church fodder is someone who felt lost and got sucked into a small radical religious group. I doubt that will happen to you since you already are catholic.
I've had plenty of bad roommates too. Fortunately I've always had individual leases, so I only had to deal with their messes, rudeness, parties, etc. I know some people who have to deal with roommates who don't pay their rent or utilities.
I don't fit in at bars either. When you say "clubs", do you mean bars with a small dance floor, or do you mean actually clubs like a chess club? Here are some of the only reasons to go to a bar:
1. You like to drink in public.
2. You go there to meet people you've already met.
3. You like to watch people at the bar, and you don't mind all the smoke and loud music, and you like the orange juice.
4. You are confident you can get laid. If you doubt you can, and you just want sex, then it won't be fun.
5. You are looking for a fight.
Anyone else want to add some reasons why they like going to bars? I do like the music at some of them, and I like to improve dance, and they have inexpensive fruit juice, and I like to look at people intereacting, but the smoke and loud music usually pushes me out. It is too loud for me to hear a woman even if she wanted to talk to me. After 10:00 pm most places close, so the bars are all that is left.
I prefer to save money by not going to bars and restaurants and bowling allies, but by going to the park or the mountains or a good hiking trail. Where I live I don't have to go far. I think the reason you don't feel like you belong is because subconsciously you need other people's acceptance or approval to feel good about yourself. Once you become more self reliant, you'll enjoy hiking by yourself or going to a bar by yourself or hanging out with strangers you don't plan to see again, and just enjoying a few common interests that hour.
I've had many dumb or mean coworkers, but I've also met smart ones. If you are tired of the same coworkers, you could work somewhere where there is more turn over. I usually hang out after work and chat with some of my coworkers. Don't just look to the ones your age. Some 40 year olds may have good stuff to talk about. And don't just talk to the men either.
If you have not bought a car yet, don't. Just rent one on the weekend if you really want to go somewhere or pick someone up. You'll save money. You just need a platnum visa card to cover the auto insurance. New ones have payments and require full coverage insureance until the loan is paid off. Used ones have constant repair needs, including mistery problems, which is why the previous owner sold it. No one has the money to sell a dependable car, unless it does not have AC. If you ride a bicycle instead of a car, you can save a lot of money. But if go to the hills often, the car may be cheaper than renting.
I've had plenty of bad roommates too. Fortunately I've always had individual leases, so I only had to deal with their messes, rudeness, parties, etc. I know some people who have to deal with roommates who don't pay their rent or utilities.
I don't fit in at bars either. When you say "clubs", do you mean bars with a small dance floor, or do you mean actually clubs like a chess club? Here are some of the only reasons to go to a bar:
1. You like to drink in public.
2. You go there to meet people you've already met.
3. You like to watch people at the bar, and you don't mind all the smoke and loud music, and you like the orange juice.
4. You are confident you can get laid. If you doubt you can, and you just want sex, then it won't be fun.
5. You are looking for a fight.
Anyone else want to add some reasons why they like going to bars? I do like the music at some of them, and I like to improve dance, and they have inexpensive fruit juice, and I like to look at people intereacting, but the smoke and loud music usually pushes me out. It is too loud for me to hear a woman even if she wanted to talk to me. After 10:00 pm most places close, so the bars are all that is left.
I prefer to save money by not going to bars and restaurants and bowling allies, but by going to the park or the mountains or a good hiking trail. Where I live I don't have to go far. I think the reason you don't feel like you belong is because subconsciously you need other people's acceptance or approval to feel good about yourself. Once you become more self reliant, you'll enjoy hiking by yourself or going to a bar by yourself or hanging out with strangers you don't plan to see again, and just enjoying a few common interests that hour.
I've had many dumb or mean coworkers, but I've also met smart ones. If you are tired of the same coworkers, you could work somewhere where there is more turn over. I usually hang out after work and chat with some of my coworkers. Don't just look to the ones your age. Some 40 year olds may have good stuff to talk about. And don't just talk to the men either.
If you have not bought a car yet, don't. Just rent one on the weekend if you really want to go somewhere or pick someone up. You'll save money. You just need a platnum visa card to cover the auto insurance. New ones have payments and require full coverage insureance until the loan is paid off. Used ones have constant repair needs, including mistery problems, which is why the previous owner sold it. No one has the money to sell a dependable car, unless it does not have AC. If you ride a bicycle instead of a car, you can save a lot of money. But if go to the hills often, the car may be cheaper than renting.
