Struggling to cope as well... What to do

[doubleindemnity]

I'm struggling now. All I seem to do is work all day and then some fitness training. I'm losing interest and enthusiasm for everything that I used to like including movies, music and video games. I still like books but there is not much time to read them. I seem to keep working to earn money to keep living a life that I don't seem to want any more with no chance of the future being any different because, for example, I won't get married because I'm bald. I am having terrible thoughts wishing that I could run away from everything and that I should write a will now just in case (never a bad idea even in the best of times). There are family related events coming up as the restrictions ease over here but I keep thinking that I don't want to have to show up in black tie with black baseball cap.

I can't help thinking that this would have all been different if I didn't lose my hair.. You might suggest that I seek help but last time I had a check up I was told that I do not have depression. It might have changed now but I expect not.

 

[czecha]

I'm struggling now. All I seem to do is work all day and then some fitness training. I'm losing interest and enthusiasm for everything that I used to like including movies, music and video games. I still like books but there is not much time to read them. I seem to keep working to earn money to keep living a life that I don't seem to want any more with no chance of the future being any different because, for example, I won't get married because I'm bald. I am having terrible thoughts wishing that I could run away from everything and that I should write a will now just in case (never a bad idea even in the best of times). There are family related events coming up as the restrictions ease over here but I keep thinking that I don't want to have to show up in black tie with black baseball cap.

I can't help thinking that this would have all been different if I didn't lose my hair.. You might suggest that I seek help but last time I had a check up I was told that I do not have depression. It might have changed now but I expect not.

Low dop

 

[whatintheworld]

You are feeling depressed because you have given up hope. You are not trying to do all you can to rectify your problems, and your body is fighting back to tell you that the path you have chosen is bad.

Your options are to build your social circle to give yourself the best chance for dating and meeting women, and to meanwhile look into transplants to rebuild at least your frontal third, so you are no longer in the "bald" category. Delete all your dating apps, they are garbage for meeting women.

If you live in a low population area where the chances of meeting like minded people are small, change your location to a bigger city. Where is your family history from? Look into moving back to where your origins are from, if you currently live in a first world country, your money will go a lot farther there and give you a competitive and lifestyle advantage.

It is antitethical to human nature to give up, even in the worst of conditions man must have the will and desire to overcome his obstacles.

 

[Feelsbadman]

im the same the truth is without love and sex you can not function at optimal levels or be healthy

 

[Friendo]

Why not just give up on dating? I recommend Muay Thai and videogames.

 

[czecha]

You are feeling depressed because you have given up hope. You are not trying to do all you can to rectify your problems, and your body is fighting back to tell you that the path you have chosen is bad.

Your options are to build your social circle to give yourself the best chance for dating and meeting women, and to meanwhile look into transplants to rebuild at least your frontal third, so you are no longer in the "bald" category. Delete all your dating apps, they are garbage for meeting women.

If you live in a low population area where the chances of meeting like minded people are small, change your location to a bigger city. Where is your family history from? Look into moving back to where your origins are from, if you currently live in a first world country, your money will go a lot farther there and give you a competitive and lifestyle advantage.

It is antitethical to human nature to give up, even in the worst of conditions man must have the will and desire to overcome his obstacles.

High iq except for the transplant sh*t. Guys with obvious transplants and still bald are looked down upon more than just shave it bros

 

[disfiguredyoungman]

I recommend Muay Thai and videogames.

Me too.
Also get a Sigma grindset.

 

[czecha]

Grind to get chads crumbs once they are post wall

ascending + eemaxxing is only option pther than cope and rope

 

[justinbieberscombover]

You are feeling depressed because you have given up hope. You are not trying to do all you can to rectify your problems, and your body is fighting back to tell you that the path you have chosen is bad.

Your options are to build your social circle to give yourself the best chance for dating and meeting women, and to meanwhile look into transplants to rebuild at least your frontal third, so you are no longer in the "bald" category. Delete all your dating apps, they are garbage for meeting women.

If you live in a low population area where the chances of meeting like minded people are small, change your location to a bigger city. Where is your family history from? Look into moving back to where your origins are from, if you currently live in a first world country, your money will go a lot farther there and give you a competitive and lifestyle advantage.

It is antitethical to human nature to give up, even in the worst of conditions man must have the will and desire to overcome his obstacles.

Listen to this post, ignore everything else.

 

[doubleindemnity]

You are feeling depressed because you have given up hope. You are not trying to do all you can to rectify your problems, and your body is fighting back to tell you that the path you have chosen is bad.

Your options are to build your social circle to give yourself the best chance for dating and meeting women, and to meanwhile look into transplants to rebuild at least your frontal third, so you are no longer in the "bald" category. Delete all your dating apps, they are garbage for meeting women.

If you live in a low population area where the chances of meeting like minded people are small, change your location to a bigger city. Where is your family history from? Look into moving back to where your origins are from, if you currently live in a first world country, your money will go a lot farther there and give you a competitive and lifestyle advantage.

It is antitethical to human nature to give up, even in the worst of conditions man must have the will and desire to overcome his obstacles.

How can I build my social circle? I am so miserable that nobody wants to be my friend except other guys without big social circle (not a bad thing but not so useful to me to build a social circle).

I live in a big city. If I leave, I would leave my workplace and earnings potential too. And I don't think that I can just so easily leave and go back to where my origins are because of immigration/visa reasons. Do you really think that it would be best for me to do that?

There are examples of humans who give up throughout history. It's not completely against human nature. Look at conditions of war or imprisonment, for example.

 

[czecha]

How can I build my social circle? I am so miserable that nobody wants to be my friend except other guys without big social circle (not a bad thing but not so useful to me to build a social circle).

I live in a big city. If I leave, I would leave my workplace and earnings potential too. And I don't think that I can just so easily leave and go back to where my origins are because of immigration/visa reasons. Do you really think that it would be best for me to do that?

There are examples of humans who give up throughout history. It's not completely against human nature. Look at conditions of war or imprisonment, for example.

Hobbymaxx. Religionmaxx. Communitymaxx

 

[czecha]

Lots of incels start invading various religious communities where looks matter less and the women are trad and non degenerate, if i get more desperate I’ll also give it a shot and larp in one of these communities

 

[Pacho]

get a hairpiece

 

[czecha]

get a hairpiece

Blackpilled

 

[Ascension]

Its probably your looks, ive never seen a handsome dude say this bs. If its your looks find other unnatractive guys and ask them how they cope. Many bald guys in here can still be handsome enough and have a large harmonious skull that looks better than nw0 grown adults that look like teenagers.

 

[disfiguredyoungman]

Lots of incels start invading various religious communities where looks matter less and the women are trad and non degenerate, if i get more desperate I’ll also give it a shot and larp in one of these communities

Which religion will you choose?

 

[whatintheworld]

How can I build my social circle? I am so miserable that nobody wants to be my friend except other guys without big social circle (not a bad thing but not so useful to me to build a social circle).

I live in a big city. If I leave, I would leave my workplace and earnings potential too. And I don't think that I can just so easily leave and go back to where my origins are because of immigration/visa reasons. Do you really think that it would be best for me to do that?

There are examples of humans who give up throughout history. It's not completely against human nature. Look at conditions of war or imprisonment, for example.

I would recommend looking into clubs/group sports activities. For instance, I like to play basketball and I go to a park where I run into the same people a lot. We exchanged numbers now and find time to play and hang out.

Soccer/volleyball are better for meeting both genders so those are an option too. Biking meetups, running, swimming, the list goes on.

Group art classes, painting, sculpting, yoga, etc. Just start up a conversation and see where it goes. Of course, work on your social skills, learn to be more witty, but not in a try hard manner. Keep it natural and light, and people will want to be around you. Yes, for some this is more natural but like anything else, it is a skill that can be developed.

If you live in the USA (like I do) or Canada, then you will notice that many people are socially isolated. The countries are not conducive toward making friends and social circles, especially post college. Car culture, everything is spread out, people are mostly focused on career progression and monetary accumulation.

I am originally from a smaller European country and when I go to visit I notice a much friendlier dynamic. People are more willing to hang out, socialize. I don't need a car to get to anywhere and have many cafes/places to go within walking distance. All of these things are much better for developing a good social circle.

 

[czecha]

Which religion will you choose?

One where i can hatmaxx i guess

 

[Oknow]

I'm struggling now. All I seem to do is work all day and then some fitness training. I'm losing interest and enthusiasm for everything that I used to like including movies, music and video games. I still like books but there is not much time to read them. I seem to keep working to earn money to keep living a life that I don't seem to want any more with no chance of the future being any different because, for example, I won't get married because I'm bald. I am having terrible thoughts wishing that I could run away from everything and that I should write a will now just in case (never a bad idea even in the best of times). There are family related events coming up as the restrictions ease over here but I keep thinking that I don't want to have to show up in black tie with black baseball cap.

I can't help thinking that this would have all been different if I didn't lose my hair.. You might suggest that I seek help but last time I had a check up I was told that I do not have depression. It might have changed now but I expect not.

Suggest therapy to be honest to help you work through your issues.

No shame in it, I have seen one and it helped a lot with building my self-esteem and confidence, I can put you in touch with a good one.

 

[Oknow]

Its probably your looks, ive never seen a handsome dude say this bs. If its your looks find other unnatractive guys and ask them how they cope. Many bald guys in here can still be handsome enough and have a large harmonious skull that looks better than nw0 grown adults that look like teenagers.

I have been told that I am handsome by the last 3 women I have chatted to on a dating app. This year have had a few first date lays.

When I was in my 20s, I was like the OP, extremely insecure, and got f*** all luck dating. When opportunities came, would self sabotage.

The only thing that has changed since then is mindset, still look the same.

The thing about looks, and what I've learned is that it is somewhat subjective, not all women find me attractive, but there are some that do. Just need to find them.