Where are all the bald dudes?

[Smooth]

Why there are so few bald/blading guys clubbing?! :dunno:
I go to collage here and i see plenty of guys with atleast a mature hairline (nw2++) and when i go out clubbing (which i barely do myself too nowaday -_-) can barely notice anyone with a higher then NW1.5 at best.... but it seems that they do rule in bar/pub scene ... is it possible that going bald makes THAT less vital?...
(it really annoys me ><, i should found a club strictly for bald guys!.. I shall name it : "The Dome")

 

[uncomfortable man]

Maybe they have the good sense to not hang out where they know they are not wanted. I wonder what kind of women (if any) you would find at "The Dome".

 

[Smooth]

The same kind you'd find in the "The McDonald's" club.... :hump:

 

[Nene]

Well smooth, first of all, clubbing is typically something young people (below 35 let's say) do. And well, there just aren't that many bald people in that age group. As for those few who are young and bald, I would say that a lot of them won't feel comfortable in a club. Let's be honest, if you're going to a club to find women you need to look good. Everyone there is going to be young and dressed nicely. When these young girls see a bald guy at the club, why would she waste her time on him? There are 100s of good looking norwood 1s to choose from. Bald guys who don't look like Taye Diggs or Jason Statham need to show their wit, perosnality and charm to a woman. In a crowded club with loud music, he cannot show his personality. In bars it's a little different because they appeal to people above 35 as well as younger people. Also, some people just go to have a beer and relax, not to go finding girls or guys.

 

[Bald Dave]

Wrong! When I go out clubbing I see many bald guys and alot of them shave their heads on purpose because they feel it looks cool. I see many of them with women as well so to say that bald guys don't go out clubbing is like saying that fat people don't go to fast food restaurants!

 

[Bald Dave]

Sorry to mention but the clubs i go to are over 25s only clubs so maybe that explains why there are loads of bald guys opsblush:

 

[superfrankie]

Let's be honest, if you're going to a club to find women you need to look good. Everyone there is going to be young and dressed nicely. When these young girls see a bald guy at the club, why would she waste her time on him? There are 100s of good looking norwood 1s to choose from.In a crowded club with loud music, he cannot show his personality.

Thats why I never went to clubs when I was 18 and why I dont do it today either. People can say what they like but going to a place where only people in there 20s hang out and where NOBODY lack hair makes you feel very very uncomfortable. My brother has been clubbing many times over the last 4 years and he say he never find any guy under 25 who is even starting to bald. I guess every bald guy 18-25 like myself stay at home instead.

 

[Nene]

I think its the truth superfrankie. Hey, if there is a bald guy who feels comfortable clubbing then more power to him, and there are those guys out there. But most young bald guys just don't feel comfortable in that shallow environment. They know their best chance to meet girls is at work or school where a girl can get to know them and appreciate them as a person. Your chances on online dating sites are also near nil. Girls won't see your wit or charm, just your baldness. Only the ones with low confidence will try to talk to you since your bald and thus an easier catch.

 

[king-]

i dont know where your from but here in toronto clubbing , i go to 21+ and theres a handfull of balding guy or bald already and there like any other guy with hair with a shitload of girls

 

[superfrankie]

I think its the truth superfrankie. Hey, if there is a bald guy who feels comfortable clubbing then more power to him, and there are those guys out there. But most young bald guys just don't feel comfortable in that shallow environment. They know their best chance to meet girls is at work or school where a girl can get to know them and appreciate them as a person. Your chances on online dating sites are also near nil. Girls won't see your wit or charm, just your baldness. Only the ones with low confidence will try to talk to you since your bald and thus an easier catch.

I couldnt agree more.

Yeah, dating sites. Talk about nil chances. Even more difficult there than at the clubs. Profile 1: picture of me with hair - 15 messages a week. Profile 2: pictures of me without hair - 1 message and 1 reply in one month. Says it all. How can it not be the lack of hair thats the problem? I mean, could they smell my lack of confidence from the computer? Or maybe it was cause I didnt fancy hip hop music or whatever. Yeah right. :jackit: We all know the truth.

When this happens to me on dating sites, who can expect me to feel comfortable at clubs then, since the shallow girls who hang on the sites are the same girls who judge you at the clubs? But hey, I dont blame them. If you look good as a woman and you get constant confirmation from other guys that you do so, its not that odd if theyre only going for the best - the most good looking. Cause they know they can get everything whenever they want. You settle for someone in your own class.

 

[Nene]

Exactly. I don't blame the girls either. If they are good looking then they will try to get good looking men, and most young women probably don't find young baldies too attractive. But I believe, if your funny, smart, kind etc, a nice girl will give you a shot once she gets to know you regardless of your hair. I mean, I've dated girls that I didn't think were so hot at first, but after knowing them I changed my mind and grew feelings. So I just see clubbing as a waste of time unless I'm just going with friends for a drink. I don't go with intentions of meeting a woman. When I was younger and had nice hair there was actually a chance I could meet or hook up with girls in this environment, now I feel those chances are pretty slim. I've gotten over it though.

 

[thetodd]

I tried shaving my dome for awhile but now I'm letting my hair grow back...or what's left of it.
For a few months I liked it, but the problem is that my hair is still pretty thick around the sides and I was having to shave practically every day. I finally decided that since I've still got enough hair left for a concealer to work with, I'm going to do that until the day comes that I can no longer get away with it.

 

[SmileBam]

Exactly. I don't blame the girls either. If they are good looking then they will try to get good looking men, and most young women probably don't find young baldies too attractive. But I believe, if your funny, smart, kind etc, a nice girl will give you a shot once she gets to know you regardless of your hair. I mean, I've dated girls that I didn't think were so hot at first, but after knowing them I changed my mind and grew feelings. So I just see clubbing as a waste of time unless I'm just going with friends for a drink. I don't go with intentions of meeting a woman. When I was younger and had nice hair there was actually a chance I could meet or hook up with girls in this environment, now I feel those chances are pretty slim. I've gotten over it though.

I don't think women are such negative about hairloss.At least,smart ones.We are the ones that are just complaining.I asked a girl a while a go:''will you like me if i hadn't hair?''She just said:''well,i like your attitude and u have nice physical features,so it wouldn't be that a problem''.I think that ATTITUDE is what matters.And if you are self aware,we will have a nice body too.Hair loss is bad,but is not the end.Just my opinion.
P.S.Sorry for the bad spelling.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

In my experience, smart girls are so rare that they eventually end up with the best looking blokes. Its very naive for us to pressume smart, attractive women want smart boyfriends, regardless of how he looks.

Same may, but they are even more rare.

 

[Nene]

In my experience, smart girls are so rare that they eventually end up with the best looking blokes. Its very naive for us to pressume smart, attractive women want smart boyfriends, regardless of how he looks.

Same may, but they are even more rare.

That post is both sexists and unfairly assumes women are so shallow as to only care about looks. Smart girls are not rare, they are just as rare as smart men. In fact they are probably less rare than smart men if recent graduation rates are any indication. Do smart women want a good looking man? Sure they do, but probably not if he's an idiot or jerk. Girls are looking for the whole package and that generally includes some semblance of both intelligence AND good looks. I'm not saying just b/c you're smart women will want you. I'm just saying that good looks alone usually can't do it for a smart girl. If I had my choice of women I wouldn't just choose the hottest one. I would choose one I found attractive but she has to be smart and nice too. I think a lot of women think the same way. Studies show that women are less focused on the looks of their partner than men are anyway.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

Studies show?!

Get out more please, I work with dozens of women and in my field idiots dont make it, these are clever chicks I'm getting the above views from.

Women might claim to be looking for smart guys, the full package etc but as soon as a hot guy goes anywhere near them, they instantly want to know what a blokes hiding under their shirt and in their pants.

Women like being buddies with smart guys and as we talked about before, it leads nowhere.

 

[Smooth]

Sadly :agree: ... :hairy:

 

[cuebald]

Indeed.
It's like saying a group of male scientists wouldn't be attracted to an attractive woman in their presence. (even if she is only the receptionist). It is misinformed.

You can see how women of all types react when an attractive male is around them.

 

[thetodd]

Women (and people in general) say a lot of things they don't really mean just because it sounds good.
"I want a guy who is nice and sensitive".
Yeah, right.
What they really mean is they want a guy who is nice, senstive, handsome, ripped like a bodybuilder, and rich.
Give me a guy like that minus the nice and sensitive part, and I guarantee you he'll get laid at a 100-1 ratio over the guy who has the nice and sensitive qualities but lacks everything else.
It's just natural to seek out the things that are easy on the eyes.
Women assume that better looking men are more capable of surviving and providing, which is a crock.
Most of my friends a better looking than I am, but I'd gladly compare physical abilities and bank accounts with them any day. They can't beat me in a fight, aren't smarter than I am, and don't earn as much. That's not being cocky on my part, by the way. It's just the way it is. Yet if I was single and went to a club with them, they'd pull the hottest chicks and I'd get left with whatever they didn't want.

 

[qball01]

man...you people are missing the point. Its not JUST all about looks! A good looking guy with nothing else going for him will just be a piece of eye candy and thats it...girls will LOSE attraction to him real quick if he doesn't know how to talk to a woman. Obviously if he knows how to game her AND hes good looking then yeah...great for him, but you people act like ONLY good looking guys get with women.

The reason the "smart guy" will be friend zoned is because in a lot of cases...guys who are TOO smart aren't very good with women....they are stuck in their heads too much, always thinking of the right thing to say and they and think that attracting a girl is a logical process...it isn't!

Yeah, women are lying (even unknowingly to themselves) when they say they want a nice, sensitive guy because LOGICALLY they think that makes sense...what they really want is somebody who excites her emotionally...a nice, sensitive (AKA BORING) guy won't do this. The reason good looking guys do well with women (aside from just being good looking) is because much of the time they have a sense of entitlement and don't care about the outcome of ONE particular girl because they know that many more are out there....girls find this attractive because the hot girls are used to being fawned over by the typical "nice guys" with no game...they like guys who are confident in their own abilities and like THEMSELVES more than they like the girl...

so when it comes to being bald....aside from the drop in physical attractiveness....a lot of guys become wusses. They think they are undesirable so when they do interact with a woman...they're likely to display low value behaviour and drive her away....from being too needy, desperate, afraid to say the wrong thing, etc. Bald may make a man less attractive...but this site is CLEARLY evidence that psychologically...it fucks up a guy much worse. Its very easy to see why a lot of bald men fail miserably with women for reasons that go far beyond physical attractiveness. Most guys on this site don't pay any importance to other things besides looks...such as the way a guy views himself and thus carries himself to other people. Believe it or not...those things are also VERY important. You also make the mistake of believing that bald = unattractive in every or most cases. If you can do your best to take care of yourself and make yourself at least average looking in appearance, then provided you aren't an unconfident, boring wuss...you should still be able to do alright with women...especially as you get older.

I mean, you guys realize that even men with full heads of hair struggle with this stuff too, right? I watched this documentary where this man had been 600 pounds...he lost the weight and became a pretty good looking guy and wanted to start dating (omg! he was a Norwood 1!!)...but because he had no experience, and still had many of the same negative thought patterns he had from when he was obese...he didn't know how to TALK to women. He was the typical "nice" guy all women SAY they want...the women interviewed even said they would definitely go on another date with him...but you could see they weren't actually interested and it wasn't because of how he looked!