What Shall I Do? How Can I Live Like This?

[Mapleman]

Mapleman, think hard about the trans regime. I know you don't want to continue looking odd. But that could make you look even more odd.
Hang in in there brother.

I dont even know any more. Who knows i might enjoy it, im not that attached to my current looks to be honest. If i could be someone else that would be fine.

 

[Hangin'on Hair]

I dont even know any more. Who knows i might enjoy it, im not that attached to my current looks to be honest. If i could be someone else that would be fine.

Well the only thing I could suggest, if you choose to go that way, is RESEARCH!!!
Look up everything about it. Talk to a specialist. Get to know about every single change that could happen to your body when doing it. And I wouldn't doubt that there will be some extreme mental things that would go along with it. So make sure you look into that too.

If you choose to do it, I wish you all the best and hope that it makes you happy and more comfortable with who you are.

 

[F2005]

Mapleman, I totally feel for you and sympathize with you. I share so many of your feelings about hair loss, and experienced some of them too. Hair loss exacerbates other issues that were previously manageable or even dormant. You say how you suffered from social anxiety and depression. Despite the fact, that I became an outgoing young man, I was shy kid. But I broke out of my shell eventually and I liked the person that I became. Now that I am suffering from hair loss though, I fear that I am going to end up right back where I started, as that shy kid once again. On the positive side, Buckthorn is right in that most people in life will not care whether you are balding or not. I was just at the football bar and there were several completely bald guys there and I couldn't have cared less. Neither could anyone else at the bar. If you would've walked into the bar as a diffused NW3, no one would've cared. What I care about (and probably what you care about too) is how hair loss has caused me to feel about my reflection in the mirror and my identity, and also my prospects with regards to dating attractive women. Although a regular guy at the bar will not care whether I am losing my hair, I know that the woman that I am dating surely will. Lastly, although I strongly advise you NOT to take any transgender medication, I can (believe it or not) totally understand where you are coming from. Despite getting really bad side effects from finasteride, I stayed on it for quite a while after that (and soldiered through the side effects) because I was that vigilant about not living life as a bald man.

Macaronaroni is totally right. To the degree of devastation that hair loss causes people, it is absolutely unconscionable that we are living with such limited treatments and no cure. I think it's due to the fact that most (if not all) of non hair loss sufferers do not understand the plight of people who do suffer from hair loss. Their opinions range from wishful thinking to downright clueless. Yet you know that if they themselves were losing their hair, that they'd know exactly where you are coming from. Even lots of people with minimal hair loss (like an NW2) cannot even begin to fathom the plight of an NW6. When you are satisfied with your appearance, you are more motivated to get out there and succeed in virtually every facet of life. But since my hair loss started, I've become more withdrawn, moody, and angry. Hair loss just consumes every aspect of your life, and you view life differently. I really wish that those with no hair loss or very minimal hair loss were able to live life for even a day as a bald man. Then they'd know exactly how we'd feel and their clueless opinions would vanish.

Doctor House, that is a nice post. I've never really cared about what most people think, but instead about how I viewed myself. When I was very overweight from powerlifting, I had several friends and family members tell me to adopt a more normal look. Yet I liked the way that I looked, and since I was secure in who I was, I didn't really care what anyone else thought. The problem is that most of us hate the way that we look as balding men. Sure, we do not want to get ridiculed by others for being bald. But we also do not want to get up, look in the mirror, and hate the way that we look.

 

[F2005]

Damn sucks to hear, I'm the same age as you with like 30% original density, although my hairline hasn't receded much. Maybe try topical estrogen/progesterone before you resort to hrt meds? Is a hair transplant completely out of the question?

It f*****g blows, man, these are supposed to be the best years of our life but we have to deal with this BS problem on our heads. It doesn't help when everyone in your family/friends just tells you to shave it bro, or that women won't care, etc it just pisses me off more. Hair makes a world of a difference, even my short diffuse sh*t hair at least adds a frame to my face, if I was slick bald i'd look like i'm f*cking 35, the only thing I have going for me right now is concealers which at least keeps me looking my age but I can't style my damn hair at all, not to mention i live in a state where there's almost nonstop rain during the summer.

How much would I like to bet you that every of your family and friends who told you that opinion was either not bald or they didn't start going bald until they were much older? If they started balding at a young age, I GUARANTEE you that they would know how you feel.

 

[Zoro]

How much would I like to bet you that every of your family and friends who told you that opinion was either not bald or they didn't start going bald until they were much older? If they started balding at a young age, I GUARANTEE you that they would know how you feel.

This is pretty much spot-on, and the funny thing is when i just had a little bit of thinning going on, a couple of family members would say "you better find a girlfriend while you still have your hair" in a joking way etc. since most guys in my family is bald or heavily thinning , but now they're the same ones that tell me it doesn't matter.