superfrankie said:
uncomfortable man said:
Saying that we would find something else to fixate on is entirely possible, I'm not denying that
Good comment. I know I would fixate on something else. My nose, my teeths/smile or my body composure but it wouldnt control my life. I wouldnt hinder my in my daily life.
For sure. I think if we can try and accept ourselves and the way we look, then whatever we have to deal with will become easier. Even if NW1s die, become ugly, and get old. There is no one person that has a perfect or happy life.
If we can accept our hair loss, then it will help us to accept anything.
Right now my mental attitude is ok. I have got over the initial stages 'of f*** I cant beleive this is happening' (denial) and now its not at the forefront of my thinking, Ive grown used to it. But it has definitly effected my deeper mental state as a whole - my self esteem/confidence etc.
What Im really scared about is thinning. Thats when sh*t really hits the fan. When that becomes obvoius enough, you really have to accept sh*t then. Lets be straight, it looks terrible when your hair is thinning and you still grow it all out. The only real option is to shave, and then you face the dilemna, sh*t how will I look bald? And thats a lot to think about.
For now Im just going to try and concentrate on my immiedatte future, and not my hair loss - because I cant change it.
I am watching soemthing on TV about Royal Marines (High quality group of soldiers for those in the US) who have lost limbs. They are all taking part in a challenge to climb to Everest Base Camp, and their outlook is inspring and stunning. Truly cheerful in the face of adversity. Perhaps we dont see everything, just what we see on the camera, and I can imagine losing a limnb would be mentally damaging. But seeing these guys going up a mountain with one leg/one arm, gone, or sometimes more, all cracking jokes at each other and getting on with it, its really inspring. Seeing these guys who are so cheerful and postive with missing limbs climbing up a mountain and really making the most of their situation makes me realize that hair loss is a minor thing.
And all these guys who say hair loss wrecked their life etc. Just look at things outside of your own narrow point. You should reach the point where your just happy to born human.