Agresive Hairloss + Unrequited Love = Death Sentence For Your Soul?

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[whatintheworld]

Man I'm sorry to hear this happen to you. It's really tough and I commend your mental toughness for living life as a norwood 6, and especially going norwood 5 at 20 years old.

There are two seperate issues at hand here though, your hair loss and your infatuation with this girl. Let me address the relationship part. You need to go and start meeting other women man. There are so many women out there, many of them better than this one in fact, but you're blinded by your infatuation and reminiscence of when you had hair and when you were with her. You are looking at things through overly rose-tinted glasses because your self-confidence is destroyed through hair loss.

This is what I would do if I were you. Look into the hair transplant section of this forum, and others. Even as a Norwood 6, you can still get a decent hairline result that can at least frame your face. Yes, your crown will be bald, but for now just address the front, and maybe down the line get a second transplant to fill it in a little so that with toppik, it will look somewhat ok. But don't go for a megasession, plan your graft distribution wisely. There are knowledgable forum posters here and on other sites who can provide some insight.

You need to believe in yourself man. So save up for a transplant, get everything else in your life in order (social circle, physique, finances), and turn your life around.

This disease is terrible, but don't let it break you.

 

[sunchyme1]

Warning: Rant, deppressing, whinning, wimp, suicidal material.


Is there anything worse? How to get over it?

People kill themselves when they experience a shock from breakup and rejection, that is known and the cases are quite often. Now combine it with deadly hairloss impact on young man.

I have very agressive hairloss. I went very quickly to Norwood 5 at 20. At that time, I had a girl I wanted to spend life with. Unfortunately, as many of you have experienced, after the hairloss hit to the degree of sly bald head, it completely changed your appareance, destroyed your inner well being. From confident, funny, outgoing guy I became absolute self-conscious wreck,stopped going outside, stopped living,because I couldnt go out to meet 20yo people at their full prime nor stand by my girl like her match. I became inferior male and I knew it, but couldnt do anything about it.
It got to the point I could not even go out with her or take her somewhere.

Consequently, the inevitable happened and she left.

It has been 8 years since. I am Norwood 6 now. Never had any other gf.

She has been on my mind for past 8 years every minute. The first thing I think when I wake up, the last thing when I go sleep. The dreams are even worse as they are like alive.

My head goes literaly like this in neverending loop constantly:

Her - F.ck Im bald - Her- I love her so much - Her- Fuuck Im inferior baldhead - Her - Fuuuck how can I stand a chance - Her - She is so amazing - Her - Fuuuuck I cant even stand before her - Her- Fuuuuuck she doesnt even know who I am anymore - Her -Fuuuuuuuck what can I do- Her- Fuuuuuuuuuck I cant do anything about it- Her- Fuuuuuuuuck what am I doing here- Her - Fuuuuuuuuuck - Her- Fuuuuuuuuck- Her-Bald-f***-Her-love-Fuuuck-Her-Hair-Her-Fuuuck-Cannot hold it-Her-Fuuuck-Kill myslef- Her-Will never see her again- Fuuuck, Fuuuck, Fuuuck and so on....

I know that without hairloss, I would have 99% chance of being with her and having life I always wanted. I know that hairloss is the sole reason she left me, because hairloss is the root of everything that happened.
I never wanted to be with another girl, no other girl wanted to seriously be with me anyway, but I cant imagine being with another one. So I am alone. She is not. Doesnt have any feelings for me anymore.

The worst thing is that atleast for a while, I experienced the feeling what is it like to be loved, desired, happy and having life you want. Now its gone and you only have a sign in front of you face saying :

"You dont deserve, not good enough, forget"

I have nothing now. I dont live. Just wake up, go to work, eat, go home,sleep. While thinking what I could have if..I was so close.. only if hairloss...

In that regard, I think that it is better to not have experienced any of those as the memories and feelings can f.cking torture you, because you know you cant never have it and feel it again. You can only wait till death if it dissapears and who knows if it ever will?

What is the point of going on. Im just counting the days remaining to my death and hoping it will fade away with it.

How do you cope, is there a way out?

sorry for your troubles man. i can relate to a lot of this

your still young i take it, under 30? there are some big treatments due out in the next few years which have a strong possibility of regaining a lot of hair. hair transplants are an option too right now but as nw6 i dunno how good it would look. but i would try to be positive about the next couple of years and look for updates from the big players due out

as for the girl, you gotta f*****g move on man. sh*t isnt healthy thinking about her every day. will destroy you. its fucked up what happened to you but you have no choice to move on. it is what it is. the next few years really exciting for hair loss, and your a young man. plenty of time to meet new women. dont give up yet mate

 

[Medina]

We've all got that special someone that got away. Doesn't matter what you do or where you go. You could meet Mrs Perfect and you would still think about that b**ch. Rejection breeds obsession.

You're not alone

 

[CopeForLife]

gym

 

[Dench57]

you can't move on from her until you meet someone else

 

[Dante92]

Acceptance is essential for your peace of mind. You can only accept what you can't change nor fight and let go of what you can't have nor keep. In passive acceptance there is peace.

 

[JeanLucBB]

Warning: Rant, deppressing, whinning, wimp, suicidal material.


Is there anything worse? How to get over it?

People kill themselves when they experience a shock from breakup and rejection, that is known and the cases are quite often. Now combine it with deadly hairloss impact on young man.

I have very agressive hairloss. I went very quickly to Norwood 5 at 20. At that time, I had a girl I wanted to spend life with. Unfortunately, as many of you have experienced, after the hairloss hit to the degree of sly bald head, it completely changed your appareance, destroyed your inner well being. From confident, funny, outgoing guy I became absolute self-conscious wreck,stopped going outside, stopped living,because I couldnt go out to meet 20yo people at their full prime nor stand by my girl like her match. I became inferior male and I knew it, but couldnt do anything about it.
It got to the point I could not even go out with her or take her somewhere.

Consequently, the inevitable happened and she left.

It has been 8 years since. I am Norwood 6 now. Never had any other gf.

She has been on my mind for past 8 years every minute. The first thing I think when I wake up, the last thing when I go sleep. The dreams are even worse as they are like alive.

My head goes literaly like this in neverending loop constantly:

Her - F.ck Im bald - Her- I love her so much - Her- Fuuck Im inferior baldhead - Her - Fuuuck how can I stand a chance - Her - She is so amazing - Her - Fuuuuck I cant even stand before her - Her- Fuuuuuck she doesnt even know who I am anymore - Her -Fuuuuuuuck what can I do- Her- Fuuuuuuuuuck I cant do anything about it- Her- Fuuuuuuuuck what am I doing here- Her - Fuuuuuuuuuck - Her- Fuuuuuuuuck- Her-Bald-f***-Her-love-Fuuuck-Her-Hair-Her-Fuuuck-Cannot hold it-Her-Fuuuck-Kill myslef- Her-Will never see her again- Fuuuck, Fuuuck, Fuuuck and so on....

I know that without hairloss, I would have 99% chance of being with her and having life I always wanted. I know that hairloss is the sole reason she left me, because hairloss is the root of everything that happened.
I never wanted to be with another girl, no other girl wanted to seriously be with me anyway, but I cant imagine being with another one. So I am alone. She is not. Doesnt have any feelings for me anymore.

The worst thing is that atleast for a while, I experienced the feeling what is it like to be loved, desired, happy and having life you want. Now its gone and you only have a sign in front of you face saying :

"You dont deserve, not good enough, forget"

I have nothing now. I dont live. Just wake up, go to work, eat, go home,sleep. While thinking what I could have if..I was so close.. only if hairloss...

In that regard, I think that it is better to not have experienced any of those as the memories and feelings can f.cking torture you, because you know you cant never have it and feel it again. You can only wait till death if it dissapears and who knows if it ever will?

What is the point of going on. Im just counting the days remaining to my death and hoping it will fade away with it.

How do you cope, is there a way out?

Go to Dr. Hasson for a massive FUT, wait a year then hit it with a touch up FUE megasession with Erdogan. If that's not enough, then hit it with SMP, if that's not enough, hit it with a beard to scalp transplant, and so on.

Norwood 6 is just brutal, fight it or face death.

 

[EvilLocks]

Acceptance is essential for your peace of mind. You can only accept what you can't change nor fight and let go of what you can't have nor keep. In passive acceptance there is peace.

This.
I'm all for fighting until the end, but at some point you have to accept that there is an end. When I first discovered my hair loss I did everything that was in my power at the time, and for that I have no regrets. In the end though, I had to stop trying to fight a fight I would have lost anyway, and just accept that this is the way things were going to be, if I liked it or not.
Acceptance does not have to mean you have to be fine with what happens to you, and for me hair loss still hurts like it ever has.
However a big burden has been liften off my shoulders ever since I decided enough was enough and stopped all treatments.

 

[JeanLucBB]

Same for me. I never accepted the fact i was a disgusting, rotting corpse, but after hair loss at only age 18 I realized I was genetic trash, condemned to be alone, shunned and ridiculed for the rest of my miserable existence with no chance to change any of it.

Put all your money in Bitcoin, Ethereum and Neo and hope for the best. You can still be rich.

 

[Dante92]

Put all your money in Bitcoin, Ethereum and Neo and hope for the best. You can still be rich.

I am happy this way, besides i am already saving up money for a hair transplant, thank you anyway for your serious and honest advice.

 

[JeanLucBB]

I am happy this way, besides i am already saving up money for a hair transplant, thank you anyway for your serious and honest advice.

I've made over $10k in a month off $12k initial investment in various cryptos. Bitcoin hitting 50k USD in 5 years and ether 5k. Worth putting a small amount into tbh.

 

[Dench57]

I've made over $10k in a month off $12k initial investment in various cryptos. Bitcoin hitting 50k USD in 5 years and ether 5k. Worth putting a small amount into tbh.

Your method of marketing no longer works

 

[blackg]

Your method of marketing no longer works

I like Dench.

 

[Dante92]

Your method of marketing no longer works

It never has.

 

[JeanLucBB]

It never has.

Srsly though make sure to use this exchange and link [redacted] when you sign up to buy some

 

[sunchyme1]

Your method of marketing no longer works

it appears you are right mate

 

[EvilLocks]

besides i am already saving up money for a hair transplant

Good to hear, Dante
I wish you the best of luck saving up for your upcoming hair transplant.

 

[EvilLocks]

Man I'm sorry to hear this happen to you. It's really tough and I commend your mental toughness for living life as a norwood 6, and especially going norwood 5 at 20 years old.

There are two seperate issues at hand here though, your hair loss and your infatuation with this girl. Let me address the relationship part. You need to go and start meeting other women man. There are so many women out there, many of them better than this one in fact, but you're blinded by your infatuation and reminiscence of when you had hair and when you were with her. You are looking at things through overly rose-tinted glasses because your self-confidence is destroyed through hair loss.

This is what I would do if I were you. Look into the hair transplant section of this forum, and others. Even as a Norwood 6, you can still get a decent hairline result that can at least frame your face. Yes, your crown will be bald, but for now just address the front, and maybe down the line get a second transplant to fill it in a little so that with toppik, it will look somewhat ok. But don't go for a megasession, plan your graft distribution wisely. There are knowledgable forum posters here and on other sites who can provide some insight.

You need to believe in yourself man. So save up for a transplant, get everything else in your life in order (social circle, physique, finances), and turn your life around.

This disease is terrible, but don't let it break you.

Great post from start to finish.

 

[Dench57]

it appears you are right mate

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