The Four Major Personalty Types And Who We Are Attracted Too.

[hairblues]

No one cares about your personality. It doesn't matter if you have a good personality or not to keep your relationship healthy and stable. If you have good looks your partner will do EVERYTHING they could do to keep you with them because that excesses their value. No woman ever leaves the chad. The only two cases in which the woman leaves the chad are.
1- She finds someone better.
2- The chad leaves her to f*** another woman and impregnates her with his 99th kid.

this is actually untrue.

After a while even when you are with a stunning person you get used to there looks if their personality sucks.

You may put up with it if you like the sex for a while but eventually you get used to the looks and you get over it.

LOOKS are important thats not what this is about.

 

[hairblues]

@shookwun

If you met your dreams looks woman...age appropriate looks exactly your ideal fantasy.

and she tells you in the first drink you have wth her that she has had sex with 80 men and has participated in orgies while back packing through Europe when she turned 18...you still going to want to marry her and have kids?

Now same woman same looks you are having a drink she tells you she got her masters in Female Studies and she is a feminist...and she writes a blog for feminists....

You still going to want to marry her and have kids with her?

Now you meet same looking woman you have a drink and she tells you that she is working as a documentary film director and she only wants to have one kid--but she will wait until 35 because she wants to try and win an Oscar and a kid would get in her way.

You still going to want to marry her?


YES looks matter...to f*** and to mate of course.

But you cant build a relationship on looks alone.

 

[Stanx22]

this is actually untrue.

After a while even when you are with a stunning person you get used to there looks if their personality sucks.

You may put up with it if you like the sex for a while but eventually you get used to the looks and you get over it.

LOOKS are important thats not what this is about.

I actually don't know maybe you're right because you speak with logic. I have no experience with relationships, but i told what i see in other's.

 

[hairblues]

I actually don't know maybe you're right because you speak with logic. I have no experience with relationships, but i told what i see in other's.

The looks selecting is a given...thats not what this was about...its probably my bad for wording the tittle as I did.

This is more about compatibility once you made a selection of physical attraction selection.


If a person is dating outside their looks level then perhaps they will over look ALL the other things that go along to try and hold onto superior DNA then they have to offer...I dont know. Does NOT mean they are in a good healthy relationship that is going to last long.

BUT I am talking about people who are looks matched...I am not talking about a 6 guy or girl who is f*****g an 8 or 9.

 

[shookwun]

@shookwun

If you met your dreams looks woman...age appropriate looks exactly your ideal fantasy.

and she tells you in the first drink you have wth her that she has had sex with 80 men and has participated in orgies while back packing through Europe when she turned 18...you still going to want to marry her and have kids?

Now same woman same looks you are having a drink she tells you she got her masters in Female Studies and she is a feminist...and she writes a blog for feminists....

You still going to want to marry her and have kids with her?

Now you meet same looking woman you have a drink and she tells you that she is working as a documentary film director and she only wants to have one kid--but she will wait until 35 because she wants to try and win an Oscar and a kid would get in her way.

You still going to want to marry her?


YES looks matter...to f*** and to mate of course.

But you cant build a relationship on looks alone.

of course personality matters. I want to talk to her all day and night.... But seriously.


but it doesn't matter how ahrd you try, tables cannot be turned for a women you truly want when your physical package is not on the same level.


creating attraction is bullshit.

When I started lifting weights, transforming my body and going under the knife, certain women took notice to my new renowned 'confidence' and reciprocated accordingly. before hand, It all led to nothing. It didn't matter how hard I try, I was never 'her type' Despite being best friends, going to the same high school and similar social circle and interests.


Subtle changes like having braces made a difference for me. benefiting largely from the elastic phase where not only was the occlusion fixed but the chin was brought forward as my genetics should of been.



I have been known to have the gift of gab and in general someone who can be a cassanova. IT DOESNT MATTER IF SHE DOESNT LIKE WHAT SHE SEES.

 

[Stanx22]

The looks selecting is a given...thats not what this was about...its probably my bad for wording the tittle as I did.

This is more about compatibility once you made a selection of physical attraction selection.


If a person is dating outside their looks level then perhaps they will over look ALL the other things that go along to try and hold onto superior DNA then they have to offer...I dont know. Does NOT mean they are in a good healthy relationship that is going to last long.

BUT I am talking about people who are looks matched...I am not talking about a 6 guy or girl who is f*****g an 8 or 9.

I feel there're no true relationships anymore. Everyone judge everyone else based on looks alone. 99% of 8 or 9 date their looks match btw. When you have more you expect more. I'm not in the dating world, but i despise it. All the relationships are like one night stand and casual sex now. No one cares about love anymore and that makes me doubt it's existence in the first place. Being forever alone has many disadvantages, but one of the most important and good advantages being forever alone has that it keeps you away from this sick world, drama and the hypocrisy of dating nowadays. Most people now date to fulfill their sexual desires and to show off using their partners on the social media, not for anything else. Personality matters in love i agree with you, but is there still love nowadays ?

 

[hairblues]

of course personality matters. I want to talk to her all day and night.... But seriously.


but it doesn't matter how ahrd you try, tables cannot be turned for a women you truly want when your physical package is not on the same level.


creating attraction is bullshit.

When I started lifting weights, transforming my body and going under the knife, certain women took notice to my new renowned 'confidence' and reciprocated accordingly. before hand, It all led to nothing. It didn't matter how hard I try, I was never 'her type' Despite being best friends, going to the same high school and similar social circle and interests.


Subtle changes like having braces made a difference for me. benefiting largely from the elastic phase where not only was the occlusion fixed but the chin was brought forward as my genetics should of been.



I have been known to have the gift of gab and in general someone who can be a cassanova. IT DOESNT MATTER IF SHE DOESNT LIKE WHAT SHE SEES.

this is the step AFTER you like what one another visually.

the difference in a one night stand or a fling and a woman you want to marry and make babies with.

you have already established you like the looks.

this is not a debate..we are talking about 2 different things

NO WAY you would EVER marry a woman who was fiercely independent, strong willed to a point of being arrogant and driven for success---even if she looked like your Eastern Euro dream girl....YOu would f*** her and possibly date her until she annoyed you enough that her looks no longer mattered.

You have often said the kind of woman you want to marry both demeanor and looks. You have often talked about the way you want your marriage to be and how you want to raise your kids.

You might forget those wants and needs temporarily for a beautiful face/body BUT eventually it will come back that this woman cant give you what you want long term.

 

[hairblues]

I have been known to have the gift of gab and in general someone who can be a cassanova. IT DOESNT MATTER IF SHE DOESNT LIKE WHAT SHE SEES.

I agree with this for myself..
>But I do know women who will over look 'looks' for other traits.
Sometimes I have been baffled by it.
I know women who love men who make them laugh...Barf
I actually find men who use humor to appeal to women really awkward....but then I don't really value repetitive 'humor' in people like this. I like natural humor that just pops up on its own sporadically or unintentionally, not like 'joke' tellers.
Like I hate comedy clubs.

 

[Saurabhaj]

Looks are one of the most important thing in life along with career/Job.

 

[hairblues]

Looks are one of the most important thing in life along with career/Job.

thats already been selected by the time what I am talking about happens.

Sorry I find where this thread goes as usual really boring ALL about looks...we can never have nuanced conversations about anything but looks its like ridiculouse because I know as a woman I don't always select the 'best' looking guy..and I know men dont always select the 'best' looking woman.
we look for looks we are attracted to but then in addition we need other things to click with people to have more then a casual sex night or fling.
Personality compatabiliy goes a long way when it comes to longevity with someone.

 

[Exodus2011]

five factor personality types and myers briggs are much more descriptive and inclusive

 

[hairblues]

five factor personality types and myers briggs are much more descriptive and inclusive

well I summarized I did not write all the details.

there are sub personalties//

So you have

Exploreers/builders.
Explorers/negotiators.

you can have
Explorer/builder/negotiator

So there are many combinations.

 

[That Guy]

Sorry I find where this thread goes as usual really boring ALL about looks...we can never have nuanced conversations about anything but

I think that this is because it's difficult to have a nuanced conversation about something that is both a given and yet vague and fairly subjective.

Everyone wants to be with someone who is "nice, funny, smart, shares common interests, etc." but these are traits that can be found in MOST people you know to some degree and what constitutes a person fitting that description is based on our own subjective interpretations of those terms as well as our unique experiences with the individual.

As such, it's tough to discuss in great detail without resorting to simply sharing anecdotes that only really mean anything to you, personally.

People on here talk about looks because it's what hairloss hurts the most and so creates a barrier, because without sexual attraction romantic relationships where the personality and shared experiences mean more to you is a point never reached.

I will say this though. I firmly believe as it occurred to me the other day, and I also believe it can be demonstrated, that perhaps most men here are chasing something that doesn't really exist when it comes to looks.

I've insisted numerous times on here that a lot of women (celebs) guys fawn over are in fact, average women (normal looking) and yet they pass over plenty of these women as "average" or even unattractive in the alternative case, and I've taken much flak over this accusation.

I rationalized it at times as being "differences in culture" and sh*t, but I don't think that's what it is at all. I think it's an inability to "see through the veil", so to speak.

 

[Exodus2011]

I think that this is because it's difficult to have a nuanced conversation about something that is both a given and yet vague and fairly subjective.

Everyone wants to be with someone who is "nice, funny, smart, shares common interests, etc." but these are traits that can be found in MOST people you know to some degree and what constitutes a person fitting that description is based on our own subjective interpretations of those terms as well as our unique experiences with the individual.

As such, it's tough to discuss in great detail without resorting to simply sharing anecdotes that only really mean anything to you, personally.

People on here talk about looks because it's what hairloss hurts the most and so creates a barrier, because without sexual attraction romantic relationships where the personality and shared experiences mean more to you is a point never reached.

I will say this though. I firmly believe as it occurred to me the other day, and I also believe it can be demonstrated, that perhaps most men here are chasing something that doesn't really exist when it comes to looks.

I've insisted numerous times on here that a lot of women (celebs) guys fawn over are in fact, average women (normal looking) and yet they pass over plenty of these women as "average" or even unattractive in the alternative case, and I've taken much flak over this accusation.

I rationalized it at times as being "differences in culture" and sh*t, but I don't think that's what it is at all. I think it's an inability to "see through the veil", so to speak.

if you're talking about makeup then we've already discussed this. we know girls aren't hot without makeup, but it doesnt matter. you rate a girl with makeup cuz every girl can and does use it, and our Ds are too hard to care.

 

[hairblues]

Are we seriously discussing this? Personality matters, but only after she's attracted by your appearance. And even after that, it matters a little. See how many women attribute positive qualities to shallow, uncaring jerks just because they're good-looking.

I agree looks matter most AND that both men and women stay in frustrating or unforfilling relationships with people due to looks. This is something else they discus in the book. We kid ourselves due ot physical attraction--or we try to kid ourselves for a while--that the person is right for us when they are not.

I really posted it because like I said it reminded me of a few specific guys here and both their outlooks on life and their choices in partners and the criteria for staying with women or not staying with women.

It was just interesting to me. No other reason really. It's not a debate to the lookism theory.

I think a lot of people pick incorrectly and don't pay attention to the personality differences, the wants and needs once you establish the attraction.


I think its a mistake and a disservice to our natural order to try and make a square peg fit in a round hole solely because of attraction--which I think a lot of couples will do, and you see a lot of friction and or divorce.
Where if they picked better for both attraction AND personality or goals...they would have more fore filling relationships.

 

[hairblues]

I think that this is because it's difficult to have a nuanced conversation about something that is both a given and yet vague and fairly subjective.

Everyone wants to be with someone who is "nice, funny, smart, shares common interests, etc." but these are traits that can be found in MOST people you know to some degree and what constitutes a person fitting that description is based on our own subjective interpretations of those terms as well as our unique experiences with the individual.

As such, it's tough to discuss in great detail without resorting to simply sharing anecdotes that only really mean anything to you, personally.

People on here talk about looks because it's what hairloss hurts the most and so creates a barrier, because without sexual attraction romantic relationships where the personality and shared experiences mean more to you is a point never reached.

I will say this though. I firmly believe as it occurred to me the other day, and I also believe it can be demonstrated, that perhaps most men here are chasing something that doesn't really exist when it comes to looks.

I've insisted numerous times on here that a lot of women (celebs) guys fawn over are in fact, average women (normal looking) and yet they pass over plenty of these women as "average" or even unattractive in the alternative case, and I've taken much flak over this accusation.

I rationalized it at times as being "differences in culture" and sh*t, but I don't think that's what it is at all. I think it's an inability to "see through the veil", so to speak.

The main post is not about things like sense of humor.

Its more about temperament and chemistry that clicks.

If someone is going to live every moment moving and looking for next risk..weather they are a corporate CEO or someone who works for Doctors without borders..its that fly by seat of pants kind of mind set
A risk taker, adrenaline junkie.

Or someone who is very traditional very regimented...Goes to church every Sunday, is at the Gym like clockwork 3 times a week you can program their life to a calendar or schedule (think Military people). Clothes are super pressed and organized etc.
Organized controlled

Or someone who is really competitive, ambitious, likes to be a leader, is ver logical and focused when making decisions, can compartmentalize things. Strong mind.
Ambitious and strong willed.

Or someone who is more empathic in how they make decisions, they 'feel' more rather than think, are more emotional.
more emotional.


These 4 temperament or 'primary' personality types are basically very different people and generally speaking would go about life very differently from one another.

It was just interesting to see the philosophy of how they each interact and how they each choose mates that work best for them--and when they don't how it is more of a struggle (its not impossible).

Its about compatibility..i actually think its beyond just mates, I can see this with friends and co workers.

I have had people I work with that I flow better and easier with and more productively based on this.

I am not sure why the looks thing is even (as usual) the gut knee jerk reaction to anything discussed.

I think I would have been better off to word it as 'productivity' or human interactions and relationships LOL.
IDK

 

[hairblues]

This anthropologist was interesting

She also said that for MEN they will more likely compromise on 'looks' if woman has everything else they want or need for a mate...where women are less compromising on looks...that attraction was more important to women from a DNA standpoint.
I did not read whole thing, not sure if she measured this with brain activity OR questionnaires..she does studies both ways.

That should make you guys feel vindicated

I think women (generally not all) kid themselves when attracted if someone is 'right' for them in a big picture way vs men who are more logical and practical about the big picture of long term relationships and marriage.
Its not across board All men or women but the numbers are higher with women to kid themselves.

They actually said that women older around 60 are extremely focused on physical attraction.
So it gets even more so as women age that they want a man who they are physically attracted to or they don't bother.
where men get more compromising for needs/wants over looks.

 

[Saurabhaj]

Super Offtopic:
One maths question send by a girl to me on Whatsapp.
She is preparing for banks exam.

Is answer =1 Right.

 

[shookwun]

Super Offtopic:
One maths question send by a girl to me on Whatsapp.
She is preparing for banks exam.

Is answer =1 View attachment 58817 Right.

Youre the one


Indian wife accomplished.

 

[hairblues]

Super Offtopic:
One maths question send by a girl to me on Whatsapp.
She is preparing for banks exam.

Is answer =1 View attachment 58817 Right.

I think you do (1+2 ) first which is 3

then you 2(3) which is 6.

then 6/6 = 1

So I would say 1..

correct?