What is the trick to stop caring / missing women?

[Feelsbadman]

Despite taking anti androgens
I still find myself missing the presence of women, being sexual and intimate with women.

Im into my hobbies, sports, ps5, on weekends i find sometihng to do

yet i just cant seem to turn off this desire no matter how hard i try and distract myself
i still think of my girlfriend from 3 years ago as this was the last time i had this experience

how do you trick your mind to stop caring about women?

 

[Caillou]

The trick is to buy a 10" dragon dildo and put it in your *** and you will be cured

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

there is no trick. can you get an addict to stop missing heroin ? you're addicted to the validation a woman provides. you've built this grand ideal in your mind and it's never going away

 

[Isaac Newton]

Rub one out when you feel the urge

 

[Isaac Newton]

there is no trick. can you get an addict to stop missing heroin ? you're addicted to the validation a woman provides. you've built this grand ideal in your mind and it's never going away

There's no man on earth besides like maybe psychopaths and men who are molested asexuals who can be happy without women

 

[Isaac Newton]

That's not a good comparison at all. Drugs are not something that you evolved to need

 

[Feelsbadman]

there is no trick. can you get an addict to stop missing heroin ? you're addicted to the validation a woman provides. you've built this grand ideal in your mind and it's never going away

I actually do not care about womens validation. I think as a man you grow out of this. I dont give a f*** if women like me or not. I miss the sex, intimacy and companionship a women provides.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

There's no man on earth besides like maybe psychopaths and men who are molested asexuals who can be happy without women

even them. psychopaths are notoriously hypersexual and asexuals can still crave intimacy

my point is, some people can cope much better, there are degrees of suffering and our friend here is in the hottest circle of hell

 

[Feelsbadman]

Rub one out when you feel the urge

Yes rubbing it out and sometimes seeing prostitutes helps.
But both leave you unfulfilled.

 

[BurningCoals]

There's no man on earth besides like maybe psychopaths and men who are molested asexuals who can be happy without women

 

[Feelsbadman]

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you saying he is wrong or right?

 

[BurningCoals]

you saying he is wrong or right?

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

I actually do not care about womens validation. I think as a man you grow out of this. I dont give a f*** if women like me or not. I miss the sex, intimacy and companionship a women provides.

there's nothing wrong with wanting to be validated. a women validates certain aspects of your personality, of your masculinity, that no other relationship can replicate

you know you can't unlearn this desire. you've asked the same question a thousand times in a slightly different way. it's impossible. everyone desires companionship and intimacy. whether a desire is learned ( like addiction) or inate, it can only really be suppressed not unlearned

the greater the desire the greater the suffering

 

[Feelsbadman]

there's nothing wrong with wanting to be validated. a women validates certain aspects of your personality, of your masculinity, that no other relationship can replicate

you know you can't unlearn this desire. you've asked the same question a thousand times in a slightly different way. it's impossible. everyone desires companionship and intimacy. whether a desire is learned ( like addiction) or inate, it can only really be suppressed not unlearned

the greater the desire the greater the suffering

Yea sorry you're right it just pops in my head all the time

I get really angry and annoyed at myself because i still think of my trash old gf from a few years ago

But i cant get that sex/companionship/intimacy due to my genetics. I've had a taste for it so the desire for it is now a lot stronger than previously having nothing.

I guess i just need to live with it and accept its not something that can be switched off . just deal with it

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

Yea sorry you're right it just pops in my head all the time

I get really angry and annoyed at myself because i still think of my trash old gf from a few years ago

But i cant get that sex/companionship/intimacy due to my genetics. I've had a taste for it so the desire for it is now a lot stronger than previously having nothing.

I guess i just need to live with it and accept its not something that can be switched off . just deal with it

that's why I used the analogy of addiction. it's not about learned vs inate, moral vs immoral or legitimate vs illegitimate, only that in some people desires ( or compulsions ) are so strong they are a never-ending source of
misery

accepting it will help, but it's not a magical solution if your desire is so intense. you can accept pain but that won't cure it

if I were you I'd go full-on looksmaxxing and put myself out there again. even if it's exhausting and frustrating, because to me it seems you will never even have a semblance of happiness without a woman

 

[DoctorHouse]

Despite taking anti androgens
I still find myself missing the presence of women, being sexual and intimate with women.

Im into my hobbies, sports, ps5, on weekends i find sometihng to do

yet i just cant seem to turn off this desire no matter how hard i try and distract myself
i still think of my girlfriend from 3 years ago as this was the last time i had this experience

how do you trick your mind to stop caring about women?

The same way you trick your mind into pushing yourself to go to gym despite knowing it will being filled with some chads.

 

[Feelsbadman]

that's why I used the analogy of addiction. it's not about learned vs inate, moral vs immoral or legitimate vs illegitimate, only that in some people desires ( or compulsions ) are so strong they are a never-ending source of
misery

accepting it will help, but it's not a magical solution if your desire is so intense. you can accept pain but that won't cure it

if I were you I'd go full-on looksmaxxing and put myself out there again. even if it's exhausting and frustrating, because to me it seems you will never even have a semblance of happiness without a woman

The ironic thing is, when i lookxmax incredibly hard, women seem to like me and respond to me more, all but further making me realise how important looks are which in itself is depressing . lol

 

[Feelsbadman]

The same way you trick your mind into pushing yourself to go to gym despite knowing it will being filled with some chads.

The gym i go to there are always 6 ft 2 chads there
makes me sad as f***
once asked if he could work in with me on the machine i said no because he was a chad

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

The ironic thing is, when i lookxmax incredibly hard, women seem to like me and respond to me more, all but further making me realise how important looks are which in itself is depressing . lol

right it's depressing, but it's reality. you can either fight it like before or buckle under it and suffer like you do now. forget all this accepting sh*t. fight. go improve everything you can. you said it yourself, women react better.. maximize your opportunities

 

[goku_black]

there is no such thing for a man to compleatly delete his libido. other then physical castration anti androgens only lower it and effecting erections. they dont actually make your libido dissapear