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I read this book by an anthropologist this week.
It said in nature we have 4 primary personality types with secondary and even thirdly(?) personalties as well
They were
Explorer
Builder
Director
Negotiator.
Each primary type has a chemical attached to it (either exposure in womb or during puberty etc)
Explorer--dopamine
builder--seratonine
director--testosterone
negotiator--estrogen
Explorers m/f are drawn and do better with same
builders m/f are also drawn and do better with same
Director and negotiator m/f however tend to do better with the opposite
Your secondary personality also really helps figure out who you are compatable with as well but I wont get into the nuances of it.
Now this is different then 'physical' attraction---you still have to be physically attracted, this is a separate issue---this is about relationships not hooking up. This is about relationships.
Anyway when I read this I thought of the site because I thought of Johson right away as the 'explorers' And @WhitePolarBear reminded me of the 'builder'.
Explorer are people who just want to experience adventure and there is very little thought given to having a family or building a more traditional or stable life.
Where Builders--this is their main focus in a productive life--to have a family, tradition, they can be regimented, they like rules and they make great stable parents and are the type of people when they marry it's 50+year marriages. (if they pick another Builder of course).
Where Explorers struggle in longevity in marriages even when they are with a compatable mate (explorers) and often have multiple mates they breed with over time (2nd marriages are common with Explorers).
The Directors and Negotiators were interesting as well because they are drawn and attracted to one another for balance.
Directors tend to be logical, compartmentalized, driven, ambitious.
Negotiators tend to be empathic, compassionate, emotional, etc
Basically the traditional male and female stereo types.
And in fact MOST directors are male and MOST negotiators are female where the other two personality types of personalty are 50/50 evenly divided by gender.
I found it interesting because I realized a lot of my ex BF were the 'explorer' types. And I find in past few years the type I am drawn to are 'Directors' and I have always had hard time with males who I find to be Negotiators.
anyway it was interesting read because I remember having a debate with @Exodus2011 about women and intelligence...and I think it's less about intelligence and more about personality type.
They said that female to male transgender who take estrogen felt less focused for example where the Male to female transgender on testosterone felt MORE focused.
It also made me think of our Anti Androgen drugs--and if these drugs are effecting primary or secondary personalty traits.
Men often complain of brain fog on Propecia--I don't know what brain fog 'is' but perhaps it is just a simple lack of focus they are used to and to them it feels unnatural to be in that state.
Anyway just interesting it reminded me of some of you.
It said in nature we have 4 primary personality types with secondary and even thirdly(?) personalties as well
They were
Explorer
Builder
Director
Negotiator.
Each primary type has a chemical attached to it (either exposure in womb or during puberty etc)
Explorer--dopamine
builder--seratonine
director--testosterone
negotiator--estrogen
Explorers m/f are drawn and do better with same
builders m/f are also drawn and do better with same
Director and negotiator m/f however tend to do better with the opposite
Your secondary personality also really helps figure out who you are compatable with as well but I wont get into the nuances of it.
Now this is different then 'physical' attraction---you still have to be physically attracted, this is a separate issue---this is about relationships not hooking up. This is about relationships.
Anyway when I read this I thought of the site because I thought of Johson right away as the 'explorers' And @WhitePolarBear reminded me of the 'builder'.
Explorer are people who just want to experience adventure and there is very little thought given to having a family or building a more traditional or stable life.
Where Builders--this is their main focus in a productive life--to have a family, tradition, they can be regimented, they like rules and they make great stable parents and are the type of people when they marry it's 50+year marriages. (if they pick another Builder of course).
Where Explorers struggle in longevity in marriages even when they are with a compatable mate (explorers) and often have multiple mates they breed with over time (2nd marriages are common with Explorers).
The Directors and Negotiators were interesting as well because they are drawn and attracted to one another for balance.
Directors tend to be logical, compartmentalized, driven, ambitious.
Negotiators tend to be empathic, compassionate, emotional, etc
Basically the traditional male and female stereo types.
And in fact MOST directors are male and MOST negotiators are female where the other two personality types of personalty are 50/50 evenly divided by gender.
I found it interesting because I realized a lot of my ex BF were the 'explorer' types. And I find in past few years the type I am drawn to are 'Directors' and I have always had hard time with males who I find to be Negotiators.
anyway it was interesting read because I remember having a debate with @Exodus2011 about women and intelligence...and I think it's less about intelligence and more about personality type.
They said that female to male transgender who take estrogen felt less focused for example where the Male to female transgender on testosterone felt MORE focused.
It also made me think of our Anti Androgen drugs--and if these drugs are effecting primary or secondary personalty traits.
Men often complain of brain fog on Propecia--I don't know what brain fog 'is' but perhaps it is just a simple lack of focus they are used to and to them it feels unnatural to be in that state.
Anyway just interesting it reminded me of some of you.
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