts and minds of everyday man
because men are wired and conditioned to display strength rather than weakness.

Not so long ago general society was revolted by the aspect of male sensitivity;
So long as you were kind and comported you were generally accepted,
and if you were a disciplined working family man then you had "status",
and if you were a respected man
who had his house and business in good order,
you could earn enough flattering and local reverence that one day
you may even be pronounced "a gentleman of your community".

The image of strength still remains man's necessary means for survival.
If I ask myself why iis it that my own baldness fills me up with so much bitterness and self contempt?
if I am honest I will say the physical absence of hair is only the tip of the iceberg, what's disproportionately bigger
sharply outlines the inner crux of my problem(s)..,
My persistent inability to come to better terms with an incurable
diagnosis: I suffer from a cowardly heart.

 

[Diffused_confidence]

Total bullshit. At that age hair is EVERYTHING. I knew 1 kid in 4th grade got a buzzcut at like grade .5 and everyone in the school made fun of him. Girls laughter at him, guys mocked him, just horrible. This guy wasn't balding at all just decided a dumb haircut.

Needless to say he didn't do that again.