Agresive Hairloss + Unrequited Love = Death Sentence For Your Soul?

[Dante92]

Good to hear, Dante
I wish you the best of luck saving up for your upcoming hair transplant.

Thanks.

 

[whatintheworld]

Great post from start to finish.

It just pains me to see people who lose hope like this, because I and many other posters here have been in this situation.

I remember looking at my hair and being in disbelief this is happening to me. I was always the pretty boy type of guy and I literally couldn't even study for my exams, I lost my appetite, I couldn't sleep, all because I was in such shock at my hair loss. Keep in mind I was diffusing in a norwood 5 pattern before I got on treatments, so any other positive attributes I have (height, education, whatever) all became irrelevant. I became a shell of myself mentally and emotionally.

But giving up hope is the worst thing of all, and I hope OP realizes that there is definitely a way for him to turn his life around.

 

[Roberto_72]

I am happy this way, besides i am already saving up money for a hair transplant, thank you anyway for your serious and honest advice.

Good to hear, Dante
I wish you the best of luck saving up for your upcoming hair transplant.

Yay!

 

[hairblues]

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RIP

Oh wow..hope it's not a life long ban.

 

[sunchyme1]

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RIP

topcat will be pleased

 

[Saurabhaj]

I had such heartbreak few years back.
You should try to forget this past and look after your life with positive attitude.
Forget that girl forever.

If she is currently living near your home,accept defeat in a positive way and move to another city for some time.
Come back as a new person.
Make sure you and her do not come close to each other and stop looking at her facebook profile.

 

[kj6723]

Oh wow..hope it's not a life long ban.

I hope so too. He was a good resource on transplant surgeons

@Admin can we bring this dude back?

 

[hairblues]

I hope so too. He was a good resource on transplant surgeons

@Admin can we bring this dude back?

yeah i do not think he was 'pimping' a site on purpose--think he was just trying to share something and it was like a mind-fart.

 

[shookwun]

Most likely a one week ban

Max 1 month

 

[Toccata]

The darkest hour is just before the dawn...

#2020

 

[Stanx22]

Warning: Rant, deppressing, whinning, wimp, suicidal material.


Is there anything worse? How to get over it?

People kill themselves when they experience a shock from breakup and rejection, that is known and the cases are quite often. Now combine it with deadly hairloss impact on young man.

I have very agressive hairloss. I went very quickly to Norwood 5 at 20. At that time, I had a girl I wanted to spend life with. Unfortunately, as many of you have experienced, after the hairloss hit to the degree of sly bald head, it completely changed your appareance, destroyed your inner well being. From confident, funny, outgoing guy I became absolute self-conscious wreck,stopped going outside, stopped living,because I couldnt go out to meet 20yo people at their full prime nor stand by my girl like her match. I became inferior male and I knew it, but couldnt do anything about it.
It got to the point I could not even go out with her or take her somewhere.

Consequently, the inevitable happened and she left.

It has been 8 years since. I am Norwood 6 now. Never had any other gf.

She has been on my mind for past 8 years every minute. The first thing I think when I wake up, the last thing when I go sleep. The dreams are even worse as they are like alive.

My head goes literaly like this in neverending loop constantly:

Her - F.ck Im bald - Her- I love her so much - Her- Fuuck Im inferior baldhead - Her - Fuuuck how can I stand a chance - Her - She is so amazing - Her - Fuuuuck I cant even stand before her - Her- Fuuuuuck she doesnt even know who I am anymore - Her -Fuuuuuuuck what can I do- Her- Fuuuuuuuuuck I cant do anything about it- Her- Fuuuuuuuuck what am I doing here- Her - Fuuuuuuuuuck - Her- Fuuuuuuuuck- Her-Bald-f***-Her-love-Fuuuck-Her-Hair-Her-Fuuuck-Cannot hold it-Her-Fuuuck-Kill myslef- Her-Will never see her again- Fuuuck, Fuuuck, Fuuuck and so on....

I know that without hairloss, I would have 99% chance of being with her and having life I always wanted. I know that hairloss is the sole reason she left me, because hairloss is the root of everything that happened.
I never wanted to be with another girl, no other girl wanted to seriously be with me anyway, but I cant imagine being with another one. So I am alone. She is not. Doesnt have any feelings for me anymore.

The worst thing is that atleast for a while, I experienced the feeling what is it like to be loved, desired, happy and having life you want. Now its gone and you only have a sign in front of you face saying :

"You dont deserve, not good enough, forget"

I have nothing now. I dont live. Just wake up, go to work, eat, go home,sleep. While thinking what I could have if..I was so close.. only if hairloss...

In that regard, I think that it is better to not have experienced any of those as the memories and feelings can f.cking torture you, because you know you cant never have it and feel it again. You can only wait till death if it dissapears and who knows if it ever will?

What is the point of going on. Im just counting the days remaining to my death and hoping it will fade away with it.

How do you cope, is there a way out?

You cope by forgetting about all women and living like a monk. You have a subhuman, inferior gene that destroyed your whole life and there's nothing you can do about it. You already lost from the beginning.

 

[FWIW]

Ultimately, you ended up rejecting yourself while you could have let her and other people do that, and there's a good chance that they wouldn't have ostracized you.

I know the feeling, it was a constant battle and I almost fell in the same trap, but in the end, I went outside with my bald head, kept on going to university, kept on dating...

And look it's a miracle! Not much had changed, sure I was treated slightly differently, some people mocked me, some people pitied me, some women started becoming mad at me because they realized that they were going out with a partially aesthetically-crippled guy.

But in the end, life went on, the end of the world I was expecting never came.

I'd really like to see a story where a young balding guy truly ends up getting rejected by his friends and his girlfriend just because he lost his hair. Not because he made the choice of digging himself into a hole.

You need to keep on living your life, I know, it's hard, but it can be done. Ask yourself, what is the alternative? Hopelessness, depression, and death. And you're currently living it.

So how do you get yourself out of this mess?

First: take out your camera, take pictures of your current hair situation, send the pictures to top hair transplant surgeons and ask for quotes
Second: start saving money for that FUE megasession if you need to
Third: hit the gym (brah) if you're not already doing it
Fourth: get your life back, that means, find hobbies, rebuild a social circle, start asking girls out.

At least you already have a job and a routine, so those are huge ones you don't even have to attend to.

Once you get all the above going, you'll see that life is worth living. Aaand I'm out of blue-pilled advice (if that's how you want to see it).



That feeling is only temporary, and if it doesn't go away after a few years, you're not grounded in reality and you're still idealizing that woman.

I had that feeling about some of my exes, but then you meet someone even better than them, and you realize how flawed those women you thought to be special were.

The more experience you acquire about life, women, people in general, the more your eyes are open. Do not get stuck on one person, do no idealize them, keep on doing your own thing and your perception of them will change.

Thank you for your advice. I actually had FUE megasession , even with the same doctor as you and this is the result. I dont think it looks too good short or longer and it didnt make any positive cosmetic difference for me. Maybe even worse. It looks plugy shaved IMO.Several people asked me if I had put beard hair on my head wtf.... I would be interested to see your pic close up if you have the same effect of plugs, could you maybe pm me it?

 

[CopeForLife]

Shaved works for me because of my low scalp-hair contrast.

Any before picture? What was your Norwood before the hair transplant?

Your hair looks OK grown out in my opinion.

fullhead with toppik indeed

 

[scorpiolove]

To the OP, go to the clubs man!
Strip Clubs, brothels, bars, massage parlours, etc.
Only Beta males let the women choose them.
On another note, 50% of marriages end of in divorce, your low self esteem could of got you divorce raped for all you own plus child support, with that said, if you lose your pride dating some trash that's just part of the game, nut up and become a man!

 

[kj6723]

Only Beta males let the women choose them.

 

[scorpiolove]

Eight years is way too long, some priests and nuns get laid in less time, maybe the OP was just a Thot, if he returned to her the punannay wouldn't be as good as before.

 

[The Baldy Man]

The darkest hour is just before the dawn...
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#2020

Can't wait to try out those new treatments while playing this awesome game:

 

[scorpiolove]

Sorry O.P., but she could of got married, had kids, changed her STD status, in this eight year time frame, maybe your in love with someone or something that won't come back in this lifetime. People change a lot within a eight year timespan including yourself. Just think twice about it man.

 

[sunchyme1]

Thank you for your advice. I actually had FUE megasession , even with the same doctor as you and this is the result. I dont think it looks too good short or longer and it didnt make any positive cosmetic difference for me. Maybe even worse. It looks plugy shaved IMO.Several people asked me if I had put beard hair on my head wtf.... I would be interested to see your pic close up if you have the same effect of plugs, could you maybe pm me it?

this is my problem with buzzing after hair transplants

it doesnt look natural. random directions, thick roots, pluggy appearance

maybe you could lazer them to make the hairs finer and appear more natural? random idea...i have no if it could work

but like the guys say..it doesnt look too bad grown out.

are you on meds? has your hair loss stopped now? seeing as you already got one hair transplant and cant buzz it, why not just add as much density as possible and keep it grown out?

 

[FWIW]

Shaved works for me because of my low scalp-hair contrast.

Any before picture? What was your Norwood before the hair transplant?

Your hair looks OK grown out in my opinion.

this is my problem with buzzing after hair transplants

it doesnt look natural. random directions, thick roots, pluggy appearance

maybe you could lazer them to make the hairs finer and appear more natural? random idea...i have no if it could work

but like the guys say..it doesnt look too bad grown out.

are you on meds? has your hair loss stopped now? seeing as you already got one hair transplant and cant buzz it, why not just add as much density as possible and keep it grown out?

I am on dutasteride, because finasteride was too weak. I am still loosing hair on it. Minoxidil too.
I was told I have around 2000-2500 availible FUE grafts left. That wont be enough even for the front to add reasonable density. Not to say that the mid-back crown is starting to deteoriate quickly and I would have to go FUT for it and I dont want that. Plus I dont have the money for it now- thats 10-12k EUR with good Doctor.


I actually shave my head now and dont wear it that long. I think shaved hair transplant doesnt necesarily need to look bad, but problems in my case are:

1. the transplanted hair are way darker and stronger - its very noticeable. But its strange- because even my hair in the donor area is not that dark when shaved, its almost like the hair changed colour after hair transplant and went all black. I dont have black hair by nature.
2. the hairs are planted in unnatural straight lines and rows -this is all fault of the doctor and I am really dissapointed by that. I havent seen that with other doctors.
3. density is too low