what do you do when you feel especially ****ty?

[Cue Bald]

Trust me, they are only going to get more important going forward. The AI/data science fields are absolutely nuts now and progress is happening at an exponential rate.

I have spent this year reading obsessively about the techniques that are used. Based on what I now know, I'm confident that if you gave me enough time and money there isn't an entry-level white-collar job in existence that I couldn't either automate fully or to the point where only one-third of the labor is needed.

My advice is to get on the train before it's too late.

One of the things that keeps me going is working on computer programs, I enjoyed doing it since I was young and it takes my mind off things and gives me purpose. I think having something to do to give your life purpose can help a fair bit. Plus in IT I never got discriminated against for being NW5. I don't much like being "the nerd that fixes your computer" stereotype when it comes to girls though...

I can't listen to any radio stations as it is all pop crap. My friend was watching the Ellie Goulding video where she gets starrey eyed over some guy. naturally he is NW1. they all hum along as if the girl singing is talking about them, but it just makes me angry.
I hate the inane vapid songs these days, like that taylor swift one where she talks about the guy with the "hella good hair"...

 

[Exodus2011]

Trust me, they are only going to get more important going forward. The AI/data science fields are absolutely nuts now and progress is happening at an exponential rate.

I have spent this year reading obsessively about the techniques that are used. Based on what I now know, I'm confident that if you gave me enough time and money there isn't an entry-level white-collar job in existence that I couldn't either automate fully or to the point where only one-third of the labor is needed.

My advice is to get on the train before it's too late.

thanks for the advice guys. i cant deny the thought of a hair transplant and even possible cure keeps me sane. i think i just need to spend more time alone. like truly alone, mentally and physically. as soon as i start comparing myself to all the spoiled full heads my age i get really pissed. i need to stop that.

lol strange you mention that. i'm just a few credits away from my associates majoring in computer science. i just finished up my first programming (c++) course. it is pretty cool, i think i might get into it more. i have like a 96 without even trying that hard so i know i'm pretty good at it. its either that or IT.

and well before hair loss i know i was pretty decent looking, probably a 6 or 7 so dont give me that. i had cute white girls that liked me so yea . . . . its just my look doesnt match with being bald so it takes me down drastically.

but yes today is the information age and organizing and consolidating all that data is defining the world. from roomate placement algorithms to facebook's targeted advertisements. its like the worlds turning into a giant brain, with all of us the neurons

and do you have any studies to back up your statements on the marijuana? its effects are across the board from what i've looked up. it definitely doesn't cause major things like lung cancer or heart disease though, thats obvious. but the research on its effects on the brain are still in its infancy.

this website references a couple of studies and basically it looks like things are inconclusive at the moment. http://www.iflscience.com/brain/new-study-finds-daily-marijuana-use-not-associated-brain-changes

 

[CaptainForehead]

This is something which I have just begun to realize: I am ugly/sexually undesirable. I can put some makeup on the pig (ie workout), but in the end it's still a pig. What I CAN do is pick up skills (for example coding), and MAKE myself valuable to society. Without skills, I am nothing but a pig.

Exodus, don't waste your 20s wallowing in depression like I did.

I still have periods when it all gets too much. I then hide out for a week alone binge watching a tv series, and pretending I am living in that make believe world with a chiseled jaw, good height, deep voice and handsome face.

 

[swingline747]

Trust me, they are only going to get more important going forward. The AI/data science fields are absolutely nuts now and progress is happening at an exponential rate.

I have spent this year reading obsessively about the techniques that are used. Based on what I now know, I'm confident that if you gave me enough time and money there isn't an entry-level white-collar job in existence that I couldn't either automate fully or to the point where only one-third of the labor is needed.

My advice is to get on the train before it's too late.

Go Trades,

Most of the data/IT feilds are going outsourced now. Why pay you 70K a year when they can send their work to india and russia for 10K?
Almost all of it is being outsourced except hardware related on site stuff. Though even some of that is getting done. Call about an issue and get "okay we're sending you a shipping box" and off it goes to Mexico (at least in the states).

Trades can never be outsourced and will always be able to demand a pretty fair wage/cost. Yes here in the US we deal with immigration influx that sort of pushes the wage down a bit but trades where you need a license can not be "legally" done by immigrants new to the country and if they are even they have to meet wage demands.

steer clear of college and get into a trade Ex. Join one of the unions in your state/county, then you can transfer anywhere. My brother went to school for electrical on my advice and now got a sweet gig working as a railroad electrician making awesome cash and doing NOTHING all day with insane OT. He never even got his license.

 

[Exodus2011]

well its just i dont think i would fit in with the trade crowd. i wanna be with my fellow socially maladjusted nerdy basement dwellers. i'm afraid i'll run into the dumb bro type in the trades :/

but i could be wrong, idk much about the trades

 

[swingline747]

well its just i dont think i would fit in with the trade crowd. i wanna be with my fellow socially maladjusted nerdy basement dwellers. i'm afraid i'll run into the dumb bro type in the trades :/

but i could be wrong, idk much about the trades

then be a network cable runner or work in surveillance wiring, maintenance and setup, thats huge right now as well.

 

[I.D WALKER]

Forget about those "dumb bro" types. I think I understand where you are coming from, but guys like that are a dime a dozen, you can't let that worry you. The only thing you need to be "scared" about is when you allow your anxious thoughts sabotage your pursuit of an ambitious livelihood. Never choose a safe plan over a golden opportunity. Now go get it Champ!

well its just i dont think i would fit in with the trade crowd. i wanna be with my fellow socially maladjusted nerdy basement dwellers. i'm afraid i'll run into the dumb bro type in the trades :/

but i could be wrong, idk much about the trades

 

[CaptainForehead]

Go Trades,

Most of the data/IT feilds are going outsourced now. Why pay you 70K a year when they can send their work to india and russia for 10K?
Almost all of it is being outsourced except hardware related on site stuff.

Not true. It is true that a lot was outsourced. However, the salaries in these countries have risen substantially due to inflation to a point now where it is not that economical for smaller companies to ship off work.

If someone is a mediocre programmer, then yes I agree with you -- he will find it hard to get work. But excellent programmers need not worry.

 

[RoyD]

A lot of men quietly say to themselves "thank god its him and not me". But they would never admit it. Because hair loss is "Nothing brah!!!, women love confidence!"

I know but I didn't mean it in that context. I meant I wonder how many men actually feel thankful. For the short time of my life of 16 or 17 years where I had hair I didn't even know male pattern baldness existed in young men or even was a thing as a matter of fact. When I saw a couple of people in my batch losing their hair I thought that it was some weird disease or some issue. Never really knew what a 'privilege' I had being a fullhead till then.

 

[EvilLocks]

I wonder if uncomfortable man is really going to go through with a hair transplant.

Me too. I really hope he's serious, for his own sake. He seems fed up with this life and I'm actually worried for his safety if he doesn't do anything to feel better. I think he would really benefit from a transplant and maybe SMP. I wish him the best no matter what he chooses to do but honestly feel a transplant would be right for him.

 

[shookwun]

He should just get a hair piece. It will be a drastic change but all for the better.

 

[EvilLocks]

He should just get a hair piece. It will be a drastic change but all for the better.

I think I will wait for Fred to respond to that one xD

 

[Wolf Pack]

He should just get a hair piece. It will be a drastic change but all for the better.

A guy called CueBald on here posted some amazing transformations of Norwood 5 plus guys, but they were blessed with like thick donor hair and 11k of it.

Otherwise I would also opt for a piece. Nothing beats a personal style, an identity. A transplant may not be viable for UC from a cosmetic surgical view point.

Either way, I hope it works out for him. I enjoy talking to him.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Why hasn't your father gone for a hair transplant then? Especially since now you have researched it?

 

[swingline747]

He's too old to change his habits now.

He just continues to do what he knows.

He's been unemployed for 5 years and I don't see that changing either.

He's constantly depressed and whining about feeling depressed.

Let's say that he just gave up.

your pops sounds like my pops minus the wig. He was always a depressed, whiny, mess even when we were growing up.

 

[EvilLocks]

His take on it? A nightmare, a deep, dark nightmare where you live in constant paranoia, have to give up all you enjoy in life, and be ready to spend even more money than you would on a hair transplant.

Your father's experiece with a hair piece scares the crap out of me. Because I know a hair piece will be my future, it's not like I as a woman can walk around bald(ing). I hope my experience with a hair piece will be better than your father's.

 

[xetudor]

Your father's experiece with a hair piece scares the crap out of me. Because I know a hair piece will be my future, it's not like I as a woman can walk around bald(ing). I hope my experience with a hair piece will be better than your father's.

I can't even believe how hard it is for a woman to go bald but the I don't think anyone sane will call out a woman for wearing a wig. I think Fred's father's paranoia come from the fear of being discovered and being made fun in his face.

 

[EvilLocks]

I can't even believe how hard it is for a woman to go bald but the I don't think anyone sane will call out a woman for wearing a wig. I think Fred's father's paranoia come from the fear of being discovered and being made fun in his face.

Yeah it's incredibly hard to be a woman going bald. I recently went on a holiday to Sweden and I swear I didn't see ONE woman with hair loss even if I was surrounded by people all the time, LOTS of people. It's incredibly unfair and a joke to be going bald in the early 20's as a woman.

About wigs, you are probably right a woman won't be made fun of like a man would. It's more socially acceptable for us women with hair loss to wear hair, but that doesn't make it a viable solution for hair loss. I've said many times here that a wig is uncomfortable, expensive, hot and will never look like real hair no matter how expensive the wig is. That said, it's the only "solution" out there, so I'm going to be forced to wear one sooner rather than later.

 

[I.D WALKER]

I don't think a hair piece is necessarily a sign of complete surrender. I know it won't change your understandable conscious state of helplessness due to your circumstances, but it might help to buffer some of your immediate anger and despair or might offer you enough strength to function out in jungle land even a little less shyly. This can make a difference on your outlook only to the extent you can accept compromise. A hair piece acts something like crutches do for a cripple. The cripple knows it's not a solution, but rather a practical means to an end. It won't take away the problem, only bring you closer and possibly more quickly to that place or frame of mind reminiscent of "your old self" again. When you can get "there", then from there you may gather enough moral momentum to plan on making clearer plans to go SomeWhere. I know a hair piece is no real substitute for anyone's missing peace, I also know that trying out for SomeWhere is less foolish than slowly dying here in NoWhere.

 

[EvilLocks]

I don't think a hair piece is necessarily a sign of complete surrender.

A hair piece is definitely the last way out. It's when everything else has been tried, and failed. So in my opinion it's kinda like surrender.