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[EvilLocks]

It is funny, but if you think about it, do you precisely remember how you landed here? I don't... or at least it is not so clear...

I have no idea exactly how I ended up here, but it was definitely during my period of obsessively researching treatments for hair loss online. All I remember is that I made an account on HerAlopecia.com and asking the women there for advice, only to be met by the "Just embrace your hair loss sweetie, remember you are beautiful no matter what!"-crap. Somehow I found my way onto HairLossTalk and made my first post here explaining my situation (I believe I was 21 at the time), followed up by a crazy thread about how I thought all the guys here were vain (it was my depression talking). After that, I just never left, but this is my 2nd account and the one I've had the longest.

 

[CopeForLife]

I start to feel @shookwun emotional rollercoasters.

For almost a week I feel quite ok. Started to be functional first time for quite long time. My sleeping regime was fixed.

Finasteride helps as well. Now I am calm that I do everything I can regarding hairloss.

I was observing a single follicle that lowest on my hairline for two years or so. Follicle seemed to die 1-2 month ago. Now after a few weeks on finasteride I see a black hair growing out from this follicle. Do not know is it a coincidence or finasteride effect but it's cool. One step for man one giant leap for mankind.

I do not have side effect yet. Not a single one. Had limp dick 1 day, had testicles pain for a 2-3 days. That's all. I do not count this as side effects at all. Not even sure aforementioned is from finasteride.

Even my face isn't feel that ugly now especially in the evening where it's swollen-free. Stubble, proper lightning (must have), grown hair a bit (they still thick despite diffuse thinning), proper tongue posture (by Mike Mew).

Not seeing good looking people (I live in genetic garbage) like @Baldhurts helps as well.

Not sure how long it will last but feels nice.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I have no idea exactly how I ended up here, but it was definitely during my period of obsessively researching treatments for hair loss online. All I remember is that I made an account on HerAlopecia.com and asking the women there for advice, only to be met by the "Just embrace your hair loss sweetie, remember you are beautiful no matter what!"-crap. Somehow I found my way onto HairLossTalk and made my first post here explaining my situation (I believe I was 21 at the time), followed up by a crazy thread about how I thought all the guys here were vain (it was my depression talking). After that, I just never left, but this is my 2nd account and the one I've had the longest.

Which is worse,

Women telling each other they're all beautiful,
Or men telling each other to just be confident?

 

[CopeForLife]

Cope it's okay to bring me down. EL gave me rating and I'll live contently ever after now

wut? you're solid 7.25/10

I'd feel myself as inferior genetic garbage if fate will place myself next to your in elevator or so.

 

[Baldhurts]

wut? you're solid 7.25/10

I'd feel myself as inferior genetic garbage if fate will place myself next to your in elevator or so.

Sorry sometimes I read you're English wrong. Didn't you say you look like zayne?

 

[Baldhurts]

This love story is getting hot!

Fred + EL is better

 

[CopeForLife]

Sorry sometimes I read you're English wrong. Didn't you say you look like zayne?

I have same face pattern but less angular and inferior in every feature.

Also balding hit me hard.

 

[EvilLocks]

Which is worse,

Women telling each other they're all beautiful,
Or men telling each other to just be confident?

Very good question indeed. I don't know actually.

 

[EvilLocks]

Fred + EL is better

Dante + Me would be the most epic love story of all: Two 24 year-old baldies, with no libido, who hates each other (at least he hates me, I actually secretly like Dante!)

 

[CopeForLife]

Dante + Me would be the most epic love story of all: Two 24 year-old baldies, with no libido, who hates each other (at least he hates me, I actually secretly like Dante!)

I knew his skull size and slayer voice turn girls into him.

 

[EvilLocks]

OUPSY! Noy a secret anymore

I guess you're right

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I struggled with social anxiety on and off over the years, it comes up in certain circumstances as a response to trauma.

I organized a house party around 2010. I noticed 30 people went to one guy's house to watch a world cup game one Sunday morning. So for the next Sunday morning, I invited people, the same people. Not one person came. The same had happened for the Battlestar Galactica series finale in 2009, I invited people over, not one person came. This was in an environment of mostly nerds.

I moved in 2012, and from 2012 to most of 2015 I did not host a single dinner party or birthday party. I actually had bought nice furniture with the plan of having people come over, and I had become a good cook and baker, but I never invited people over. I never organized a birthday party. I was afraid I'd be there and nobody else would show up. My anxiety was well justified because as stated before, nobody had shown up to parties I had organized previously.

It's silly though, to have learned to cook, to own this "fancy" furniture, and to never have people over. I finally invited one set of friends over in late 2015 (I think), and another in early 2016. Both times there were specific occasions acting as enablers -- international people were in from out of town. I hosted dinner parties in their honour and it was a f*****g relief that people came.

It paid off in that I ended up making good friends this way. I met a friend of mine, his girlfriend, their friends at a restaurant one night after yoga. We all came to my house after the restaurant to eat dessert, they were all very impressed with me and then we ended up bonding over time and becoming close.

I think a big difference is partly that my social status had improved. I was seen as subhuman in 2009/2010 in part because i was not respected at work. If you're not good looking, and you're not good at your job, you not only have no value to society, but you have negative value. In contrast in the different job I held a few years later I was well-respected professionally, and thus people at least liked me as a friend. I could get along with people as human beings. That doesn't compensate for an absence of sex, but it's essential regardless for psychological well-being.

tldr --
1) If you're not attractive, you really have to be good at your job;
2) If you're in a position to face your fears on your own terms, do so;

 

[Dante92]

I knew his skull size and slayer voice turn girls into him.

Yeah, girls tend to be into guys who, on the other hand, despise them.

 

[EvilLocks]

Yeah, girls tend to be into guys who, on the other hand, despise them.

Don't flatter yourself now, Dante I'm not 'into' you Just like some of the sh*t you write I know the feeling isn't mutual, it's alright

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

So much girls must be into you. Just despise them with this voice of yours.

I missed out on his voice.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

This girl I might be seeing n Friday. She just texted me with the same Friday could work. But she wants me to call tonight first (her texting me was her giving me her phone number). So I said I'll call her tonight.

I wonder if she is a reverse @shookwun. She wants to hear my voice first to know if I'm a real man. This is giving me anxiety. I think I'll call her around 730. I should pick a nice restaurant but not too nice. Hipsterish not a chain. It sucks I don't know Baltimore well enough yet.

 

[CopeForLife]

This girl I might be seeing n Friday. She just texted me with the same Friday could work. But she wants me to call tonight first (her texting me was her giving me her phone number). So I said I'll call her tonight.

I wonder if she is a reverse @shookwun. She wants to hear my voice first to know if I'm a real man. This is giving me anxiety. I think I'll call her around 730. I should pick a nice restaurant but not too nice. Hipsterish not a chain. It sucks I don't know Baltimore well enough yet.

The only experience from tinder I had I met a girl after 30 min we matched (slayer) she was with a female friends (one mogs her cute 10/10, second fat) (wasn't a date just were on the same mall so she proposed to meet) so we had a dinner and convo.

She was ok, wrote me after and next day but I flocked since her legs were too thick (she had photos of body, just different a bit IRL).. Too important.

 

[Baldhurts]

This girl I might be seeing n Friday. She just texted me with the same Friday could work. But she wants me to call tonight first (her texting me was her giving me her phone number). So I said I'll call her tonight.

I wonder if she is a reverse @shookwun. She wants to hear my voice first to know if I'm a real man. This is giving me anxiety. I think I'll call her around 730. I should pick a nice restaurant but not too nice. Hipsterish not a chain. It sucks I don't know Baltimore well enough yet.

Too bad it's not baseball season, could've suggested an orioles game. Good oppertunity to talk etc.. That's what I'd do for first date.

 

[EvilLocks]

She was ok, wrote me after and next day but I flocked since her legs were too thick (she had photos of body, just different a bit IRL).. Too important.

How much 'too thick', though? I have a feeling you could have been doing alright with girls (could be wrong, sorry if I am!) if you weren't so picky. It seems like with you it's either 8+/10 girls or nothing.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

Too bad it's not baseball season, could've suggested an orioles game. Good oppertunity to talk etc.. That's what I'd do for first date.

Perhaps in a few months. The ballpark here is apparently really nice.

Are you a Flames fan?

If so, I'd like to give my condolences.