The Irony Of The Acceptance Movement In Hair Loss

[Vanitykills]

F u c k acceptance. Those bald *** holes want us all to be like them because they're incredibly envious of people with more hair. That's all there is to it.

 

[whatevr]

Because of the Tinder/Instagram I am not going to even try... Game is rigged from the beginning.

Just consider you as a girl in prime with NW4 baldcel in "relationships" going to another city/country for a trip alone... Installed Tinder and got bombarded with NW0 semi-model looking guys – just LOL if you will not cheat. Not possible.

I'd f*** them all.

Ahhemmm! *clears throat* Of course I'd stay loyal to my lovely bald-yet-great-personality boyfriend, what insinuations. God!

 

[blackg]

There is one guy who is one year older than me.
When he met me one month back,the first thing he said was bro,do hairtransplant.

I felt bad because why he is judging my baldness.

He itself is not a good looking person,he is fat looking in face. He look like 35 years old even with norwood zero.
Still he was thinking i need to sort out my problem.

This a**h** sounds really really rude.

 

[Exodus2011]

You can't accept it, if you do, you're fucked.

I say use minoxidil, get a hair transplant, no matter what, deplete that donor, even if you'll have the thinnest frame, it's going to be worth it.

Any hair is better than no hair, and if you give up, forget about having a successful relationship for example.

Most fullheads already fail at having successful relationships, so you think you're going to make it as a 25 year old NW4?

Forget it, not in 2016, not in this Tinder age.

And if we put women aside for a moment, don't you think people will be refrain from mocking you.

I see it every day with my bald colleague. Every chance they get, they make a joke about his lack of hair.

You can rationalize it all you want, I see the reality before my eyes, and I've actually lived it.

After you've thrown everything at it, stay tuned for new treatments.

As soon as Histogen is available in Mexico, you can bet I'll book my trip the next day.

There's a reason we're so hopelessly depressed about this disease.

There is no way to feel better about it, to think: "Hell people are going to be nice, it's going to be alright."

It doesn't matter, you'll still feel like sh*t looking at yourself in the mirror, your love life will be a mess, and most importantly, people will not be nice about it.

Acceptance? There is no acceptance, it's not possible to accept that you'll look like crap and that you'll be treated like crap.

I lost my mind over my hair loss, Evil lost hers, uncomfortable man became so cynical and bitter, and so on.

I guess we were just too lucid. You cannot be delusional about this disease, I know many men who have tried (me included).

Reality always comes back to bite you in the ***, and it does so with a vengeance.

Either fight for your hair, for your image, for your dignity, or suffer the consequences.



Wait until you're bald.

no shout out to me and captain forehead?

also its strange seeing your curse here lol. also good that its not censored anymore. fuckity b**ch c*** ***

 

[marco75]

There is no acceptance movement, guys have been going bald forever, it's like saying there is a Ginger haired acceptance movement. Some men go bald, you can treat it, cover it or buzz it.

 

[shookwun]

There is one guy who is one year older than me.
When he met me one month back,the first thing he said was bro,do hairtransplant.

I felt bad because why he is judging my baldness.

He itself is not a good looking person,he is fat looking in face. He look like 35 years old even with norwood zero.
Still he was thinking i need to sort out my problem.

He gave you good advice. You should be speaking with Dr.Bhatii of your concerns.

State your credentials, highlight your concerns and make him understand all this is required in order to move ahead. (Indian wife)

 

[PappinAce]

All I can do is go on my own instinct as to how I, as a non-bald guy, and others I know, who are mainly non-bald people, view baldness. And that is, the same as an ugly guy, a fat guy, a short guy, a guy with acne etc.

There are so many unattractive people and bald guys are just the same, they become irrelevant, you will use your handful of examples of how you were mocked to feel that it singles you out, but you are well aware of how self-centred you are that you can't empathise with anything else.

I think you've hit a fundamental point here h.l. I have no problem admitting that throughout my life I've been self-centered and have had massive barriers that prevent me from truly empathizing with other people. Because hair loss was the first bad thing to ever happen in my privileged and easy life, I find myself able to empathize with hair loss sufferers on a level I never knew possible.

HOWEVER, I recognize the shortcoming here: a decent human should make an effort to empathize with others even when they haven't experienced the same things. That's something I never tried. We should try empathizing with starving children, abused adolescents, pregnant teens, cancer patients, etc.

The vast majority of this forum's members are fundamentally self centered. We're also mostly at least middle or upper class (I'm guessing) and get so consumed by our hair loss, that being the toughest thing we've had to deal with, that it's the only thing we can empathize with. Nothing else ends up mattering.

Placing so much stock on physical appearance is an indication that you have ZERO interest in what's going on inside the person or what they've experienced. Some people just dismiss them as "NW5 subhuman" and imagine they'll never get laid, always be depressed, etc. Ever think that they might feel fulfillment or self-actualization in studying Buddhism, or playing soccer, or working in data collection, or writing stories, or whatever? Ever think they don't give a sh*t about relationships and one night stands? If they're asexual / demisexual and aren't that into sex?

Maybe, just maybe, baldies are people with unique personalities and rich experiences waiting to be shared. Just like fatties. Or people with acne all over their face. Or amputees.

...Nah, they're all just subhumans because they have a physical shortcoming.

What a cheap way to view life!

This forum ends up, in a lot of cases, being a hub for self-reinforcing selfishness and immaturity.

 

[Rudiger]

This forum ends up, in a lot of cases, being a hub for self-reinforcing selfishness and immaturity.

Couldn't be more appropriate right now.

And nice post, I mean it's not a harmful thought at all, even "realists" on here have the same vision "Why shouldn't society care about us? Why do we need their acceptance?" but you've flipped the same idea from a different perspective, I guess that's being seen as delusional and overly positive, but it's the exact same principle. I know you're not saying your thoughts will heal the world, but it's a thought, not exactly harmful is it?

Well written.

 

[Rudiger]

You are correct, Fred.

 

[Dnpuntold]

Well I don't feel that way personally.I accept the fact that I'm bald/balding and that people view me entirely different because of it ,but just because you accept your current state of self does not mean that you have to delude yourself and not strive for improvement

 

[Rudiger]

Well I don't feel that way personally.I accept the fact that I'm bald/balding and that people view me entirely different because of it ,but just because you accept your current state of self does not mean that you have to delude yourself and not strive for improvement

This is a very concise and brilliantly put post. I don't know if you even realise how much this logic should apply to a LOT of what is written on this forum.

Once it happens, there's no point in making it worse in your mind, never believe the tragic end of your hair is the end of everything.

 

[xetudor]

never believe the tragic end of your hair is the end of everything.

This doesn't mean it doesn't sucks ***.

 

[Rudiger]

"tragic end of your hair"

Indeed it does suck ***.

 

[PappinAce]

What you think here does not matter. I mean it's all nice and positive, but most people out there won't care about you if you're a fat bald slob. That's human nature, and your wishful thinking won't change it.

Wait a second...flipping the perspective, ask yourself: do YOU truly care about people? And when you consider the concept of caring about or acknowledging someone, I don't mean giving them the time of day at a bar and sleeping with them later. I mean, are you curious about people's childhoods, hobbies, interests, passions, fears, etc? That's how you really get to know someone. Were people curious about yours before hair loss? And now they're not?

The people who are curious enough about you to ask those questions are the ones worth getting to know. And those people will make the effort whether or not you have hair. I KNOW the vast majority of people don't. I spent a lot of my life at university studying humanities, so I was almost completely surrounded by wonderful, respectful, curious people who didn't give a sh*t about hair loss. These people respect you with or without hair. Most people aren't like that. Hair loss, in a way, weeds out the people who place too much stock on physical attributes.

The ones who don't give a sh*t about you because you're bald would also not give a sh*t about you if you had hair. They might be interested in SLEEPING with you. Let's be clear that's the thing that changes. Not denying your point there.

 

[Rudiger]

Of course he doesn't f*****g care about people! The man's a psychotic maniac, he's a sociopath who lacks social skills.

Imagine an autistic Patrick Bateman, he wants love from any source, and when he actually receives some, he moves on and wants it from somewhere else (I'm explicitly talking about his activity on this forum and not his fake "love life").

 

[nameless]

Of course he doesn't f*****g care about people! The man's a psychotic maniac, he's a sociopath who lacks social skills.

Imagine an autistic Patrick Bateman, he wants love from any source, and when he actually receives some, he moves on and wants it from somewhere else (I'm explicitly talking about his activity on this forum and not his fake "love life").

So then are you saying that any guy who has lots of girlfriends is a psycho who doesn't care about anyone but himself?

Oh wait, of course you aren't saying that. You only said that about Fred because you use insults against Fred (nonstop) as a valve to release your own frustration over hair loss, because you can't take it.

 

[Rudiger]

Is Fred seriously aligning himself with this maniac who screwed 2,000 women? Times are desperate.

 

[Rudiger]

The numbers are more than realistic, the sources definitely are not.

Shooks possibly, I don't know, you no chance. Have you like doubled the amount of women you've fucked in your life, in the space of this half year so far?

Coolest story! And it's very helpfully convenient that it comes after being exposed as relatively lacking in experience with women, the way you were talking about your "many experiences" and then revealed you've only slept with 20, and you probably thought that was a lot, at least now your fake number can give your slayer arguments and Fred-pilling some gusto.

But yes your latest ally being an even bigger quackpot than you is showing severe desperation at this point. Even I wouldn't lower myself to try and reason some form of an argument with that thing.

 

[GoldenMane]

Acceptance of the existence of hair loss.
Rejection of possible solutions, remedies, disguises and preventatives.
Denial about the aesthetic and social impact of hair loss (highly age, race, face, head shape and body dependant).

Acceptance isn't a simple matter at all really, quite multi faceted....

 

[Rudiger]

Hold the f*** up, your number was 20 before your last girlfriend (Who you didn't cheat on) if you've had 14 since February that would mean you were at 16 before.

I think at most you may have had 1 ex, who the f*** posts something like that? But she probably broke your heart which would explain a lot.