All The Horrors Of Losing Hair. Why Can't People Understand?

[buckthorn]

1) the stage when you're hiding it and ALL the stupid f*****g comments made by dumb *** ignorant people.

"you should change your hair style. Maybe grow it out"
-maybe you should venture into my damp, poorly lit basement with this bleach and duct tape and await my arrival, you f*****g fucktard.

or THE WORST THING - When you're sporting the intricate, perfectly-arranged combover and a girl looks right at it and tries to mess it up. "I think it would look better messy". NO b**ch. It will look like the crypt keeper, after swimming in a pool of grease.

2) the feeling.

-when you're shampooing and it feels like there is nothing there. or when you dry it and it feels like sickly, whispy, dying sh*t. or how about when a cool breeze passes over it and goes right through the hair to the scalp. Awesome, f*****g awesome.

3) Lighting.

-enough said. How many "fine dining" restaurant owners have you wanted to just choke out. For me, it's a lot. I mean, seriously, wtf. Does making EVERYONE look like a whorish monster on a first date help your goal of luring in customers.

4) The "uncertainty" and the dreams.

- My dreams are f*****g terrible lately. I don't even want to talk about it. f*** off.

5) THEN.... all the stupid f*****g comments from people when YOU ARE TRYING to deal with it.

- "oh God, why did you buzz your hair.. you should grow it back out!!"
three months earlier - "you should just buzz your hair, it's bothering you. I won't care. no one will."

and people think this sh*t is easy. Like it doesn't completely change the way you look... and if it does, well, oh it's just looks. Seriously, I would rather lose a leg.

 

[Roberto_72]

1) the stage when you're hiding it and ALL the stupid f*****g comments made by dumb *** ignorant people.

"you should change your hair style. Maybe grow it out"
-maybe you should venture into my damp, poorly lit basement with this bleach and duct tape and await my arrival, you f*****g fucktard.

or THE WORST THING - When you're sporting the intricate, perfectly-arranged combover and a girl looks right at it and tries to mess it up. "I think it would look better messy". NO b**ch. It will look like the crypt keeper, after swimming in a pool of grease.

2) the feeling.

-when you're shampooing and it feels like there is nothing there. or when you dry it and it feels like sickly, whispy, dying sh*t. or how about when a cool breeze passes over it and goes right through the hair to the scalp. Awesome, f*****g awesome.

3) Lighting.

-enough said. How many "fine dining" restaurant owners have you wanted to just choke out. For me, it's a lot. I mean, seriously, wtf. Does making EVERYONE look like a whorish monster on a first date help your goal of luring in customers.

4) The "uncertainty" and the dreams.

- My dreams are f*****g terrible lately. I don't even want to talk about it. f*** off.

5) THEN.... all the stupid f*****g comments from people when YOU ARE TRYING to deal with it.

- "oh God, why did you buzz your hair.. you should grow it back out!!"
three months earlier - "you should just buzz your hair, it's bothering you. I won't care. no one will."

and people think this sh*t is easy. Like it doesn't completely change the way you look... and if it does, well, oh it's just looks. Seriously, I would rather lose a leg.

This was tragicomic. I loved it.

 

[buckthorn]

No, I forgot the best...

#i lost f*****g count - the beautiful sensation of a hot bag of blood compressed under your scalp with swimming, gnawing termites that are eating your tissue alive. Oh, because you tried finasteride for a while and now it will never go away. "You should try finasteride brah"..."Brah, why did you take that poison".

 

[buckthorn]

Where is the stage in which the guys from impact section ask for pics and then tell you you are a whinning pussy cause you are "almost" fullhead even thoug you are NW3.5 ? I don't see it...
(nice to read from you again BTW )

the only fantasy that gets me through the day is your beautiful face, smiling as you open your long, toned legs for me. <3

 

[Patrick_Bateman]

the only fantasy that gets me through the day is your beautiful face, smiling as you open your long, toned legs for me. <3

get a room

 

[Dante92]

It's not because people don't understand, they just don't care and love to mock other people for it, until they suffer from it themselves.

 

[PappinAce]

5) THEN.... all the stupid f*****g comments from people when YOU ARE TRYING to deal with it.

- "oh God, why did you buzz your hair.. you should grow it back out!!"
three months earlier - "you should just buzz your hair, it's bothering you. I won't care. no one will."

nothing quite like getting mocked for fighting a battle, and getting mocked for not fighting a battle.

buzz: "eww, you look like a cancer patient!"

don't buzz: "haha, you have a bald spot like my grandpa!"

fun stuff. it's so fulfilling living with hair loss. i thank nature every day for this wonderful gift it has given us.

 

[ManinBlack]

Yeah losing it is the worse part. Sometimes I wish that I had Alopecia Totalis so that if it is going to fall out it would all fall out in a week and I could be done with it rather than agonizing over it for years.

 

[tomcat]

6: brushing teeth in darkness to avoid see ur shiny scalp

 

[Rudiger]

"you should change your hair style. Maybe grow it out"

I think you're similarly diffuse like me Buck so f*** do I understand this. There's nothing worse than a thinning guy who thinks he can grow it out and give the illusion of hair, the ONLY option is to keep it pretty damn short, and constantly gauge, practically down to the day, when it's getting too long and when it's time to cut. I sometimes decide on a "whim" (if you could call it that, I think it's calculated) that right now I absolutely have to get my hair cut, it's gone past the point where it's short enough to give the illusion of some form of density. If it goes any longer it's just strands, and the pointing up strands of the fringe remind me of a depleting chopped up forest.

So on any day between about 3-5 weeks I decide that it's just gotten too long and it's time to trim it again, the next morning.

Has to be done. So anyone who could suggest I "grow it out" would be sick at the results, its amazing how people think hair works, because they never have to worry about it.

Some, not many, are so stupid that on some subconscious level they really do think that you can just grow more if you wanted to. They don't really think this through (or are incapable of it) but in the back of their heads they don't process why you don't have more hair, as if bald guys are bic'ing, combovering, thinning, all for the fun of it.

But a more common stupid opinion from otherwise normal people, is thinking "you can just grow it out as it'll look like more hair" uhm, f*****g no! Parts of the hair are f*****g gone! Done! So it's not like the rest of the strands still growing provide some coverage, like an upside down mop.

It just gets more transparent the more it grows, pretty simply really, you see right through it. With short hair it's less open to patchy scrutinising parts.

 

[buckthorn]

I think you're similarly diffuse like me Buck so f*** do I understand this. There's nothing worse than a thinning guy who thinks he can grow it out and give the illusion of hair, the ONLY option is to keep it pretty damn short, and constantly gauge, practically down to the day, when it's getting too long and when it's time to cut. I sometimes decide on a "whim" (if you could call it that, I think it's calculated) that right now I absolutely have to get my hair cut, it's gone past the point where it's short enough to give the illusion of some form of density. If it goes any longer it's just strands, and the pointing up strands of the fringe remind me of a depleting chopped up forest.

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So on any day between about 3-5 weeks I decide that it's just gotten too long and it's time to trim it again, the next morning.

Has to be done. So anyone who could suggest I "grow it out" would be sick at the results, its amazing how people think hair works, because they never have to worry about it.

Some, not many, are so stupid that on some subconscious level they really do think that you can just grow more if you wanted to. They don't really think this through (or are incapable of it) but in the back of their heads they don't process why you don't have more hair, as if bald guys are bic'ing, combovering, thinning, all for the fun of it.

But a more common stupid opinion from otherwise normal people, is thinking "you can just grow it out as it'll look like more hair" uhm, f*****g no! Parts of the hair are f*****g gone! Done! So it's not like the rest of the strands still growing provide some coverage, like an upside down mop.

It just gets more transparent the more it grows, pretty simply really, you see right through it. With short hair it's less open to patchy scrutinising parts.

^this^

It's gotten to the point that anything above a 7 guard looks entirely sickly as f***. Anything below a 7 guard looks extremely diffused and NW7 pattern.

sorry you're dealing with this man. You're a good guy.

 

[Rudiger]

^this^

It's gotten to the point that anything above a 7 guard looks entirely sickly as f***. Anything below a 7 guard looks extremely diffused and NW7 pattern.

sorry you're dealing with this man. You're a good guy.

Thanks and to you too Buck, as I always say.

I will point out that for whatever reason I've been dealing with it quite well lately, it's why I was inactive on here for a while, I really wasn't thinking about it as much.

I'll also add that in my own experience, being on here does not make me feel remotely shittier about my hair loss, because I've been more active lately and I still feel just as positive as I did when I was barely posting for months. I don't think there's a correlation.

So I don't feel the need for "sorry's" right now (though I appreciate the sentiment) as I don't think I'm struggling in the same way you or others are at the moment, but fastforward another 6, or even 3 months, and I might be venting like f*** again.

Maybe I've gone a bit catatonic when it comes to hair loss, and I'm not really feeling anything. Not really a good way to be, for someone who wants to progress and improve on my shitty hair. Although feeling shitty about it is obviously, shitty, at least when forced into a desperate situation you really fight to get out of it, and right now although I have the positives of somewhat being content, I'm not thinking of ways to fight out of it.

Translation = a hair transplant was imperative to me not long ago. And now I'm not thinking about it.

 

[buckthorn]

Thanks and to you too Buck, as I always say.

I will point out that for whatever reason I've been dealing with it quite well lately, it's why I was inactive on here for a while, I really wasn't thinking about it as much.

I'll also add that in my own experience, being on here does not make me feel remotely shittier about my hair loss, because I've been more active lately and I still feel just as positive as I did when I was barely posting for months. I don't think there's a correlation.

So I don't feel the need for "sorry's" right now (though I appreciate the sentiment) as I don't think I'm struggling in the same way you or others are at the moment, but fastforward another 6, or even 3 months, and I might be venting like f*** again.

Maybe I've gone a bit catatonic when it comes to hair loss, and I'm not really feeling anything. Not really a good way to be, for someone who wants to progress and improve on my shitty hair. Although feeling shitty about it is obviously, shitty, at least when forced into a desperate situation you really fight to get out of it, and right now although I have the positives of somewhat being content, I'm not thinking of ways to fight out of it.

Translation = a hair transplant was imperative to me not long ago. And now I'm not thinking about it.

Nice man. I've been working to get to that point. Honestly, I have found a few concrete things that not only distract me from losing it, but make me feel "ok" with it. There are a few other things, such as being active on here unfortunately, that make me feel worst about it. That's why I have been so absent. I love you guys, but for me...this place makes my issues worst. I wish it wasn't so, because I do so love talking with you all.

 

[Rudiger]

Nice man. I've been working to get to that point. Honestly, I have found a few concrete things that not only distract me from losing it, but make me feel "ok" with it. There are a few other things, such as being active on here unfortunately, that make me feel worst about it. That's why I have been so absent. I love you guys, but for me...this place makes my issues worst. I wish it wasn't so, because I do so love talking with you all.

Yep I can understand that, I've actually been pretty much an advocate for how certain attitudes on here can make people feel shitty with no hope of progression. It's just been my personal experience that it doesn't affect me.

It's great you've found some concrete things to distract you, although I have interests I often don't engage in them for weeks at a time, and I get sloppy. So keep finding that meaning in whatever it is you're doing, because that's so important.

 

[ManinBlack]

I think you're similarly diffuse like me Buck so f*** do I understand this. There's nothing worse than a thinning guy who thinks he can grow it out and give the illusion of hair, the ONLY option is to keep it pretty damn short, and constantly gauge, practically down to the day, when it's getting too long and when it's time to cut. I sometimes decide on a "whim" (if you could call it that, I think it's calculated) that right now I absolutely have to get my hair cut, it's gone past the point where it's short enough to give the illusion of some form of density. If it goes any longer it's just strands, and the pointing up strands of the fringe remind me of a depleting chopped up forest.

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So on any day between about 3-5 weeks I decide that it's just gotten too long and it's time to trim it again, the next morning.

Has to be done. So anyone who could suggest I "grow it out" would be sick at the results, its amazing how people think hair works, because they never have to worry about it.

Some, not many, are so stupid that on some subconscious level they really do think that you can just grow more if you wanted to. They don't really think this through (or are incapable of it) but in the back of their heads they don't process why you don't have more hair, as if bald guys are bic'ing, combovering, thinning, all for the fun of it.

But a more common stupid opinion from otherwise normal people, is thinking "you can just grow it out as it'll look like more hair" uhm, f*****g no! Parts of the hair are f*****g gone! Done! So it's not like the rest of the strands still growing provide some coverage, like an upside down mop.

It just gets more transparent the more it grows, pretty simply really, you see right through it. With short hair it's less open to patchy scrutinising parts.

I've tried shaving my head and I look subhuman as hell with a big ol' pale forehead. I am a Norwood 3 though. I honestly have found that for me at least the grown out "wild man/hobo" look is better than shaving my head. My hair texture is curly so I just tease it a bit to look like I have messy bed hair. It doesn't look good, but it looks better than a frameless shaved head.

 

[blackg]

^

(regarding Rudiger) You're a good guy.

This is debatable .

 

[Rudiger]

I've tried shaving my head and I look subhuman as hell with a big ol' pale forehead. I am a Norwood 3 though. I honestly have found that for me at least the grown out "wild man/hobo" look is better than shaving my head. My hair texture is curly so I just tease it a bit to look like I have messy bed hair. It doesn't look good, but it looks better than a frameless shaved head.

Well, firstly, you have another option. If you have coverage with grown out hair, then that defeats the point of what we're talking about. That's simply not an option for me, or for the majority of guys with thinning fringe up to crown, it looks like an abomination.

But I don't know what you mean about "frameless" and do you mean shaved as in, super short? Like stubble? I still have somewhat of a fringe though it's thin and decimated under harsh lighting. I know this for sure because people who first meet me, inevitably see me under some kind of harsh light, and look straight up at where my phantom fringe used to be. I do f*****g hate the fact that under most fairly bright lighting I'm still a guy with hair, and then under something bright, *whoosh*, it disappears, like a magic trick.

 

[rclark]

@buckthorn

What happened to your positive health changes? And, in relation to that, what size are your
man boobs at this time?

Hope everything is good.

 

[spring15]

FFFF Every time I see a post from you @buckthorn I run around the block 5 times..So much PASSION & enthusiasm entrenched within you. GETS ME PUMPED. LONG LIVE @buckthorn

 

[Emu]

1) the stage when you're hiding it and ALL the stupid f*****g comments made by dumb *** ignorant people.

"you should change your hair style. Maybe grow it out"
-maybe you should venture into my damp, poorly lit basement with this bleach and duct tape and await my arrival, you f*****g fucktard.

or THE WORST THING - When you're sporting the intricate, perfectly-arranged combover and a girl looks right at it and tries to mess it up. "I think it would look better messy". NO b**ch. It will look like the crypt keeper, after swimming in a pool of grease.

2) the feeling.

-when you're shampooing and it feels like there is nothing there. or when you dry it and it feels like sickly, whispy, dying sh*t. or how about when a cool breeze passes over it and goes right through the hair to the scalp. Awesome, f*****g awesome.

3) Lighting.

-enough said. How many "fine dining" restaurant owners have you wanted to just choke out. For me, it's a lot. I mean, seriously, wtf. Does making EVERYONE look like a whorish monster on a first date help your goal of luring in customers.

4) The "uncertainty" and the dreams.

- My dreams are f*****g terrible lately. I don't even want to talk about it. f*** off.

5) THEN.... all the stupid f*****g comments from people when YOU ARE TRYING to deal with it.

- "oh God, why did you buzz your hair.. you should grow it back out!!"
three months earlier - "you should just buzz your hair, it's bothering you. I won't care. no one will."

and people think this sh*t is easy. Like it doesn't completely change the way you look... and if it does, well, oh it's just looks. Seriously, I would rather lose a leg.

I think everyone on this forum has had at least one of the above situations happen to them.. Myself I have had the lot,especially the washing your hair only to feel no hair on top or the harsh restaurant lighting is a shocka. Down lights and thinning hair was my worst nightmare. Just about every establishment I visited with mates the first thing I did was check the lighting out and scope the place for a normally lit lighting so as not to show up my thinning hair. 9 times out of 10 the group would settle under the harshest down lighting as possible.. I hate down lights but that’s all they use these days.. The birds nest looks extremely thin under them..