BrightonBaldy
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Let me first of all qualify this topic by saying that being bald isnt the death of leading a normal successful life and it isnt as bad as some make out... but at the same time it is life changing, I'm not one of the forum pessimists but I am a realist relative to my own experience, it makes things a lot harder everywhere I go.
I had football training this morning, so had a tracksuit on (quite a smart one as far as designer leisure gear goes) and a beanie, covering up the dome, sports bag with me etc... went to buy a pack of cigarettes on my way to practice and was asked for ID to prove I was over 18. I dont even have a baby face, was stubbly being a weekend and the ID ask wouldve been as much for my clothes as anything else. I was flattered and simply accepted I couldnt buy them as I didnt want him to see my bald drivers license, I wanted the ego trip.
On the way to training I walked past a group of girls in their late teens and another pair in their 20's, both sets stopped talking as I passed and gave me the look/smile/eye contact I used to get all the time when I had hair. They definitely liked how I looked, maybe they made the connection that sports gear = healthy/fit or sports gear = casual, carefree, cool attitude... whatever it was they were looks that I dont get when sporting the shaved bonce.
Training came and went, so after returning home and going for a full make over I had to go out to the supermarket, this time without the beanie on. At the self service checkouts a dude in his late 40's (I'd guess) was laughing about how bad he was at putting stuff through and made the comment to me 'how the hell are our generation supposed to get upto speed with this stuff!' ... I agreed and made a sharp exit...
On my way home a car pulled up next to me to ask for directions, 2 girls in their 20's, the girl in the car opened with 'hey baldy!'.. again murdering confidence, then both of them in the car spent the 30 second convo giggling away despite me not rising to it. Then right outside the stairwell one of the couples in the block were walking past and said hi to me, with the girl joking 'its good to see you for once without the sun hurting my eyes'... me knowing exactly what was coming I asked what she was going on about.. 'normally we just see you leaving from the flat and the light bounces off your baldy head hehehehehe'. I smiled and went in, over the space of 2 minutes 3 women and one guy laughed about me being bald, though I know the last one thought she was doing so with me.
Covering up my bald head was the difference between looking 18 and being in my 40's and in the same day was the difference between getting instant respect + attraction and being the butt of female jokes.
I know plenty on here will say these are extreme examples of the effect hairloss has on how people view us but for me the only extreme thing was that all these things happened within a few hours of each other.
Like I say I'm not a pessimist but it does change your life in a massive way. Infact its indirectly affecting my life right now, I was supposed to be heading out with some friends to a club tonight but theres no chance in hell I would enjoy it after the 'bady' jokes this afternoon. This is 100% a night to be in alone watching the football and having a beer or two to myself, I'll recharge for tomorrow.
I had football training this morning, so had a tracksuit on (quite a smart one as far as designer leisure gear goes) and a beanie, covering up the dome, sports bag with me etc... went to buy a pack of cigarettes on my way to practice and was asked for ID to prove I was over 18. I dont even have a baby face, was stubbly being a weekend and the ID ask wouldve been as much for my clothes as anything else. I was flattered and simply accepted I couldnt buy them as I didnt want him to see my bald drivers license, I wanted the ego trip.
On the way to training I walked past a group of girls in their late teens and another pair in their 20's, both sets stopped talking as I passed and gave me the look/smile/eye contact I used to get all the time when I had hair. They definitely liked how I looked, maybe they made the connection that sports gear = healthy/fit or sports gear = casual, carefree, cool attitude... whatever it was they were looks that I dont get when sporting the shaved bonce.
Training came and went, so after returning home and going for a full make over I had to go out to the supermarket, this time without the beanie on. At the self service checkouts a dude in his late 40's (I'd guess) was laughing about how bad he was at putting stuff through and made the comment to me 'how the hell are our generation supposed to get upto speed with this stuff!' ... I agreed and made a sharp exit...
On my way home a car pulled up next to me to ask for directions, 2 girls in their 20's, the girl in the car opened with 'hey baldy!'.. again murdering confidence, then both of them in the car spent the 30 second convo giggling away despite me not rising to it. Then right outside the stairwell one of the couples in the block were walking past and said hi to me, with the girl joking 'its good to see you for once without the sun hurting my eyes'... me knowing exactly what was coming I asked what she was going on about.. 'normally we just see you leaving from the flat and the light bounces off your baldy head hehehehehe'. I smiled and went in, over the space of 2 minutes 3 women and one guy laughed about me being bald, though I know the last one thought she was doing so with me.
Covering up my bald head was the difference between looking 18 and being in my 40's and in the same day was the difference between getting instant respect + attraction and being the butt of female jokes.
I know plenty on here will say these are extreme examples of the effect hairloss has on how people view us but for me the only extreme thing was that all these things happened within a few hours of each other.
Like I say I'm not a pessimist but it does change your life in a massive way. Infact its indirectly affecting my life right now, I was supposed to be heading out with some friends to a club tonight but theres no chance in hell I would enjoy it after the 'bady' jokes this afternoon. This is 100% a night to be in alone watching the football and having a beer or two to myself, I'll recharge for tomorrow.